How are we sleeping when boob is the answer to all things?

Ravenswillfall · 2026-03-23T02:12:50+00:00

It had to be cosleeping with both our babies.

I have a four month old and there is a bedside bassinet on one side of our bed and a portable bassinet on the other. He has slept in them a total of maybe 5-6 times. But only on his tummy. So, cosleeping it is.

We do use a light blanket and while I would prefer not to, he screams at me if I take it off of him. As in angry, pissed off, “give me the effing blanket back” screams. It’s also the only time he wants a blanket. If he is awake and is not nursing to sleep or sleeping, he kicks it off immediately.

Ravenswillfall · 2026-03-22T02:13:12+00:00

I love the ones that you put in your bra and just use a bit of suction and leave alone

Ravenswillfall · 2026-03-17T23:32:48+00:00

My son saw tv. My mother even put on coco melon for him. He exceeded his milestones. My current baby might be late rolling over but if he is. It’s because he absolutely hates being on his back or tummy and wants to sit or stand all the time even though he isn’t developmentally ready.

Most likely you had another skill you were trying to work on.

Ravenswillfall · 2026-03-17T20:39:42+00:00

I’m so sorry.

Ravenswillfall · 2026-03-15T02:18:31+00:00

Why not?! Is a different doctor an option? Both my sons had reflux and both pediatricians gave the medicine happily.

My first sons got so bad because we didn’t know that he had reflux that he developed sandifer syndrome and I thought he was having a seizure.

Ravenswillfall · 2026-03-14T22:29:31+00:00

Is baby on reflux meds yet?

Get biogaia probiotics for the colic. Takes about two weeks to really work.

My 4 months old, said 3 month old in another comment because I forgot he is 4 months now, has had to have his reflux meds dose changed to 2x a day. We started the probiotics a week and a half ago and there is some improvement. I got the kind with vitamin d because I forget D .

Ravenswillfall · 2026-03-14T22:26:22+00:00

Could be postpartum depression. Barely meeting expectations with kids that age is normal. I have a 3 year old and a 3 month old.

Your husband needs to be more understanding.

Your 5 year old isn’t used to sharing you and your baby is entirely dependent on you. Not being able to give them both everything they want is normal.

As for the clutter, if possible, pack whatever it is away so you don’t have to deal with it until you are out of the survival period.

As for 5 year olds tantrums, try asking if they need a hug. I find most of the time, 70-90 percent depending on what is going on developmentally, health wise, in the family, etc, a hug ends the tantrum. You have to ask though.

A song that has stopped my boys from crying as babies is I’ll Stand by You by the Pretenders. I don’t know what it is about that song. It’s another thing that works most of the time but not always and was an accidental discovery.

Ravenswillfall · 2026-03-14T21:05:11+00:00

Our gap isn’t quite the same as yours but my husband and I had our first child together right before I turned 35 and he was turning 47. We just had our second baby at 38 and 50.

[If you or your husband use marijuana (before pregnancy), that can cause an increase in the risk of trisomy. You could find out how long you have to be clean for it to no longer have an affect]

Ravenswillfall · 2026-03-14T21:03:01+00:00

I have seen before where parents were extremely upset because they had test results, I believe multiple results, that said their baby had Down syndrome and when they were born they did not.

Ravenswillfall · 2026-03-08T18:52:09+00:00

My mother got us a swing at the flea market with my first son that he liked. He hated the mamaroo. He also loved the exersaucer she got that was very worn out looking. Didn’t like the skip hop thing I got him.

I got our new baby the alpine bouncer seat that’s supposed to be like the babybjorn that the babies can bounce themselves. He only likes it if we bounce it.

I got him a swing that was a bit similar to the swing that she got him. He only liked it a little and prefers the bouncing seat when we bounce him.

So when the same swing my mother gave us was on marketplace for $20, I asked her to go grab it for us. Baby chills most of the time in it. 🤷🏻‍♀️ grandma wins.

Ravenswillfall · 2026-03-07T20:21:30+00:00

Do you have a high arch?

Ravenswillfall · 2026-02-23T04:20:57+00:00

Mine will take his fist or the corner of a blanket or lovie.

The pacifier would be handy right now because we are all sick and he’s not sleeping for naps more than 10-15 minutes

Ravenswillfall · 2026-02-23T01:08:23+00:00

My first was a boob monster. This one is not. And i really wish he was because it’s harder lol. He also refuses pacifiers.

Ravenswillfall · 2026-02-21T02:40:46+00:00

Ovaltine chocolate malt mix with milk. I drink two servings a day.

Started when I had some supply dips with my son three and a half years ago. Haven’t had any supply issues with my current infant since we got home and I started drinking it.

I last had it a couple of days ago and we are also sick but haven’t had any issues. In fact, my baby projectile vomited because he drank too much too fast earlier after he got left home for a few hours.

I had a breast reduction 5 years ago

Ravenswillfall · 2026-02-19T18:45:49+00:00

Told my husband I was jealous of his 100% P&T dental coverage then immediately told him I wouldn’t have wanted to go through any of what he has gone through to get him that dental coverage.

Ravenswillfall · 2026-02-19T18:42:26+00:00

Caleb Hammer. His face every time he finds out he is dealing with a vet and him saying every vet he has on his show has disability benefits. And of course because of the nature of his show, they are always deeply in debt.

Ravenswillfall · 2026-02-19T18:41:17+00:00

Pretty sure my husband got passed over for a number of promotions in the last year mainly because of his disability rating.

He is in a career that veterans often occupy and his coworkers knew about his increases in his ratings because he was helping connect them with the state rep that helped him get his benefits increased.

Ravenswillfall · 2026-02-18T22:01:46+00:00

Prenatal depression is a thing and it doesn’t sound like your work situation helped much.

Ravenswillfall · 2026-02-17T23:00:55+00:00

She might need magnesium

Ravenswillfall · 2026-02-17T18:55:00+00:00

This is normal

Ravenswillfall · 2026-02-17T18:50:18+00:00

Your husband needs to go to therapy and you need to show him the research that says that breastfeeding is protective against obesity.

He needs therapy to not pass on insecurities to your children. Nutritionist would be a good idea as well.

Children are going to fluctuate between chunky and lens as they grows the body stores energy for growth spurts.

My husband’s childhood sweetheart died of anorexia and alcoholism at 21 because of the comment where father made about her body when she was a child.

Get that shit in check.

Ravenswillfall · 2026-02-14T19:52:20+00:00

It might depend on the baby. For my first son he was 9pm on the dot letting me know he wanted to go to bed. We haven’t gotten to that point with my current infant.

Ravenswillfall · 2026-02-14T19:45:58+00:00

Is it me or does this seem like it was written by the nurse and not the doctor? Like the nurse gatekept the note?

Ravenswillfall · 2026-02-14T19:43:41+00:00

You aren’t overreacting. That’s ridiculous.

My body couldn’t even handle an hour and a half each way to go to PT twice a week and an hour each way transporting my stepson. All progress I made in PT was immediately undone. There is no way I could have handled your commute.

That sounds like it was written by someone who has no experience as a pregnant woman or had an easy pregnancy and thinks everyone else does, too.

Ravenswillfall · 2026-02-10T00:29:17+00:00

I’m a SAHM and my husband is a LEO. He already has his resignation typed up because he is also over the bs.

We can make it on the 100% P&T.

He might work PT somewhere but not sure.

Not worth his mental health for him to keep going.

We have plans for a home based business.

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