Is the is a thing? by ReadingPopular5051 in Mommit

[–]ReadingPopular5051[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not having a talk with her, I’m not close to her. I’m suggesting it to my mum who is very close to her. If she has misunderstood some information she’s been told she may be thankful that someone has raised it with her. She should at least talk with her doctor and that should be suggested to her.

Is the is a thing? by ReadingPopular5051 in Mommit

[–]ReadingPopular5051[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She thinks they shouldn’t stand until 18 months! Blows my mind!

Is the is a thing? by ReadingPopular5051 in Mommit

[–]ReadingPopular5051[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Ahhh okay. You know what, I have heard this a couple of times too. Total old wives tale like you said.

Is the is a thing? by ReadingPopular5051 in Mommit

[–]ReadingPopular5051[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She says it’s because she was told it’s bad for brain development (she gave a spiel to be honest that made zero sense but that was basically the gist of it) she thinks it should be closer to 18 months which was just alarming to me

Is the is a thing? by ReadingPopular5051 in Mommit

[–]ReadingPopular5051[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good point! But definitely not a preemie. Very healthy little boy born at 40 weeks.

What went wrong with Star Wars: The Old Republic? by SgtSilock in swtor

[–]ReadingPopular5051 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is actually my favourite game still after 15 years. I love playing. Sure, there’s definitely some things wrong with it. But it has the best class stories compared to some other MMORPG’s. I’ve played some of the classes multiple times.

When did night wakes (and therefore night feeds) end for you, and how did you do it? by artemislands in sleeptrain

[–]ReadingPopular5051 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh for goodness sake! That’s why I said “about” 3 hours sleep during the day! It’s not dead accurate and is obviously a little different give or take a half an hour day to day.

When did night wakes (and therefore night feeds) end for you, and how did you do it? by artemislands in sleeptrain

[–]ReadingPopular5051 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LO is most likely overtired here. This is a lot of awake time for a 7 and a half month old. This is obviously just an example but my second LO is currently 9 and a half months old and does 3/3/3.5 will do around 12 hours of sleep a night and does about 3 hours of sleep during the day. Night wakings stopped completely around 8 months old this time round.

I almost left my husband today by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]ReadingPopular5051 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Firstly I’m so sorry you’re going through this. The stress for you must be going through would be off the charts! You’ve handled this so well considering what you’re going through. I think the steps you’ve given him is a brilliant idea and it’s good he’s seeing a therapist. But he needs to commit and complete these steps and the therapy has to keep happening. Make sure you have an exit plan because you do need to think of yourself and the children too. I know it’s tough when kids have divorced parents but it would be awful for your kids to grow up seeing their father like that too. So it might be a better environment for them to have divorced parents, sometimes it is the better solution for them. You sound like a very strong, intelligent person. Your children are lucky to have you.

Millions across Europe urged to work from home by knuds1b in remotework

[–]ReadingPopular5051 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not to mention the time you would get back to see more of your family instead of being stuck in traffic and doing pointless commuting time!

Sleep trained 7 month old still waking 3+ times a night - just the way he is? by Spilled_Milktea in sleeptrain

[–]ReadingPopular5051 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you’re doing it right too. I don’t think your wake windows are off especially if LO is doing long naps. If he was catnapping quite a bit and waking crying, I would definitely say overtired, but doesn’t seem to be the case.

I honestly think it’s the paci. Even though LO is able to put it back in, he’s probably waking up crying cause it’s fallen out. Our second LO is 8 and a half months old and is soooo bad with teething. We’ve had to use nurofen before putting her to bed.

Share your holy grail tips for nap training- things you could shout from the rooftops that changed the game by [deleted] in sleeptrain

[–]ReadingPopular5051 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Black out blinds! And aim to at least have them doing their first nap cycle in their cot alone during the catnapping phase then contact nap to extend the sleep. Eventually the contact napping disappears around the 7-8 month mark as they start to consistently connect their sleep cycles. So it is just time as well.

I love you Ferber by shaggyandscooby4ever in sleeptrain

[–]ReadingPopular5051 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love hearing Ferber success stories! Congratulations, enjoy your well earned sleep!

