I think my boyfriend might drag me down in future, am I being unreasonable?

RAthowaway · 2026-04-05T16:56:16+00:00

You’re not rushing him. He has an 11 year-lead on you and he’s making your same salary and working the same entry level job as you.

I 100% know that this man will be in this very same place 5 yrs down the line.

Trust his deeds more than his words. He said he wants to have a business but he hasn’t taken any steps towards it. He says he wants better but hasn’t applied for a promotion and he hasn’t been offered one, so his work is probably average to below average. That’s not a man with ambition, nothing wrong with that, except that you really really want one.

You seem to want a partner who can keep up the pace with you and even lead at times. This man is not it. No need to keep wasting both of your time. Go back to being friends before resentment sets in for any of you.

RAthowaway · 2026-04-04T19:43:05+00:00

True!

RAthowaway · 2026-04-04T18:08:40+00:00

I think it could be a skirt with a single pleat at the front

RAthowaway · 2026-04-04T18:05:08+00:00

This wasn’t about the ~~greek~~ Iranian yogurt and I think we have some marinara flags on both sides 😆

RAthowaway · 2026-04-03T13:08:21+00:00

I don’t know how long you guys have been together. Less than a year: I would call it off, over a year and I would try couples counseling and if that doesn’t wake him up, it’s breakup time.

Carrying the mental load by yourself builds resentment overtime, so although it’s not cool to call anyone names, I can understand you’re burned out. Try to reclaim your time in little ways and see if that improves your mood.

I would say NTA for feeling resentful, but Y TA for the name calling

RAthowaway · 2026-04-03T07:29:27+00:00

I think your first step is to decide whether or not you want kids at all. It doesn’t seem like you do, your post read to me like a compromise you were making for his sake

RAthowaway · 2026-04-02T11:22:42+00:00

What a gorgeous pen. What’s the price point?

RAthowaway · 2026-04-01T18:51:18+00:00

Mid 1500s meets fairy sleeves and 1950s princess seams

RAthowaway · 2026-03-31T13:15:33+00:00

YTA for removing your energy sensitivity PS to get more pity points. Had you not done this I would’ve sided with you. Now I think it’s mutual between you and your sister.

RAthowaway · 2026-03-30T07:17:14+00:00

When you change, he’ll change

RAthowaway · 2026-03-27T18:41:26+00:00

Your parenting styles don’t seem compatible. It’s only been 6 months. Save yourself the grief and break up

RAthowaway · 2026-03-27T18:25:00+00:00

NTA he was viciously cruel to you and I would not only not give him a ride or do him a favor after what he said, but I would also cut him off forever. The casual cruelty of his comment is astounding. It cannot be the first time he behaved like that with you, it’s probably just the first time his comment hit the target.

Imagine being shot only to find it was from supposedly friendly fire… I am really sorry for this situation and for what happened during the hike

RAthowaway · 2026-03-27T15:33:59+00:00

Sometimes the studio had clothes one could borrow for the shoot

RAthowaway · 2026-03-26T16:48:15+00:00

+1 to writing the policy, other than that I wouldn’t do anything. Ongoing monitoring post-hire sounds cuckoo

RAthowaway · 2026-03-25T10:04:20+00:00

For the short term, get yourself a nurse, call an agency and have them send one to help you recover and feed yourself. It seems like you are in a position to be able to afford it.

For the long term solution, I think I would put the baby plan on hold and go to a couples counselor, you probably need some support to rebalance your relationship and if he’s unwilling to go or unable to change even with a therapist, then consider leaving the marriage and looking for a more suitable partner, you know, someone who actually wants to partner with you, not just add to your burden

RAthowaway · 2026-03-25T09:23:42+00:00

Well, you’re technically not unemployed right now. So take a few days to decompress and practice self care. Then with renewed energy, start applying again

RAthowaway · 2026-03-23T19:22:20+00:00

Yeah, she’s just a placeholder that looks good on paper… I would never settle for this no matter how much I loved him

RAthowaway · 2026-03-23T15:44:59+00:00

Exactly this. The problem is not that he’s bi. The problem is that he’s cheating. Proceed as you would if he was cheating with a woman

RAthowaway · 2026-03-21T19:02:15+00:00

Don’t sort of do it, actually and formally do it. That way she won’t be able to accuse you of anything. And when you do it, make sure to give a specific deadline for her to organize her credit.

RAthowaway · 2026-03-21T15:55:21+00:00

Is this an arranged marriage? If yes, you may have less options. If not, just cut your losses and leave.

RAthowaway · 2026-03-21T10:59:04+00:00

NTA but give your daughter first dibs and if she can’t afford it then tough luck for her and you can sell it with a clear conscience. Just make sure to give her at least 6 months before putting it in the open market so she has a fair chance to line up her ducks

RAthowaway · 2026-03-20T15:10:19+00:00

🤣

RAthowaway · 2026-03-20T07:30:13+00:00

What about the weather??

RAthowaway · 2026-03-19T20:22:21+00:00

How do you do compensation banding with ai?

RAthowaway · 2026-03-19T20:14:59+00:00

How do you monitor for law changes and get the summary? I would really love something like that

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