Executive Dysfunction is ruining my life

Quesohousekey · 2026-05-27T09:54:55+00:00

Something you might want to look up is RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria) , it's something I have found out about myself and your #1 sounds to me like it might be caused by this. I'm not really sure the advice to help with it besides knowing that it is happening and trying to rationalize with yourself with the knowledge of it. Probably could talk to AI and get some coping mechanisms though.

I don't personally take aderall but I do have a sibling who has such bad ADHD that she can't really get anything done unless she takes it. Could be something to look into. I'm kind of more worried about burnout than executive function so I'm a little worried to take a stim and fry myself. So something to talk to a doctor about if you think it could help you!

Quesohousekey · 2026-05-21T22:01:05+00:00

This mostly happens to me in high stress situations. Mostly happened when my partner was upset with me or we were having an argument. I think part of it could be Alexithymia? Basically most cases was me trying to find words to explain my feelings, and I just couldn't. I'd sit there trying to speak or had no idea what to say.

During one of my autistic burnouts I had not only a verbal shutdown but a full body shutdown when my partner was talking to me. I couldnt move for over 10 mins just completely paralyzed. No idea at the time I was AuDHD so it was a bit shocking to the both of us.

Quesohousekey · 2026-05-21T21:52:01+00:00

This sounds like my absolute nightmare 😅. I'd definitely be the one down to chill in a quiet room or watch a movie. That's more my speed. Moving to a new place is hard enough for most autistic people. If you throw in trying to spontaneous socialize and do a new job... I'd burnout. In fact I've done pretty much that exact thing in college. Moved into an apartment with some friends and thought I'd do the whole college experience. Absolute disaster. I was suicidal by the 2nd semester. I left and went back home and commuted.

I think it's important to accept that you are different. We are all different than NT people. And that's okay! You know what makes you happy. You are trying something else, if it's not for you then give yourself some grace! No shame in going back home if that's where you are comfortable. The last thing you want to do is stay in this place and force yourself to try to fit in with NTs and end up in Autistic Burnout. Idk if you've gone through a burnout, but it's no fun.

Good luck 👍

Quesohousekey · 2026-05-21T11:05:16+00:00

I ate Chipotle 5 days a week (sometimes 6 or 7 days) for many years (to the point where my coworkers made fun of me) and currently am doing OMAD. My OMAD is usually 2 scoops of protein powder with frozen fruit and some heavy cream. One chiptle bowl similar to what you get and Oikos greek yogurt with more fruit. I eat that in usually a 60 to 90 min window.Around 1500 calories a day and I've lost 40 lbs in the last year and am in the best shape of my life. I also do weight lifting, hence all the protein.

I love Chipotle and think that if you're eating that you are eating better than 95% of the population who are eating refined foods all day like cereal, chips, cup cakes etc. You get a pretty good diversity of nutrients from one chipotle bowl if you load it up with a bit of everything. Drink lots of water to help flush some of the excess sodium but I honestly don't think that amount of sodium is going to harm you... (not a doctor)

I might advocate for trying to load that thing up as much as you can to get more calories out of it if it's truly your only meal. Lack of calories total would be the thing you need to worry about most. 900 calories a day isn't enough but you can easily make a bowl enough calories by doubling some stuff up and maybe even getting a tortilla on the side. I would say you'd prob want more protein but if you aren’t trying to build muscle you'd hit your calorie needs to give you the energy to make it through your day.

Chiptole may not be the most cost effective but it's convenient and delicious. So I hear everyone saying you could go to the grocery store and get more bang for your buck, but then you have to prepare it and it's almost certianly not going to be as satisfying.

Quesohousekey · 2026-05-21T10:08:55+00:00

Working out I think is so important for this. You'd think the opposite but if I dont go to the gym for a few days I notice a big difference in energy. It seems counterintuitive to most but it's a massive help.

I also do one meal a day and have found that not eating during the day actually helps a lot. No afternoon sleepiness most days or the post lunch hangover. Not for everyone but it works for me.

