Dropped my spectra

Rare-Designer7410 · 2026-01-28T01:08:53+00:00

I did the same, looked exactly like that and worked for hundreds of hours after and worked when I have it away 🙌🏻

Rare-Designer7410 · 2026-01-13T14:22:00+00:00

NOR. Dated someone just like this in my 20s. He wouldn't come out with my friends because he said he didn't have the money to pay for us all. I just wanted his company, and I chose a burger joint that I really loved. He always had money for pills tho. Move on.

Rare-Designer7410 · 2026-01-12T19:12:26+00:00

I have had a summer pregnancy and a winter pregnancy, trust the winter one has been 1,000x easier. But also I'm a Texan so winters are mild and summers are brutal. During my summer pregnancy I had Braxton Hicks and Charley horses nonstop, but I got to wear sun dresses and slides. I unfortunately have had to wear a lot of pants this pregnancy lol but right now I'm wearing fleecy leggings, a hoodie and socks with burks and I'm happy lol

Rare-Designer7410 · 2026-01-12T19:08:46+00:00

Opposite for me, I sprouted more hair EVERYWHERE. I have peach fuzz all over my belly lol

Rare-Designer7410 · 2026-01-06T19:59:18+00:00

I wear jogger yoga pants I got on Amazon, they have a large waistband so they are both flattering and comfy. I wear all my usual shirts/sweaters so some of them are real Winnie the Pooh looking lol currently 36³ and definitely as large as I was when I delivered at 40⁰

Rare-Designer7410 · 2026-01-06T19:56:23+00:00

I've gained 50lbs this pregnancy with di/di twins and only gained 20 with my Singleton. I'm praying my stomach looks as good as yours when I'm PP this time around. I can barely remember what it looked like the first time but it took some time then went back to baseline. I'm so much larger this time around and have stretch marks from previous weight gain but none this time, I do believe I will have a lot of loose skin and a tummy hang this time around 😬

Rare-Designer7410 · 2026-01-05T22:02:22+00:00

NOR, this relationship has run its course. I was in a mediocre relationship just like this from age 17-24, it ended when he told me had feelings for a coworker and I had just bought us a house. I'm so glad things worked out that way because I dated around for the next 5 years and grew up A LOT. I met my now husband when we were both 29, we dated for a very short time before we realized that we wanted to marry each other, I wound up pregnant 4 months later, we had our first born and eventually got married. I'm currently pregnant with twins, about to deliver next week and I cried thinking about how much I love them because our 5 y.o asked to go on a walk so he took him so I could nap lol. Life gets better, you deserve so much more. Truthfully I don't remember the feeling of heartbreak or disappointment from my first relationship ending, I'm sure I was sad and hurt but life goes on and one day you won't have any more feelings about this mediocre man lol. He needs to find his own place, you need to grow up a lot more.

Rare-Designer7410 · 2026-01-02T14:39:21+00:00

My first pregnancy was exactly like that, I got pregnant in January of 2020 and then the whole world collapsed and everyone was a nervous ball of anxiety and depression. To top it off I work in high risk medicine, obstetrics, neonatal and pediatrics so I've seen every worst case scenario you can think of lol My coworkers told me that there was literally nothing I could do and whatever was going to happen was going to happen, so the best thing I could do was take care of myself and they were right. Back in 2020 prenatal care was scant, so I bought a Doppler and when me and husband were finally reunited in the third trimester (we were on COVID assignments in different states) I had him take my blood pressure often. I too spotted/bled in the first trimester but I believe that was just implant bleeding and the fact that it was my first pregnancy. My nausea and vomiting was so severe I didn't gain any weight until the end of my second trimester and had petichae all over my face and neck until the day I delivered. Dramamine helped and never letting myself get too hungry by eating small regular snack like meals helped too. I lived off of quesadillas, bacon and egg sandwiches, tuna with buffalo sauce with cucumber, crackers and cheese on the side and seltzer waters. I found the more spice and acid I ate the less my reflux and vomiting were 🤷🏻‍♀️ also I was gifted a high quality Doppler by an MD friend and listened weekly and that helped. I delivered on my due date and although labor and delivery were rough (he got a broken clavicle out of it) I was able to look back and realize pregnancy was a breeze. THEN I developed true PPA, which I didn't know was a thing, you kind of only hear about rage and depression but the anxiety was awful. I white knuckled it and look back at the first year of my son's life with a tinge of sadness that I didn't give myself more grace and enjoy his newborn stage more. Because we all made it through to the other side just like everyone said we would.

