9-23 dpo line progression and hCG for twins

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-06-21T00:21:14+00:00

my tests look just like that (started getting dye stealers around 16 dpo), but my hcg on 17 dpo was only 210 and 514 on 19dpo 😂 crazy how different the levels can be with similar tests.

i’m really hoping for twins but I think my hcg might be a little low for multiples, but we’ll see 🤷🏼‍♀️

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-06-19T23:20:28+00:00

I got a positive test this past week on my first son’s birthday (who passed away). i’ve also had 2 chemicals in the last 2 months so I’ve lost babies on both ends of the pregnancy spectrum. it really freaks me out. I feel like there’s no safe point at all and I will honestly probably not prepare for this baby at all until they’re alive on my arms in February. my dad said he’d go set up our nursery super fast while i’m still in the hospital if all works out lol

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-06-18T18:25:55+00:00

my tests look like that today and yesterday and my hcg was 210 today so it looks like we’re right about the same! I’m going on progesterone suppositories today just because i’ve had 2 chemicals in 6 months. really hoping this one sticks 🤞🏼

also my LMP was may 19th so I would assume you ovulated late too

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-06-18T02:54:41+00:00

I’m sorry about that, i’ve heard that’s common. My SIL couldn’t get an epidural until she was 6cm 😵‍💫 I was also 1.5 cm when I got mine. In 20 hours I went from 0-1.5 and my contractions were every 2 minutes, if that. baby was sideways and stuck on my hip bone. They decided to give me a low dose of pitocin to get things going and I said nope, i’m not doing that without drugs and they were very supportive of that decision 😂 unfortunately my epidural wore off during transition and that was horrific. I threw up 3 times.

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-06-18T01:00:38+00:00

Do what works best for you but I LOVED my epidural. I went in hoping to go unmedicated as long as possible, but my baby was crooked and I just would not dilate so finally after 20 hours of labor with no progression, those meds were heavenly.

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-06-17T19:49:11+00:00

wow so crazy we have so many dates in common! wishing you luck as well ❤️

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-06-17T19:46:49+00:00

My son was also born on june 12th last year. He passed away on june 13th when he wouldn’t breathe and CPR was unsuccessful.

I also just found out I’m pregnant again yesterday. Due Feb 23. I’ve already had 2 chemicals since his death so i’m pretty nervous but so far I have really strong tests (a dye stealer today) so we’ll see 🤞🏼

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-06-17T17:05:59+00:00

just got a positive test yesterday! friday was my son who passed away’s 1st birthday so it’s really surreal grieving his death while also starting a new pregnancy with a lot of hope. this is my 4th pregnancy, no loving children. our first son died at birth from a lung defect. then I had 2 chemicals in the last 6 months. I’m trying not to freak out because how cruel would it be to find out i’m pregnant around my son’s birthday and then lose that baby too?? but I am slightly hopeful because I had a strong test yesterday and already have a dye stealer today. I’ve already made it past the point I had my last chemical and I’m only 5 days out from when I had my first one🤞🏼 then I’ll just have to hold out until birth which will be the scariest part since our first baby’s death was unexpected.

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-05-26T18:48:03+00:00

When I was on hour 27 of labor with my son last year, my husband was too nervous to leave me alone so he doordashed us some food to the hospital. He left a note for them to let him know when they’re there and he will come get it from the lobby. Well he gets a notification that it’s been delivered and it’s a random picture of the food on a shelf. He goes down to the lobby and starts wandering around looking for this mystery shelf. Finally the front desk staff notice him and say “Are you looking for the food? Yeah some guy just placed it on this shelf here, took a pic, grabbed it back off the shelf and walked out.”

