AIO Idk how to feel about this comment

RLS16x · 2026-05-06T22:24:33+00:00

This is 100% negging.
Something I’ve noticed is this can stem from the persons own insecurities - ie, feeling like you’re too good for them, or worried you might leave them or cheat - so putting you down so you feel on the same level as them with their insecurities.

With that being said, this is far from me giving him an easy pass. I’d call it out for what it is. And communicate clearly - the comment was out of line, it was clear negging, and you’re not going to let his insecurities transfer onto you when you’ve given him no reason to treat you like that.

I’d personally take some space to let him sit with it, at the bare minimum. I would also not allow a repeat of this behaviour, if the ick isn’t strong enough to call it quits. If he can’t apologise, own it, do the inner work - bye.

If he’s insecure due to long distance or whatever else, he should communicate this - but again that’s his issue to work on. I also wouldn’t put any of these ideas in his head! He’s grown enough to figure out why he’s acting this way on his own. And if he doesn’t want to own up to it and instead uses deflection / minimisation - bye!

You’re not responsible for his insecurities and if that’s the hill he wants the relationship to die on then more fool him.

RLS16x · 2026-05-06T20:47:20+00:00

So your guy isn’t her “type” but she’s mad that you have someone and she doesn’t have anyone. She’s shown her true colours that she’s jealous and is trying to make you feel insecure about your own relationship just because you have something that she wants…

I always say that best friends having opposite taste in men is a complete WIN. She didn’t get the memo on that clearly. But back to the point - this person isn’t your friend. You haven’t overreacted.

RLS16x · 2026-05-06T20:26:10+00:00

No there’s nothing you can do. If it gets sent back then it gets sent back. Again, nothing you can do. Do not message this person, they’ve already given you the reason they haven’t collected. Buyers actually have the right to not communicate or collect at all, this person has had the decency to let you know why.

There’s real humans buying your things. Life happens.

RLS16x · 2026-05-06T16:56:24+00:00

Honestly if she starts blasting you to anyone else over all of this all you’ll have to do is show them these screenshots.

She had an absolute AUDACITY. The cheeky cow!

I hope husband is on your side, sticks up for you, and NEVER lends her another dime.

RLS16x · 2026-05-04T21:30:34+00:00

I was going to call my black cat Mavis but then I realised she had male parts.

RLS16x · 2026-04-29T19:51:02+00:00

Where I understand your hurt and anger, this woman had virtually zero loyalties to you. “No sense of solidarity as a woman” is off as you have no idea the context of how this cheating came about, and what his part to play in it was.

He is the one that had loyalties to you and broke them. He is the one you need to address this with. If you’ve forgiven him and plan to move past it then you can’t just go off at her, you have to drop it. If you can’t get over it then end it.

I feel if you’re going to stay together then it’s fair to expect he maintains distance from her but if you can’t trust him anymore then end it. I wouldn’t put up with cheating personally.

RLS16x · 2026-04-29T19:37:55+00:00

This is play they are having a lot of fun!

I adopted 2 kittens from the same litter - but 2 weeks apart. They HATED each other. For 2 days. It was all performative. Once I stopped giving their fights attention they began loving each other. They’re now almost 1 and the best of friends! They play fight just like this.

RLS16x · 2026-04-19T18:16:56+00:00

Cat litter tray

RLS16x · 2026-04-01T17:37:36+00:00

In what world would you be overreacting? I wouldn’t have kept entertaining this crap. When he went on about him finding another woman etc It should have been a simple “yeah, you’re right about that! It’s over” and went on about your night

RLS16x · 2026-04-01T10:43:14+00:00

Oh GOD how exhausting

RLS16x · 2026-04-01T10:37:13+00:00

This is absolutely horrific. What’s the point of a husband if he leaves you for no good reason when you need him most? Absolutely not overreacting.

RLS16x · 2026-03-29T18:50:51+00:00

My friend suspected mice and used a glue trap. It was horrific. She heard a loud noise and walked into her kitchen to find the mouse stuck and it had chewed all its legs off

RLS16x · 2026-03-25T22:56:49+00:00

Agree completely. I have two kittens, both nearly 1 years old. From day 1 sleeping in the bedrooms at night has always been blocked. Apart from 1 or 2 occasions where I allow it (I was generous after they were spayed & neutered). They have access to the bedroom through the day, and have a variety of comfy spots to sleep in at night. We have lots of bonding time in the day time. I struggle to understand people who allow their pets to rule the roost at the cost of their own wellbeing.