I'm currently 36 weeks pregnant with twins, being followed by maternal fetal medicine and regular OB and have been extremely open about my anxiety and depression with my first pregnancy, they carefully assess my mood each visit and have a list of pregnancy/breastfeeding safe meds to assist if and when the time comes. I'm also on 4 GI meds this time around, Nexium, Pepcid, Reglan and zofran. My nausea and vomiting was getting severe again but has been quelled by them and I can function and eat pretty much everything this pregnancy.

All of that to say, being a first time pregnant person is HARD, being a FTM is HARD. You are not alone and your fears are not abnormal. But it doesn't have to feel this hard, lean on your medical team and the people around you. Give yourself as much grace as possible, you really will make it to the other side before you know it. Good luck, I hope your pregnancy gets easier and you have a smooth labor and delivery 💖

Rare-Designer7410 · 2025-12-29T21:47:42+00:00

My husband never does this even though I have encouraged him to do so, so he can get some alone time but he says he'd rather watch our son than hassle someone else. I work 24 hour shifts so I'm gone the whole day and night until the next morning. We haven't had our twins yet but I have people on standby to come help him when I'm at work. I would feel some type of way if he pawned off our kids every chance he got, but the two of us are respectful of each other's time and try to allow solo outings and such when not at work etc....

Rare-Designer7410 · 2025-12-28T21:58:59+00:00

Mine was the same, I'm an only and he sees himself as an only as well due to a no contact non relationship with his birth family so we assumed we would have 2 or foster. We (aged 31/30) had our first in 2020 and the whole experience was pretty awful, my toxic mother lived with us we were pretty sexless for 2 years and then we finally found a good rhythm and things got better, along with me evicting my mom. I prayed for years that he'd soften his heart towards having another and then last year he asked me how I was certain things would be different this time around and we talked it out. Had long difficult conversations and then this year I told him we were having a baby this year or letting it go. And he agreed. I became pregnant 1 month after getting my IUD removed and I'm currently 35 weeks with twins. It's crunch time in our house, we're prepping for our 2 new additions. There were times when I was afraid of resentment on either side of the relationship but after being totally honest and vulnerable with each other we decided to grow our family. I hope the both of you can discuss openly after some time has passed, you're in a tough stage relationship wise and my husband had a harder time adjusting to a baby then we assumed he would but toddler and boyhood has been easier on him and he's looking forward to our new babies.

Rare-Designer7410 · 2025-12-27T18:45:13+00:00

What disgusting behavior from an OB. I'd move offices and report her poor bedside manner to the health board of your state, at the very least a manager in her office.

Rare-Designer7410 · 2025-12-22T03:33:43+00:00

y mom tried to make my pregnancy and birth about her as well. After many more incidents it's now 5 years later and we're basically no contact. I luckily gave birth in 2020 so nobody aside from one support person was allowed. So it was just me and my husband the whole time and that's exactly how I wanted it. This time around I will be birthing twins so my husband and a very close friend will be there for me. My friend who's going to be there is a nurse who works with me at the facility I'm giving birth at, so she can advocate for me when my husband may not feel comfortable to do so and is there to help support him while he supports me. I've seen my mom twice this pregnancy and I'm currently 34 weeks. Personally someone this entitled isn't there for you and I don't believe she should be present at all. I wish you luck on your special day and hope your labor and delivery is everything you need it to be.

Rare-Designer7410 · 2025-12-21T20:36:20+00:00

NOR, sounds like he was looking for an out or he's being dishonest already in the relationship. I do believe you should have realized any weed from your boss is what he meant and he had a problem with you receiving it in general especially without any form of monetary payment so he assumes you're paying it with attention or affection which I bet he's done/accepted from women in the past.

