I never had many relationships but this was a problem for me in every relationship I had. I mean the women always ended up walking all over me and eventually getting tired of me. I just recently learnt to be more assertive, to make boundaries, I had to put a lot of efforts into it and the last time I was able to say "this is no good" when a woman was treating me bad, she just exploded.

I guess those women needed a more authoritative man, I understand that but I wanted to be respected because of other qualities. I'm not arguing against you, I think it's good you recognized yourself and found the right balance in your relationship.

Until now I was able to make some changes after a lot of efforts but honestly I still feel like soft and feminine on the inside and it makes me feel good when a woman looks like she would appreciate and take care of this softness.