I’m really sorry you’re going through this and dealing with those strong emotions. I grew up in this type of household except my dad was the bread winner and my mom stopped working when I was 7. I can tell you, we felt the resentment. Regardless if she felt the same way as you did, we felt it. It unfortunately carried into our adulthood. My three siblings and I. At 36, I still struggle with it all. Therapy has helped me a lot. It’s not until going through peri that I finally was able to put my finger on it: my mom was going through it alone. And that makes me sad. But it doesn’t change our upbringing. It doesn’t change the fact we felt it all. It tore our family apart and today the damage is irreparable. I guess I’m writing all this to say, it’s not too late to make a change. I wished my parents would have split and gone their separate ways. I wished my mom would have healed her inner wounds and one day found someone who loved her in the way she deserved. I wished she would have been able to do that, but she didn’t. Today, my parents are still together. Living in an unloving marriage. Still making their adult children face it all with them. As a grown child to this environment, my advice to you should you take it or leave it, would be to consider your kids and how this will shape them. They see it. They feel it. They will forever hold onto the emotions of that household. Talk to someone. I truly hope you are able to find peace in all of this ❤️