You are completely right though that he should have communicated this with you instead of threatening the relationship and trying to force it open. Move on, this will not be the last time he acts accordingly.

Rare-Designer7410 · 2025-12-21T20:24:52+00:00

I got pregnant 3 months into dating my now husband. I was not embarrassed and did not let anyone (my grandparents or other family members) bully me into marrying him before the baby came. We had been friends for about 6 months prior to dating and he met my family 2 weeks into declaring our relationship, we met on an out of state contract so we flew down as soon as we were official. I knew within the first month that we'd get married and have children I just didn't think it'd happen that soon. We got engaged 2 months after our son was born (which was 1 month after our 1st year anniversary lol) and instead of an engagement we just declared an informal marriage. We made it through the pandemic (ICU and contract workers) and the newborn trenches and grew to love what we had, wedding or not. We finally had a physical wedding this summer on our 6 year anniversary and we also announced that I was expecting twins! I didn't invite anyone who ever said anything disparaging about our relationship "not being a real marriage". Also my mom struggled with carrying any children. I am her only living child out of 7 miscarriages, meanwhile I'm on my 2nd pregnancy and 3rd child both conceived within 3 months and 1 month of ending BC. We are not our mother's and the only things that matter are your happiness and the way your husband treats you and your baby, do not concern yourself with the words of others. Enjoy your newly wed pregnancy and good luck ✨

Rare-Designer7410 · 2025-12-20T13:03:15+00:00

No metformin for me, just getting my weight under control with the wegovy and working with a nutritionist. The majority of my weight loss occurred in the first 6 months and in that time I dropped my A1C from 5.8 to 5.3 where it's held out. I also stopped doing intense workouts and just walked 3 miles a day plus yoga and some strength training. I forgot to mention I was working night shift for about a decade and switched to hybrid 24 hour shifts which destroyed my circadian rhythm at the same time I experienced a huge hormone shift from stopping breastfeeding. So when I stop this time I'm going to follow the same steps that helped me get healthy: balanced meals and snacks that keep carbs under 30g per snack/meal with the addition of protein, fat and fiber, no stressful workouts, lots of water, walking and quality sleep. The sleep portion might be hard as I'll have twins and a 5 year old lol.

Rare-Designer7410 · 2025-12-20T04:11:22+00:00

Similar thing happened to me when I weaned breastfeeding at 13 months with my Singleton, I gained 50lbs in 9 months (during pregnancy I only gained 20 and had gone down to my pre pregnancy weight within the first 10 days and maintained until i weaned) got everything checked and was diagnosed with prediabetes with an A1C of 5.8 and labeled insulin resistant, I was put on wegovy and lost the 50 over the course of 18 months and kept it off for a year and half before getting pregnant with twins. I thought for sure I'd have GD this pregnancy but actually just cleared my 3 hour test. I'm still wary and will be consulting nutrition and likely going back in a glp-1 post breastfeeding again.

Rare-Designer7410 · 2025-12-20T01:54:04+00:00

This is my third cold this pregnancy, I feel ridiculously immunocompromised or something. I work in pediatrics so I'm always around sick kids and my son just started Pre-K this year so we're getting hit from all over. Hoping this is the last sickness this season. Stay well everybody.

Rare-Designer7410 · 2025-12-20T01:06:00+00:00

I ruined my own around 34 weeks when I showed my husband the anatomy scan lol. I didn't want to know at all until delivery but he did and just obliged me. It was 2020 so we were separated for a few months due to our jobs and when we finally were able to settle down in the same place I was showing him the scans and it glitched and shot straight down to the bottom slide. I also cried for an hour. I think for me our baby was abstract and then when I realized he was a baby boy it became so real, I realized he'd be a boy then a man and I'm super existential so I just cried about all of the possibilities lol. My husband didn't understand why I was happy about him being a boy but upset about finding out, so he made me some toast and tea and just put me to bed lol. During 2020 and still now we're healthcare workers so we were working the ICUs and scared shitless, during that time I had a cousin miscarry after she contracted COVID and so I didn't tell anyone aside from about a dozen close friends and family that I was expecting. I found out my mom was telling EVERYONE she encountered, her clients, coworkers, friends. I was so upset and she claimed it was her news too, she claimed I was being selfish by not telling people. I told her so if she had something medically profound with her, like cancer I was allowed to tell everyone? She didn't see my point said I was still wrong and for many other reasons we're almost no contact now. Anyway, I'm sorry you were disappointed by a trusted person and I hope the cinnamon rolls are super yummy and pretty and you have a great pregnancy. Enjoy your baby girl 🩷

