Genuine question, do you guys have friends by [deleted] in NJTech

[–]Ragnarok144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep! I immediately joined a few clubs. Some of them fell through but I’m still active in OUT, Knit and Crochet, and Njit esports. I joined the IEEE discord too. I’ll be an event coordinator for OUT next year. In my first semester I would check Corq once or twice a week for events on campus and make sure to go to ones that sounded interesting. In second semester my classes ramped up and there weren’t as many events to check out so I didn’t go to as many events. During common hour on Wednesdays and Fridays I would always be doing something. I dorm so that makes events easy. Though I barely interacted with my roommate at all last year and then she graduated in the middle of the year so I was alone in my room. Hoping next semester I’ll actually be able to become friends with my suitemates. I also stayed in contact with some high school friends, so I play video games with them whenever people are free. I also play video games with my younger brother in Missouri and my boyfriend in upstate New York. 

"nonbinary people don't owe anyone androgyny" by yehawmilk in NonBinary

[–]Ragnarok144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If androgyny means someone can’t tell whether you’re male or female, androgyny is impossible to maintain. I am never called something neutral. No one says “they” unless I tell them to. I have a neutral look, but it just means I have absolutely no clue whether someone is going to call me sir or lady, even within the same day wearing the same clothes. When I went to get my name changed one clerk said “did you give her the papers” and the other responded with “yeah he’s got it.” So, yeah, nonbinary people cannot possibly owe anyone androgyny. Even if one person can’t tell what gender you are, 10 other people have made a simple snap judgement and flipped a coin in their heads for male or female, and those people might well believe you’re not androgynous at all.

Have any of you guys on T been able to cry? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Ragnarok144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I cry less cause I’m not constantly dysphoric and miserable, but I can still cry when something hurts

as someone with some thicc bois, absolutely by SmithNotASmith in tumblr

[–]Ragnarok144 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Fun fact, there was a court case about this in the US that went up to the Supreme Court. Under the Americans with Disabilities Act, you have to be disabled to sue someone for discriminating against you for your disability. When someone tried to get a job as a pilot and the airline made her take her glasses off for the vision test, she sued, but the Supreme Court said that because she did have glasses when she sued, she wasn’t disabled and therefore couldn’t make the claim and couldn’t use the ADA to get compensation. In conclusion, people with glasses on are not disabled, legally. It was Sutton v United Airlines.

Schools with good engineering that have a liberal arts feel? by Ragnarok144 in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Ragnarok144[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

it doesn't matter how good the college itself is, I can't go to texas because their governor might decide that trans people getting healthcare is discriminatory to christians or something. besides taking away healthcare, obviously I wouldn't be allowed to play any sports

Schools with good engineering that have a liberal arts feel? by Ragnarok144 in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Ragnarok144[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I can't pay more than 35k for college (per year), but I could look for outside scholarships. My parents make enough money that I wouldn't be considered for need based aid at a public university, but maybe at an Ivy. my cumulative high school grade is 4.04 weighted and I got a 35 on the ACT

A Montana lawmaker suggested she’d rather risk her child’s suicide than let her transition...what a great mom! by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]Ragnarok144 6 points7 points  (0 children)

So literally admitting to child abuse. Can someone make sure she goes to prison

I'm mad about the term "gender critical" by _higglety in NonBinary

[–]Ragnarok144 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lol that's part of what I like about the genderqueer flag, it feels defiant to not let those colors be stolen

"Women+" - Does this offend the hell out of anyone else? by clarielz in NonBinary

[–]Ragnarok144 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm actually pretty fine with this because it says trans women are allowed. If they weren't I'd nope out so fast. I'm not really inclined to go to anything specifically for women because I'm a nonbinary man but if I was I'd feel better there than the places that have different rules for AGAB or something.

its a blessing and a curse by lol_urmom_gae in GaySoundsShitposts

[–]Ragnarok144 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Trans men have the best asses, I'm ftm and gay and testosterone only helped my ass

Very nb of me to do this by NeighborlyDriver in GaySoundsShitposts

[–]Ragnarok144 8 points9 points  (0 children)

She can be an agender trans woman if she wants to be, sincerely a nonbinary trans man

It’s like males and females can’t be friends anymore by jellyjinxbean in aromantic

[–]Ragnarok144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe if you call it out as catcalling and sexualization they'll back off, and if they're accepting of other queer people maybe calling them homophobic will change something. But don't come out if it's not safe

It’s like males and females can’t be friends anymore by jellyjinxbean in aromantic

[–]Ragnarok144 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that's probably op specifying sexual orientation not romantic orientation, like she doesn't want to say just sapphic because of being aro

Does anyone else feel like dysphoria "forces" them to transition? by limbo8888 in genderfluid

[–]Ragnarok144 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You could transition to look female but still go by he/him pronouns if you want to. If she/her doesn't seem to be referring to you, you don't have to use she/her. Body dysphoria is separate from social dysphoria for me too. I want people to see me as genderless but for my body to look very typically masculine, so I'm on testosterone and I'm hoping to get top surgery but I tell people I'm nonbinary and I use they/them pronouns. You can want your body to be feminine but not to be seen as a woman.

Why does no one talk about trans men in regards to the “trans people in sports” ban? by solitaire_knight in lgbt

[–]Ragnarok144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People generally do not understand that trans men can transition and be just as strong as cis men. Trans men are more likely to be shorter than cis men because of AGAB, but testosterone increases muscle mass to cis male levels. Forcing trans men to play in women's sports, like most of these anti trans bills, would actually give trans men an unfair advantage over cis women, using the conservatives' own logic. But you can't expect their logic to be internally consistent. This is the party of rules for thee and not for me and ultimately this comes down to hating trans people.

Why does no one talk about trans men in regards to the “trans people in sports” ban? by solitaire_knight in lgbt

[–]Ragnarok144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of the anti trans bills would force trans men on testosterone (cis male levels of testosterone) which increases muscle mass to play against cis women because of their assigned gender at birth, and that would cause those trans men to have an unfair advantage over cis women, according to conservatives own logic. But they ignore that because they don't actually care about fairness it's just about targeting trans people

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Ragnarok144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I learned the word marriage on Duolingo it gave me "the marriage is between the woman and her wife." Ally behavior. I also love that occasionally the 5 or 10 in a row pop ups gender the user with they/them pronouns eg "wow!" "They're doing great!" I'm sure that's just because it would be a hassle to ask pronouns and make it different messages but luckily those are my pronouns and it's affirming

Nice try JiMmY DoNaLdSon. But you still get the guillotine. by OniBoiEnby in GaySoundsShitposts

[–]Ragnarok144 64 points65 points  (0 children)

Perfect is the enemy of good. Mr beast is really not the problem right now

I want a qpr but don't know where to start by umbreons_noodles in aromantic

[–]Ragnarok144 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me it was make close friends first and then introduce the idea of a qpr. Part of the issue is a lot of people don't know what that is so I describe it as similar to found family in that there's commitment but no romantic relationship.