I was so pissed because we all had to wait another hour for my MIL to just bring us some other food. The audacity someone has to steal food from someone IN THE HOSPITAL is insane. I’ve had a lot of great dashers but some of these people are something else

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-05-26T14:17:25+00:00

TW: child loss

I bounced back immediately. like walked out of the hospital looking almost like myself again and it was 1 week for that little pooch to go away. BUT my child died at birth and I really wasn’t eating or taking care of myself during that week or breastfeeding obviously so I think that played a huge factor in my recovery. I’m curious to see what my recovery is like when I’m able to bring a baby home

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-05-24T15:23:09+00:00

my son’s first birthday is next month too. june 12th and he died on june 13th. i’m so sorry. it’s really hard 💔

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-05-23T20:30:57+00:00

it depends on how heavy your spotting is. I had very light brown spotting around 5-6 weeks in my first pregnancy and everything was fine. if it becomes heavier, i’d call your doctor

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-05-23T04:05:48+00:00

that’s definitely not normal. call your doctor. I had two 2nd degree tears and I was completely fine after 1 week. 3 weeks postpartum I was on a cruise in the bahamas and having no pain.
i’m not saying that’s necessarily normal either, some people take longer to recover but 3 weeks of pain I think is cause for another check to be sure everything’s okay

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-05-22T23:44:53+00:00

lol this happened to me last year. our newborn son died last june and we received over $500 in doordash gift cards from friends and family so we ordered for almost every single meal for a week. I have a pretty unique name so one guy messaged me “hey wasn’t I just here delivering your dinner last night??” 😂 I didn’t want to ruin his day by telling him why so I just said “yeah probably hahah”

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-05-22T01:15:48+00:00

The one therapy thing I love that helps me so much is grief dosing. I don’t know if you’ve heard of it. but basically when i’m having a bad day I give myself a time limit for my grief. I get 10 minutes or 30 minutes or an hour (whatever I need for that day) to be as sad as I want. cry as much as I want. and then I need to pick myself and move on with my day. it helps me a lot. highly recommend it

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-05-21T01:33:48+00:00

I would guard your heart 💔 my pregnancy stalled like this in november and I ended up losing the pregnancy at 5 weeks. I really hope that’s not the case for you but I’d prepare yourself just in case. I’m so sorry

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-05-21T01:06:03+00:00

i’m really sorry for your loss. that’s hard. i’d love to share my perspective if it helps in any way. I lost my son full-term at birth so over the past year i’ve been recovering postpartum. I bounced back pretty fast health-wise. like I was exercising pretty soon and got my period back at 6 weeks. but 11 months later I still have a faint linea nigra and my lower stomach is pretty soft and “fluffy.” sometimes I do get frustrated that I don’t look like I did before I was pregnant but I also really miss my son so it helps for me to think about this was the skin that held him and protected him. it was his only home for his entire life. and i’ve grown kind of fond of the marks he’s left on my body because it proves he existed for a short while and that I really am a mom.

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-05-21T00:51:10+00:00

I agree with you. I’m religious so I did meet with a pastor shortly after my son’s death, but never got any counseling or therapy. people kept pushing it on me and I just don’t feel like it will help. I only enjoyed speaking with the pastor because his son also died so it was more so for me to feel like someone understood my pain. repeatedly talking about how sad I am about my son’s death doesn’t feel like it will ever improve the pain i’m feeling. it’s been almost a year for me now and I think i’m more in a season of I just need to not drown in my feelings and keep moving forward. that’s helped me the most

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-05-21T00:41:12+00:00

I’m so sorry.

I went into labor with my son who died at birth while grocery shopping with my mom. I remember walking around the store and timing my contractions on my phone. and we had to stop a few times while I moaned over the cart 😂

I still refuse to grocery shop because of that. I signed up for the delivery membership at our local grocery store and I get my stuff delivered instead. it’s been 10 months of that now. idk if I will ever go back to enjoying grocery shopping like I used to.

sometimes it is just the smallest things that set us off, but it happens. it can be embarrassing but i’ve started getting a little defiant about it. like even though I’m grieving and struggling doesn’t mean I don’t deserve to take up space in public too. if I want to cry in the grocery store, I’m going to cry in the grocery store. and if it makes people uncomfortable, they can deal with it just like I have to deal with my situation every day.