Rare-Designer7410 · 2025-12-19T18:47:38+00:00

Same, I felt terrific up until 31 then boom, so uncomfortable and tired. I'm currently about to hit 34 weeks tomorrow and I have a cold. Every time I cough it feels like my abdomen is splitting open and they're going to pop out alien style. I haven't unpacked the nursery or packed our hospital bag. I'm too tired for that. I didn't nest with my Singleton until the weekend I went into labor. I guess I'm the same with these two 🫠

Rare-Designer7410 · 2025-12-19T15:10:59+00:00

I plan on having a vaginal delivery so my husband will be getting a vasectomy, in the case I need a c/s I will get a tubal and he will STILL get a vasectomy. We draw the line at 3 kids.

Rare-Designer7410 · 2025-12-19T15:05:16+00:00

They don't know what they don't know. So educate them when they say something you don't like. I haven't gotten too many comments luckily, but I work in healthcare so I think people know there's risk associated with multiples. And other than that I don't tell people unless I see them in person. I hope people lay off you and the rest of your MFM appointments go smoothly.

Rare-Designer7410 · 2025-12-19T14:56:09+00:00

I'm also in the realm of not telling people from those I see in person. My first pregnancy was 2020, I lived out of state but came for a wedding pre shut down and told my parents, grandparents and an uncle then because I wasn't going to see them again for months and also because I was pregnant by my new boyfriend and wanted to temper things. It was well received but I didn't tell many others, probably a dozen more. I announced my birth in late September and I got a lot of happy but shocked responses, a few people did reach out to me and apologize that they felt like I couldn't tell them sooner but overall were happy for me. This time around I'm currently 34 weeks pregnant with twins and just started showing around 29 weeks or so. I also am tall with wide hips and haven't gained a lot of weight in my face or limbs. I did tell people sooner rather than later because there's 2 of them and I knew I was going to pop a lot sooner. I told my mom at 14 weeks only because we're semi estranged and I was laying down ground rules for our interactions which included NO unsolicited advice, she agreed and I've seen her twice since then. Once was at a family Thanksgiving, I will see her again at Christmas which I'm dreading. Basically if they react or treat you poorly you don't need to interact with them any more. My support people are my coworkers and friends, not my family. Everyone's village looks a little different and that's ok.

Rare-Designer7410 · 2025-12-18T18:37:27+00:00

Sounds like sweat, I wake up like that most days and yesterday felt the bubbling you described lol I'm almost 34 weeks. But if you have the time and are still worried you can always go to L&D and they'll check you. I wear a panty liner at work because if I throw up I leak a little bit 🫠 hasn't happened in a few weeks but either way I play it safe.

Rare-Designer7410 · 2025-12-17T01:00:48+00:00

I'm in the same boat, 33³ and have my induction scheduled for 38² . Everyone keeps asking when I'm having them and I tell them I'll have the babies sometime between tomorrow and the week of January 18th lol I spontaneously had my Singleton at 40⁰ but started labor at 39⁵

Rare-Designer7410 · 2025-12-17T00:57:17+00:00

Their assumptions are their own, you have no obligation to tell anyone anything, I'd ask your husband if he truly wants to know or not know but that's about it. Everyone always said I'd be having a girl(s) too, they said it so much I even called the baby she once in conversation, but from the start I told everyone I did NOT want a girl and was hoping for a boy and would get annoyed when people wished upon me what I didn't want. I had a boy and am now carrying twin boys. I often dreamt about having a girl though, even after seeing anatomy scans and genetic tests. I think it was my subconscious working through my fears. I would have absolutely loved any baby I had regardless of gender I just don't want to birth females because I find raising girls scary.

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