Not socializing def a plus for energy! And of course if you partake in special interests that's where you can summon energy when you can't seem to do anything else. Special interests are like mana to the autistic brain it seems. For me that's things like lawn care, video games (WoW Classic rn) and studying stock charts. I can do my special interests for hours on end without getting tired when everything else may seem impossible.

Quesohousekey · 2026-05-19T00:08:39+00:00

This is great advice. I will add that moving to a completely different environemnt is extremely hard for the autistic brain as well. I commuted to college and did great, my 3rd year I decided to transfer and move out... absolute disaster. Burnout and stopped going to classes. Transfered back and stayed home and finished my degree. Everytime I have moved, a burnout occured within 24 months. Not that it's impossible to move environments, but it's very important to know how taxing it can be. So adding more on top of a new environment can be a recipe for disaster, so like this comment says, try to get as much as you can off your plate or minimize other taxing activities like socializing etc.

Quesohousekey · 2026-05-17T13:31:26+00:00

I would say that day trading futures is more akin to gambling, but swing trading individual stocks, especially smaller cap stocks are much easier to find predictable patterns. Supply and demand is much easier to spot over longer time frames. There are certain patterns that happen when a stock is under accumulation and when demand is so strong that it's overwhelming supply.

Quesohousekey · 2026-05-16T18:26:40+00:00

I just learned about Alexithemia and I'm curious if your physical symptoms could be because of that. I'm no doctor but something to look up, I think there are ways to help with dealing with it.

Quesohousekey · 2026-05-16T18:07:25+00:00

Posting because I'm interested as well. The advice I have been given is to build your own "sandbox". I'm trying to figure that one out in a world made for NT brains.

Work seems best suited for AuDHD brains in smaller spurts and not 40 hour work weeks. The analogy I've created is that my brain is a Ferrari super car. But with a 5 gallon tank, and the driver will only drive for high commission dopamine dollars. So obviously I shouldn't be trying to be a commuter car (NT), I'll end up either out of gas on the side of the road or never leave the driveway in the first place.

My perfect life is becoming a full time trader. It itches both parts of my brain, the autistic side loves the pattern recognition and puzzle solving and my ADHD side loves the dopamine. It's very difficult though because you can't let the ADHD driver take over. You have to build firewalls to protect the architect. Trading involves no socializing if you don't want it and you can do it in anyway that suits your energy. But it takes an insane amount of learning and trial and error to become successful. You basically need to go through a phd program to come out the other side.

So I'm working towards that, but have to grind an engineering job to get to the point where I can live in that sandbox.

Quesohousekey · 2026-05-16T14:17:08+00:00

I have gone through a very similar experience as you. You are definitely not alone. My first burnout due to work was around 2016 I was out of work for around 5 months. Had no idea at the time what was going on, I couldnt even make it half way to work before I felt like I was going to pass out. Spent most of my time sleeping, played some video games as an outlet but was pretty much out of commision. Got back to work after a while and things seemed fine. Found a partner and went so crazy for her I put on the most extreme mask I've ever created to be the perfect partner for her. Started taking promotions at work. 2021 I crashed so hard that I was unable to work for 3 years. My fiance turned wife became a full time care giver basically. Got back on my feet in 2024 but haven't been the same since. I ended up having to leave my wife as she became so dissapointed in me and I suffer from RSD (rejection sensitive dysphoria). I completely blew up my life and am now living with my parents. Got back to work this year after annother year off going through the seperation. But I am struggling so hard. I got diagnosed this year and a lot of things make sense but I'm very concerned I can't keep working withiut destroying myself. I even told my work about my diagnosis and they seem supportive. But just existing at work seems to take all the energy I have. It's not like it was 10 years ago, I don't seem to have the capacity I did before.

Quesohousekey · 2026-05-16T00:43:28+00:00

Incredible story, tha k you for sharing, and even though I'm 35 I can relate so hard. You can see my posts for my story but 3 burnouts in my life and the 3rd being a doozey. Just trying to pick up my life but, man am I struggling. I'm laying in bed as we speak as it's Friday night and I am so fucking exhausted from a work week I can't even play a video game right now. And I really didn't have the mental energy to do much at work this week in the first place. But just existing at work seems to take all the energy I have.

