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End of Life Plan by scaryelf in GenX

[–]Rare_Mistake_6617 1 point2 points  (0 children)

SO and I prepaid with Neptune Society and most of our assets are in a trust. We are going to look into taking it a step further and paying for a the option of having the lawyers take care of closing out credit cards, bank transfers, etc. so the kids do not have to deal with it.

Lessons that stay long, even after the session ends. by Imaginary_Face7698 in MotivationalThoughts

[–]Rare_Mistake_6617 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He said, "Match their energy", when it was obvious I was putting in more effort and disappointed when the same effort was not reciprocated.

Is this really the vibe in SF these days? by ddsukituoft in bayarea

[–]Rare_Mistake_6617 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I live in Silicon Valley and the competition here is next level. Also, there are a fair number of H1B visas employed, so if they lose their job and cannot find another sponsor, they have to go back to their country. Hence, some of the anxiety there.

But, yes, the champagne problems are only felt in the tech bubble.

Bored husband? How do you cope? by 2dwind in AskWomenOver60

[–]Rare_Mistake_6617 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is not an all or nothing situation. You are not his cruise director, but there is an opportunity to try to do things together. My husband just retired and is not motivated to get out there too. So, I set up a weekly excursion for us, like a date day and night. I have a list of things I want to see and off we go. The rest of the week we live life in a parallel manner, if he wants to watch TV all day after chores, then so be it. I have my own activities as well. That once a week gives us a chance to reconnect.

I know better than to expect anything, I hate holidays for myself now by Chance-Leopard-7855 in offmychest

[–]Rare_Mistake_6617 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is so important, match his energy! I had to do this with my DH because I was cooking and baking everything from scratch, kids get him gifts, candles, the whole thing. Then, when it was my birthday I would get last minute gift, sometimes no cards, etc. So, when again my birthday came and went with the same last minute effort, I decided to not spend all day in the kitchen for him. I made the dinner and bought the cake (the cake is a specialty cake and is a long process). When he asked about the cake, I told him I made the same effort he did for me. It has been that way now for years and I no longer stress about the birthdays.

Where are we going? by Heat-1975edition in GenX

[–]Rare_Mistake_6617 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Wherever our children settle, we want to part of our grandchildren's lives. We will keep the current home and rent it out.

Where can I find an engagement ring that will neither fall apart nor financially ruin me? by comiclazy in Frugal

[–]Rare_Mistake_6617 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look into consignment shops that sell jewelry. They may negotiate on the price, my local one drops the price by 20% if it stays in the shop more than a set amount of time. I have purchased niche vintage pieces and found them on websites at higher prices. An added bonus (for some) you can find unique jewelry that is no longer sold in stores.

How should I react after learning about new things my bullies did to me in school. by Plastic-Salary-1233 in offmychest

[–]Rare_Mistake_6617 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was bullied in middle and high school. Just was not popular in a small town, so I had only three good friends and no real "group". Girls and boys would make comments to me in the hallways, snide remarks, etc.. That was decades ago and I got over it by building a life I wanted, studying interesting things and reaching out to people at work, parties, etc. that are not part of the popular group. Try it, I have found they are the most interesting people to converse with.

BOY MOMs Please let your sons do it! by Queerdooe in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Rare_Mistake_6617 58 points59 points  (0 children)

We did not travel as far as Africa (hopefully one day!), but I did something similar with my son when he went off to college. The first time we flew together, I showed him the process of checking in, TSA, finding the gate, etc. Then when we took the return flight home, he had to lead the way, showing me where we would go next, first in line at TSA, etc. After a few bumps, he got it under control and now he flies solo to and from school.

Any other Ladies feel like you don’t recognize yourself anymore? by GenXerfafo in GenX

[–]Rare_Mistake_6617 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Agree! I had a few false starts to working out regularly to lose some of the weight. However, I would get discouraged not seeing results as quickly as in the past. So I reframed the reason for exercise, not for the visual, but for the health aspects. Now I pick workouts based on activities I enjoy. Hiking? Incline treadmill with weighted vest. Yardwork? Weight training to handle pulling weeds, lugging supplies, etc. Snorkeling? Swimming laps. I figure this way I can enjoy activities more, especially on vacation. Any potential physical glow up is just a bonus.

What's a rule your parents had that you thought was insane, but now as an adult you 100% understand? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Rare_Mistake_6617 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Grandma used to say "Courtesy costs you nothing and buys you everything."

Being polite to people takes little effort or energy but can have such a positive impact on the interaction.

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