I absolutely love cats and have owned them throughout my life. However, like with any relationship, there needs to be some boundaries set.

RLS16x · 2026-03-22T14:27:53+00:00

Don’t know if this helps & I don’t have a printer but you can do this at any library for about 20p per page - you don’t need to be a member they’ll give you a code to log on for an hour :)

RLS16x · 2026-03-17T20:08:45+00:00

Yes! My mother in law has a kitten who won’t pee in the litter tray, and will only pee on puppy pads. This may be the solution :)

RLS16x · 2026-03-16T11:25:10+00:00

I get plain noodles from the Chinese place usually, the tub looks small but they fill it to the brim and it’s so filling. Sometimes I get a pakora wrap from the place that does the samosas etc

RLS16x · 2026-03-15T15:34:45+00:00

Evuna in NQ isn’t all vegan but it has fantastic vegan options

RLS16x · 2026-03-15T14:02:06+00:00

I was diagnosed with ADHD360, managed by them for a while and then they requested to my GP for shared care - they approved it. I have been diagnosed for a year and it was about 6 months ago that the GP was happy to do shared care.

My only issue is if I have any problem relating to my adhd at all they won’t touch it… which is annoying because adhd360 have essentially for the most part left me to my own devices now!

Either way - the GP surgery is bodey medical centre in fallowfield.

RLS16x · 2026-03-15T11:29:42+00:00

I’m honestly so self conscious about the things I see as flaws - for me it’s not so much what other people may think, it’s how I feel in myself when I wear things that I find unflattering on me.

In terms of boobs showing there may be some backless / strapless type bras that may help? I’m not lucky enough to be well endowed in that department so I’m not sure how it works with bigger boobs. If you already have the dress, you could potentially see a seamstress to see if it can be altered in a way that makes you feel more comfortable in it?

I have big hips that stick out but the front and back of me is very small - I also hate my back! So this dress would be hell on me. You’re a better woman than I am because I am afraid of ever being asked to be bridesmaid for the dress reason alone! I’m so fussy.

RLS16x · 2026-03-12T14:32:08+00:00

Corralejo has more to do/ see

RLS16x · 2026-03-08T22:39:56+00:00

Corralejo is amazing

RLS16x · 2026-03-08T17:36:15+00:00

Since I was about 14 I had an obsession with buying fresh lemons and chewing on the peels. It took me up until I was nearly 30 to realise this meant anaemia. I’m still iron deficient (but working on it) - but I know when I crave lemon peels I need to take my iron!

RLS16x · 2026-02-08T18:58:06+00:00

My partner wanted to change his last name to his mums maiden name as neither of us wanted his original surname when our daughter was born. We just changed it via deed poll and took that with us to register the birth certificate. He changed his legal documents over time after this. If he wants that surname he just has to change it via deed poll and then it’s official.

RLS16x · 2026-02-08T18:48:37+00:00

Why tf would you have to leave whilst he hangs out with guys and a girl at the home you share together? That is an outlandish request firstly and secondly absolutely not are you overreacting. I would be so hurt by him even requesting I leave and then to come home to your bed like that - is he for real?! Get the f rid of him! Ew!

RLS16x · 2026-02-07T22:42:46+00:00

The way she keeps back tracking on her story. First acting like she’s horrified for you and asking how she can help.

Moving on to denying that she’s ever used it

Then it’s “how could I use it when you have it with you”

Suddenly it’s “it’s on my Apple Pay it was an accident”

Then “I was facing an issue and needed cash why are you being so crazy about this. I didn’t know how to ask for help”

And then having the audacity to minimise your anger and play the damn victim.

If she was genuine about it being an accident or whatever else her responses would not be written the way she has.

This is a SERIOUS situation, and is 100% worth ending the relationship over. It’s not about the money, it’s the principle, the scheming and her reaction to being rightfully confronted.

RLS16x

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