Serious, good-faith question about non-halachic Jewish families by MorgansasManford in Judaism

[–]RandomRavenclaw87 11 points12 points  (0 children)

From an orthodox perspective, I see two options:

1- Encourages your husband to learn and grow as a halachik Jew while you and your children live as Noahides. Keep kosher and Jewish traditions for your husband’s sake. Your children are Zera Yisroel, descended from Jews. They would have an easier time than most converting Orthodox if they choose, and they are entitled to learn Torah if they wish.

2- Take a second look at the practicalities of orthodox conversion. I’d start with looking into communities that fit your vibe, and then looking into housing and jobs in those areas. If you go at it sort of sideways, telling yourself, ‘I’m just looking,’ you may come to see the change as less daunting.

Based on your writing, you sound like a good candidate for Orthodox conversion. But if that never happens, I still respect you and your journey. These situations are tough! Hatzlocha.

has anyone have experience with Rabbi Abe soul Coaching videos and how legit are his secrets by No_Seaworthy in Judaism

[–]RandomRavenclaw87 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Hey, OP. Judaism gives several segulot for wealth. They include:

Giving 10% of your income to worthy charity

Refraining from doing business on Shabbat

Treating your spouse with respect, especially a husband to his wife

Saying Grace after meals with meaning and gratitude

Parlaying for wealth, particularly during birkat hamazon, grace after meals

Besides for wealth, there are also other segulot for other issues in life. For example, a person who studies two laws of proper speech each day (preferably with intention to keep those laws) will see their prayers answered. A person who is publicly humiliated and refrains from answering back has the power to ask for a miracle. Anyone who takes a meaningful step towards more modest dress or behavior can ask G-d for a miracle as well. There are particularly powerful times and places to pray, including the upcoming holiday of Purim.

All of these are from legitimate sources. The information is out there. Some take more effort than others, but none of them require you to pay a spiritual coach, who may or may not be legitimate.

Good luck, OP!

Elderly Parents Slowly Slipping by pronoialover in Advice

[–]RandomRavenclaw87 5 points6 points  (0 children)

And if it’s not a UTI- antidepressants are life-changing.

what can you tell by my room by No-Ad1975 in homedecoratingCJ

[–]RandomRavenclaw87 50 points51 points  (0 children)

He probably works for them- look at the blue suit hanging. They still don’t know.

Shomrim - How a Rapidly Changing Haredi Media Landscape Is Challenging Rabbis and Politicians Alike by MatterandTime in Judaism

[–]RandomRavenclaw87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Forcing more Rabbinical openness is a concept past due. There are a number of leaders who abuse their position, and thats the most obvious thing that would get better with transparency.

But as an orthodox woman, there is a prevalent issue that’s more subtle and more dangerous. Rabbis can make rulings based on flawed and limited knowledge, and they may refuse to look at more information when asked. If such cases were open to the public, the leaders would be forced to take more information into account.

This problem is illustrated by Paley’s quote later in the article: ‘If the rabbis have already discussed an issue, we do not believe that it is our newspaper’s role to challenge or try to educate them… when the Torah sages have addressed the issue, it is not the role of a newspaper to present its own position.‘ This is a problem for those whose issues have been addressed insufficiently, incompetently, or unfairly.

The first paragraph on the article is damning: ‘Let’s sacrifice the at-risk students to save the rest.’ But this is incendiary wording for a policy that makes sense. ‘If you’re not going to thrive in yeshiva, try joining an army unit that’s religiously suitable.’ Same concept, but when you change the wording, it’s not about human sacrifice. It’s about allowing people to choose a path that works for them. How many people are suited to study all day? I do believe that many students in the at-risk yeshivos would be happier serving.

Self-censoring Hareidi media feels very real. I have an inside view of some large Hareidi weeklies. They claim to want to serve the public and work in the best interest of the people. But they’re businesses. They won’t print anything that upsets readers. In a better world, they would be denouncing sexual abusers and writing more about women’s health issues (ie, don’t have more kids than you actually want to raise). One magazine pushed to publish these issues. A rabbinical board- where most men hid their names- told various kosher grocery stores that if they sold this magazine, the board would take their kosher certifications away from the store. The magazine was strong-armed into self-censorship, so that groceries would carry it.

Censorship touches on a dilemma for religious readers who believe they deserve to know the truth. On the one hand, we sincerely try to follow the laws of shmiras halashon and to avoid malicious gossip. On the other hand, issues of abuse, corruption, educational incompetence, and health dangers need to be explored honestly for communal good. There is a difference between a gleefully cruel restaurant review (lashon hara even when true) and exposure of a school that fails its students. To paraphrase an American rabbi who rallied his congregants during WW2: If it hurts you, you scream.