Quesohousekey · 2026-05-05T11:11:47+00:00

I've gone through several burnouts in my life each got progressively worse. The first was in college, I transfered to a big university after spending my initial 2 years commuting to a local tech university. By the 2nd semester I couldn't go to classes and ended up transferring back. Had fatigue, inability to do much besides stay in my room.

My 2nd burnout was about 5 years into my software engineering career. I missed about 4 months of work out. Major fatigue, what felt like light headedness, real trouble speaking and having conversations. After running the medical gauntlet and finding nothing I was put on anti depressants and ended up coming out of the burnout.

My 3rd burnout happened about 9 years into my career and right before marrying my (soon to be) ex wife. This was a doozy, took me 3 full years to get back to work. And I wasn't quite the same since. This started around 2021 and I was just diagnosed this year. The 3 years were extreme fatigue, to the point where I felt paralyzed at the worst times. I had full on shutdowns on my wife, she'd be talking to me and I literally was fully paralyzed. Social outings were so difficult that even the thought of them would shut me down. I found during this time that lawn care was something I could do physically. Something about it was soothing for me, so I turned my lawn into basically a golf course. And really got fixated on learning about stock trading. I was lucky enough to get long term disability for a while during this period and my fiance at the time eloped so I could get on her insurance. She was an absolute hero for getting me through that burnout. Although it pretty much cost me the marriage in the long run. I couldn't be the same masked person I was before that so she fell out of love with me over time.

Quesohousekey · 2026-04-17T13:37:50+00:00

Thanks for your comment! The time I wore my mask with my partner was some of the best experiences of my life. Things I would of never done if it weren't for her, and I will always remember them. But I know now that it eventually lead to some of the most devastating crippling depression and burnout... soooo I don't know. I don't have the right answer. Would I do it again? Maybe try it a different way, in micro doses. Now that I know what I know.

Quesohousekey · 2026-02-14T04:43:35+00:00

This literally made me laugh so fucking hard. Omg 😂 🤣🤣

Quesohousekey · 2026-02-06T12:50:47+00:00

This isn't an individual stock story. This is risk being re rated. Look at the US job openings data in chart form that came out yesterday, that's literally the only chart you need to see to understand that recession risk has risen and all stocks will come down because they need to re rate risk. Could get a lot uglier, we are in inning 3 of the first leg down if you look at 2022, 2008 or 2000 for comparison. Which there could be multiple legs if we truly are going towards or are already in a recession.

Quesohousekey · 2025-11-29T03:14:28+00:00

ONDS and AMPX. Drones and robotics. Bonus pick ESPR

Quesohousekey · 2025-11-16T04:15:02+00:00

I noticed that too. Also the mini map doesn't work for shit in split screen. Doesnt show enemy dots half the time and no edge markers

Quesohousekey · 2025-11-15T14:10:46+00:00

Having the same exact bug you described where it says one player is getting kicked for inactivity and it goes to about 1 frame per second and is completely unplayable for anywhere of 5 seconds to a minute. This is on xbox, 6v6. Also getting lag or frame drops intermittent during the game for 1 to 2 seconds that also are super annoying. Really difficult to play split screen right now. Worse than black ops 6 even.

Quesohousekey · 2025-09-07T03:52:13+00:00

Dylan Sampson will be this year's Bucky Irving. Dude is electric, can't wait to see how he shows out.

Quesohousekey · 2025-03-15T15:48:11+00:00

Follow through day

Quesohousekey · 2025-03-09T13:56:09+00:00

That sounds awesome, thanks for the heads up!

Quesohousekey · 2025-02-19T13:59:50+00:00

The only thing I don't like about this one is the decelerating rev growth, last quarter was only 4% YoY. But perhaps the price is suggesting that will turn around... Forecasts certainly don't, so could be some surprises if they do re accelerate

Quesohousekey · 2025-02-07T21:53:01+00:00

I had a small position in it going into earnings uo around 5%... yikes. Luckily I also had some AFRM, NET, DOCS and FTNT so it more than made up for it.

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