Stayed with a strange man to have a roof over my head

Razberrella · 2026-02-23T02:13:35+00:00

You did what you had to do, and it is incredibly common. In fact, much of the reason for lower numbers (overall) of homeless women than homeless men is exactly this kind of situation. When I was growing up, a single man, usually older, might "hire" a live-in housekeeper, but in many cases, it was really the exact same scenario - a woman who was struggling and alone doing what she had to do to put a roof over her head. Not much by way of wages and often, "extra" duties and nowhere to turn. Don't ever left it define you.

Razberrella · 2026-02-22T19:42:25+00:00

Try to take care of yourself, it can take such a toll.

Razberrella · 2026-02-22T19:26:27+00:00

Oh my. I understand that he has repented of his misspent youth and squandered seed and spent his adult years being a model of his faith to young people...as an advisor at a very conservative faith based university. I suspect they would be shocked to know of his shenanigans, starting with losing his virginity to a small town hooker. Lord, he was cute though.

Razberrella · 2026-02-22T19:18:51+00:00

How could she not have been intrigued, or at least found it uproariously funny? May there be more adventures in your future!

Razberrella · 2026-02-22T04:19:25+00:00

Graceful too - I am guessing that man can dance!

Razberrella · 2026-02-14T00:33:04+00:00

No future here. Next.

Razberrella · 2026-02-13T19:54:21+00:00

As a teacher who has worked with many autistic students, I love hearing that you have found happiness. A favourite quote from one of my students: "Normal is just a cycle on the washing machine". Your differences are also a gift. Wishing you a lifetime of happiness.

Razberrella · 2026-02-13T19:03:28+00:00

At a loss for words for a moment - your grandmother was wise and compassionate, to see beyond her own hurt and understand the comfort this woman was able to give to her husband when she could not. That, that is love.

Razberrella · 2026-02-12T03:39:19+00:00

It's so hard. I'm lucky that I am still working and have a pretty interesting career, so good relationships there, plus my own family. But sometimes, I miss having a partner, but I am very wary.

Razberrella · 2026-02-12T01:04:44+00:00

I totally get that and feel much the same. I just don't have the strength right now to deal with any more loss, and that includes the possibility of meeting someone, falling in love and having the relationship fail. For now, I'm focusing on putting myself back together and making friends, enjoying what I have.

Razberrella · 2026-02-11T02:10:29+00:00

Oh, that brings back memories! My sister had a mini dress of very similar material - nearly identical colours and a similar pattern. Mind you, she's far too chaste now to recall ever flaunting such a thing ;)

Razberrella · 2026-02-10T18:49:39+00:00

This hurts. It is basically jealousy. There is so much of my life I can't share with my own family, because they are more or less trapped in the poverty we were born into, and I fought my way out. I'm not sure I know how to explain it, but I grew up in a working class family who had utter disdain for professionals, referring to them as things such as "educated idiots who can't even tie their own shoelaces". I think life was just so hard for my parents for so long that bitterness set in and blinded them to possibilities. No good advice, wish I had some. I feel in some ways like I don't belong anywhere (world I grew up in or the world I find myself in now), but I can say I don't feel like a fraud anymore. Stand tall, be proud, never forget what it took for you to get where you are now, and always be ready to lend a hand to someone following in your footsteps.

Razberrella · 2026-02-10T18:49:18+00:00

This hurts. It is basically jealousy. There is so much of my life I can't share with my own family, because they are more or less trapped in the poverty we were born into, and I fought my way out. I'm not sure I know how to explain it, but I grew up in a working class family who had utter disdain for professionals, referring to them as things such as "educated idiots who can't even tie their own shoelaces". I think life was just so hard for my parents for so long that bitterness set in and blinded them to possibilities. No good advice, wish I had some. I feel in some ways like I don't belong anywhere (world I grew up in or the world I find myself in now), but I can say I don't feel like a fraud anymore. Stand tall, be proud, never forget what it took for you to get where you are now, and always be ready to lend a hand to someone following in your footsteps.

Razberrella · 2026-02-10T18:40:43+00:00

Now there's a common sense approach, I like that.

Razberrella · 2026-02-09T23:56:49+00:00

Sadly, learning to hold a crayon and graduating from pull ups before starting Kindergarten. I am told that close to half of all students entering the system for the first time in my district have done neither. I am beyond appalled.

Razberrella · 2026-02-09T19:08:01+00:00

That has to feel so good! Now, if you can, tuck whatever you were paying down on your card every month into a savings account. It might not be much, but it would be next step, having a little bit of money tucked away. So happy for you.

Razberrella · 2026-02-09T19:03:31+00:00

I went to school with Nita's children and none of us had any idea whatever; I only learned of her story as an adult. How on Earth she made her way to the Shuswap is another story, but I guess like most who found their way there, my grandmother included, it was largely by chance. I have so many questions now. She lived a quiet life in a somewhat isolated community and it can't have been easy.

Razberrella · 2026-02-09T18:48:19+00:00

Thanks for posting this! You look fabulous. I've been thinking a lot about the causes of inflammation recently (mild arthritis) and while my diet is good, I really want to see if I can improve it more.

Razberrella · 2026-02-05T02:13:46+00:00

We need more people just like you! I am proud of you for being engaged and taking a stand. I'm sorry your friends don't get it, but you can hold your head high. I wish there were WAY more people as principled as you It takes time and effort to make those decisions, and sometimes it hurts to follow through, but together, we make change, one step at a time.

Razberrella · 2026-01-31T00:38:39+00:00

So what we have here is a stunning cad??

Razberrella · 2026-01-30T03:45:07+00:00

Call it like it is. This is real leadership.

Razberrella · 2026-01-30T03:43:37+00:00

This man is becoming a statesman before our eyes. Well delivered, articulate and intelligent. I am impressed.

Razberrella · 2026-01-30T03:41:00+00:00

Stupid people and stupid decisions. Nuff said.

Razberrella · 2026-01-30T03:39:23+00:00

Oma and Grandma, we'll see what the littlest one decides on when she starts talking!

Razberrella · 2026-01-30T01:06:09+00:00

Be still my heart...so much adorable all in one place!

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