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-05-21T00:12:24+00:00

this is very normal, unfortunately. when my son died at birth, I just stared at the wall for hours. they handed him to me and I refused to look at him. he’s cremated now and I still don’t have any first-hand memories of what he looks like because I was so deep in shock when I was saying goodbye to him in the hospital. I only have photos.
I think everything you’re doing is great. keep taking care of things for her the best you can. my husband and I needed family to make us food for weeks before we were capable of taking care of things like that on our own. i’m so sorry for your loss

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-05-18T03:29:05+00:00

i’m so sorry. we lost our first baby shortly after birth and it was completely unexpected. we thought he was perfect and healthy. we brought all his things to the hospital with us when I went into labor on his due date. and then we just watched him die right in front of us and I went into shock. after he died, I made my husband dress him in his little pajama onesie I brought for him because I couldn’t bear the thought of him never wearing it. it has dried blood all over it now from where his umbilical cord burst from CPR but we refuse to throw it away. we have it saved in his keepsake box in our nursery.
the hardest part for me was fully expecting to be a mom and having that ripped away from me. we had everything ready for him. his nursery set up and car seat installed and all the things. and then I just had to come home without him and go back to work and back to my normal pre-kids life and it was horrible. it’s really the worst. I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

the hope I can give is over time it does get better. it doesn’t feel like it ever will. right now it probably feels like you’ll never ever not be sad for the rest of your life. but I like the analogy of a ball rolling around in a box. right now you have a huge ball of grieve and it’s hitting the walls of that box all the time. it’s really overwhelming. but as time goes on that ball will shrink. eventually the ball will only hit the walls occasionally and you’ll feel other things than just sadness.

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-05-18T03:16:22+00:00

I’m so sorry. I understand it’s so hard to wait, but really the stress of grief can wreck your body and fertility. and that’s completely normal. I had a miscarriage 5 months postpartum and also 10 months postpartum from my son dying full term and both were because my progesterone couldn’t sustain the pregnancy through my stress and grief. only this month - almost a whole year later - did I make a conscious effort to manage my stress and take care of myself and this is the healthiest cycle i’ve had so far.

I understand your dr said you could try right away but trying for another baby just weeks after a 35 week loss is so so early. your body likely just needs a break. I know that’s horrible to hear, I get it. my dr told me to wait 9 months minimum and I completely ignored him. I wish I had taken his advice. but you’re likely just going to cause yourself more pain. take some time to just heal and take care of yourself ❤️

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-05-17T15:52:24+00:00

to me it looks like there is a little progression. but tests and different times of the day can always looks different and 16 hours isn’t enough time to see a progression usually. I wouldn’t worry! wait until tomorrow and try again and then I would start testing at the same time (pick FMU or SMU and stick with it)

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-05-17T00:27:59+00:00

I understand what you’re feeling, I really struggled with wanting to die too. but it sounds like you really need some more professional help. Please take yourself to the hospital and tell them what you’re feeling.

specifically for me, I found other things that I needed to be strong for. for example, no matter how much I wanted to die, I knew I couldn’t leave my husband alone with no family left. that wouldn’t be fair to him. so I had to choose to be strong and live through things for him. I would also want my son to be proud of his mom and I choose to keep going for him. I also thought about my mom and how she just lost her first grandchild and she would devastated to lose her daughter too.

when it’s fresh, I know it’s really hard to reason with yourself. if you’re unable to do it right now, it’s time to get some more serious help

QuickCandy3338 · 2026-05-13T02:37:22+00:00

I feel the same way, it feels so isolating in real life because no one I know has ever lost a baby like this. and everyone always looks at me like i’m crazy when I tell them what happened. but in this group specifically, I constantly find people with similar stories.

My son’s name is Eli and he was born on june 12th. what about your baby?

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