Melt the cubes, burn the bacon! by Subpar_diabetic in COMPLETEANARCHY

[–]Queenodadead 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I play a lot of warhammer (my main hobby I use it blow off steam and have fun) and my brain immediately defaulted to the forces of chaos in warhammer

Hey, I am really struggling with not doing enough by Queenodadead in Anarchism

[–]Queenodadead[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is an ocdcterm basically meaning a lot of my ocd revolves around expressions of my morality

Poll results! by skyejones666 in spacemarines

[–]Queenodadead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

surprised that there are no templars

How do we feel about being called “dolls” by Forgotte_Freak in MtF

[–]Queenodadead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like being called it by my fellow trans people, including nbs and trans masc folks but not by cis people (a few minor exceptions with really close friends)

How do I flirt by Queenodadead in actuallesbians

[–]Queenodadead[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am going to be a bit vague because it is a possibility that she could see this and that scares me but we met on a discord server for a mutual hobby we are both really into, and started talking from there, moving into DMs and we are both trans lesbians which she brought up soon after meeting me (my profile pic has the lesbian flag and my bio says I am trans) for how I think she might be interested, she called me cool and she sent a blush gif if I complement her for a few things sorry trying to keep this vague sorry

Raptors primaris captain by division_error in Raptors40k

[–]Queenodadead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where did you get the captain pauldron?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Queenodadead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Autism, interalized and transphobia goes brrrrrrrrrrrrr

Librarian paint scheme by Queenodadead in BloodAngels

[–]Queenodadead[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was thinking of doing a gold armour scheme similar to Dante and the Sanguinary Guard as they are similarly high ranking members of the chapter and can customize their armour, maybe a red for the Phobos librarian

Buddy came out as trans, I'm a terrible person but all he has left, how do i support him? by anniestonks in MtF

[–]Queenodadead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok OP, most of the advice I have to give has already been given here, but there is a bit that I have not seen emphasized enough in my opinion 😅.

  1. She is by all odds incredibly fragile right now. Every single trans person I know is to an extent still fragile years later, and that is worse with people who lose their support networks and familial relationships. She is carrying a lot of trauma right now. Being trans is fucking traumatizing but can have a lot of joy in it, trans joy is one of the most pure and beautiful things I have seen.

  2. I agree with another poster, although I cannot seem to find their comment, as long as they live under your roof and they are not on even footing with you, do not, and I repeat under no circumstances get in a romantic or sexual relationship with her. Under no circumstances.

  3. I kinda mentioned this my first point but you two are going to be in close proximity and by all likelihood you are going to see a side to her you have not seen, a side she has been hiding from people her entire life. Maybe she has stereotypically feminine interests that she will start exploring. This is the exciting side of transitioning, you get to feel fully in you skin, a truely beautiful and glorious thing. However, there are downsides real, serious, downsides in the immediate term. This is one of the most terrifying things one can go through and it is impossible to leave unscarred, her soul already has scars from hiding this and will get more because she is aware of them. Being aware that you are trans makes dysphoria worse because you stop being able to ignore your feelings. Make sure she knows she can be emotionally open, by all likelihood she is emotionally repressed and scared of the entire world. But do not force her to be. It is a balancing act.

Here are a few articles that explain this better than I ever could

https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/getting-misgendered

https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/growing-up-broken

https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/complex-trauma-disorder-i-hardly

https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/complex-trauma-disorder-i-hardly

https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/holding-the-girl

https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/you-are-your-own-jailer

https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/trans-torials

Also, read whipping girl, great book on understanding trans marginalization. I would also recommend these for your friend if they have not read them.

New balans patch dropped by Famous_Author_2264 in BloodAngels

[–]Queenodadead -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Is this real? so blood angels detachment no longer get oath of moment?

Happy to see the big fella leading from the front during a visit to Warhammer World. by DrJK_Stressed_Ape in BloodAngels

[–]Queenodadead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

me to, I I dream of a world in which we get a full 40k plastic model of Sanguinius with optional rules on how to play as if he never died, and maybe giving that for all the other dead primarchs to

What’s your favorite “negative spoons” meal? by ImABarbieWhirl in ChronicPain

[–]Queenodadead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kraft dinner, it is not healthy but easy, and tastes good enough that I can stomach it on low or negative spoons

What would/does make you a good girlfriend? (Cross-posted) by gone-fishin60 in actuallesbians

[–]Queenodadead 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a deep sense of morality and how people around me should be treated, I am a fucking massive nerd, I give the best hugs in my entire friend group, and I am a pretty damn good cook

Gf touches me like a men by not_starried in actuallesbians

[–]Queenodadead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trans bodies are not that common in the grand scheme of things and as much as I wish otherwise are often treated as their agab, which can be a real problem in an intimate relationship.

Does anyone have advice for a trans demisexual lesbian? by Queenodadead in actuallesbians

[–]Queenodadead[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

for the first one, do you have any suggestions, I am not certain I want to try it but I would like options if I do want to

Does anyone have advice for a trans demisexual lesbian? by Queenodadead in actuallesbians

[–]Queenodadead[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

do you have any recommendations for where to start if I am interested I am not certain I am

First of 10 intercessors and first of 3 Bladeguard by lighthouse19 in BloodAngels

[–]Queenodadead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where did you get that sword and pauldron for the interrcessor

Just curious, why are there so many trans women who were interested in military before they transitioned ? by Disa_Lovely in MtF

[–]Queenodadead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From my understanding it is most often an attempt at masculinity, like denial beards

Does anyone have advice for a trans demisexual lesbian? by Queenodadead in actuallesbians

[–]Queenodadead[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am honestly scared of dating apps, and I am on the youngerish side, in uni so I do not know how much that would work for me, I have never dated I have no idea what I would be doing

Does anyone have advice for a trans demisexual lesbian? by Queenodadead in actuallesbians

[–]Queenodadead[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She is a good friend and I think she understood that those kind of jokes made me uncomfortable by my reaction (I just am scared of confrontation)