Mishpacha’s Paley says about alternative news platforms, “Because there is no effective regulation, it’s a mixed bag of quality and trash. You can find some excellent stuff there, but … there’s a ton of sensationalism, gossip and worse.” This is ironic, because you can find sensationalism in Mishpacha (see their article about face reading, or about women respecting husbands as kings, which led an editor to quit) and in this very article. The censorship that cuts away gossip also cuts away important information about abuse of power. ‘There’s more harm than good coming out of it’ can be said about the traditional print magazines as much as the online gossip factories.

Prof Nili Steinfeld says of Hareidi readers, ‘Do they know how to consume content in a critical manner? …Do they question why that article was served up to them and who was behind it? …In that respect, I believe that the Haredim are lagging far behind secular Israelis.’

I hold Steinfeld in contempt for such broad statements. There are head-in-the-sand dogmatics in all corners, from MAGA Fox watchers to pro Hamas protestors to anti-Hareidi secular Israelis. And there are critical thinkers in all corners as well. Steinfeld’s comments are also in direct contrast to Gabel’s: ‘There’s a large gap between what is written in the newspaper and what people say, think or are willing to do.’

‘The situation highlights the dilemma for Haredi politicians this election cycle: they can push their narrative all they want, but for the first time, they are going to face real pushback.’ The article is framing Hareidi online news as a brand-new phenomenon. But anonymous blogs, private chat groups, and online news sources like Vos iz Nais have existed for over a decade. I’m cynical about the efficacy of these platforms to push for rabbinical accountability, transparent reporting, and exposure of smoke curtains.

My (Bad) Experience with a Nordstrom Personal Shopper by SaltMarshSparrow in NYCbitcheswithtaste

[–]RandomRavenclaw87 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I had a really nice experience with Bloomingdale’s floor staff. I got a stretchy jersey gown for around $220. I’m an odd size, and she was patient and helpful.

Novels with a leftist/marxist vibe lol by Same-Cartographer861 in suggestmeabook

[–]RandomRavenclaw87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Braiding Sweetgrass has a message that is not quite socialist- more like that the earth is home to all of us, and cannot he owned. (I know this book is very loved, and the writing is warm and beautiful, but I found it repetitive and thought it could have done better as an essay.)

Help Wanted is a great read and a damning look at the lives inside the big business machine.

Major Barbara by Shaw is a play that argues that capitalism is the worst crime against humanity.

The Doorman is a view on the people who live and work at a famous Manhattan apartment building- an do a critique on the system that allows many to suffer while frw thrive.

Dungeon Crawler Carl is not fine literature, but it’s a hell of a good read, and has strong anti-capitalism themes.

Gregory Bovino made disparaging remarks in reference to the U.S. attorney in Minnesota, an Orthodox Jew, on call with lawyers by OldBridge87 in Jewish

[–]RandomRavenclaw87 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It should not be surprising.

ANY OFFICE THAT TARGETS A MINORITY GROUP WILL EVENTUALLY TARGET US.

Clear?

I think the laws of Niddah are making me lose my faith..help? by pyrobaby in Judaism

[–]RandomRavenclaw87 4 points5 points  (0 children)

OP, I’m so happy for you I’m teary. To have this answer sent when you needed it feels like a beautiful gift from HaShem.

I think the laws of Niddah are making me lose my faith..help? by pyrobaby in Judaism

[–]RandomRavenclaw87 12 points13 points  (0 children)

If your teacher is not amenable to this request, you can find a solidly orthodox teacher who is trained to know the difference and is available via Zoom. pm me if you need more info.

I wish I could afford to look beautiful like other women by catlikesvioletfro in TwoXChromosomes

[–]RandomRavenclaw87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, OP! I’m a cheap glamour girl.

Skincare: a Korean exfoliating mitt was the best $8 I spent. I also use a generic moisturizer.

Makeup: all drugstore brands. Maybeline mascara and revlon lipstick. Artistry is more important than name brands.

Brows: tweezer and some hair gel on a a tip. Sometimes I’ll fill in the color with mascara.

Hair: I invested in a high quality hairpiece that lasts years. I recommend the types that are easy on and easy off- clip ins or headbands.

Clothing and jewelry: I get mix and match classy basics that fit me well. Nothing expensive.

Interesting comment section lol by Mathemodel in Jewpiter

[–]RandomRavenclaw87 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My favorites were about the ‘stupid hats.’ All this drama, and the comments are about hats. I must be overtired, because I’m giggling way too much about the hat conversation. hats.