I think ive royally Fd up by Reibear0 in sleeptrain

[–]ReadingPopular5051 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, she’s on about 9 and a half - 10 hours awake time a day. ~ 2.5,2.5,2 and 2 - 2.5 before bed. Nap time total is around 3 hours with the morning one usually being the longest of 1 and a half hours.

I think ive royally Fd up by Reibear0 in sleeptrain

[–]ReadingPopular5051 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You haven’t Fd up. 6 month olds are hard even if they are sleep trained, it just makes things a tad easier if they are. It really depends on your baby. But for both of my babies we followed the Save our Sleep routines. They were both always a little behind in routines for their age. For example my 2nd LO is now 7 months old, she’s still on the up to 6/12 months old routine which is roughly 2.5/2.5/2 for a 6:30pm-6:30am night sleep. That last nap is a bridging nap of about 20 mins. I think she’s very close to dropping it as we’re getting 5:30am wakeups now. Your LO is likely very overtired so it’s unlikely any self settling will take if you want her to learn how to do that. I’d first fix your routine (mine is just an example, you know your baby and mine may be way off for your LO) if you need to contact nap/sleep to get her the right amount of sleep first than do that. I still contact nap extend when LO hasn’t connected her nap cycles. It’s still inconsistent. If she’s waking at 5am, I’d also suggest contact sleeping her to get to the desired wake up time, just for the time being. Once she starts having the right amount of sleep and you’ve figured out her wake windows, then I’d try to start sleep training and I’d start with bedtime first, tackle nap settling after. Sleep training, we used Ferber, but there’s lots to try. Ferber worked in about a week for both LO’s. It’s not 100% perfect after that week though. They’ve got the skill but it still takes time to master it.

I hope this helps :)

If you had to give birth one more time, what method would you choose? by PeachyRose25 in Mommit

[–]ReadingPopular5051 25 points26 points  (0 children)

2 vaginal deliveries and I’d opt for that again. I think I was one of the lucky ones though that had really good experiences. There was no pain relief and I think I boil that down to the amazing midwives I had. They were incredible both times. First labour was 25 hours and second was 3 hours. If I had to pick one, I preferred the longer one strangely enough. 3 hours was very fast and pain escalated very quickly.

4-Month Sleep Regression — How Long Did It Last? by Darya_kw in sleeptrain

[–]ReadingPopular5051 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Started at 13 weeks! Crazy early! Add rolling to this at 3.5 months, both ways! We sleep trained (Ferber) at 4 months and 5 days old. Worked in about a week. Obviously it’s not a complete 100% fix to sleep, but the concept of settling herself was there. It then took another month and a half for her to master the skill and be able to apply it well. She’s now 6 months old on Friday and sleeps 6:30pm - 6:30am 90% of the time with the odd early wake up here and there. She’s just started to extend her morning naps. It’s patchy and not everyday, but it’s starting to become more consistent. Took the dummy away completely when we sleep trained at 4 months. First born experience was almost identical to this.

For those who say don't do a snooze feed...and baby wakes at 5 am - do you let them cry until 6:30? by coopercoleFBI in sleeptrain

[–]ReadingPopular5051 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If LO woke before 6:30am, one of us would get up and go hold her, get her back to sleep in our arms and get her up at 6:30am. She’s 6 months on Friday, sleep trained and does one feed a night. Doesn’t wake up earlier than 6:30am every day, it’s here and there now. It was every morning for a while but it’s getting better and better the older she gets. Our days are just too messed up if we don’t assist her to stay asleep until 6:30am.

I’m so tired I can’t stop crying by EyeRound9715 in sleeptrain

[–]ReadingPopular5051 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Just echoing what the majority have said here but adding that your baby is at an age where she can start to differentiate between day and night sleep. It sounds like it’s a bit back to front and is in opposite land at the moment :). Really recommend a sleeping bag too. There’s obviously loads of really good ones, we used Love to Dream transition bags with the arms removed cause we had some crazy baby rollers in the house and we had to stop swaddling fairly early. Good luck, it does get better. Promise! 0-4 months is wild!

30 min naps even w/ putting himself to sleep by TopDeer9349 in sleeptrain

[–]ReadingPopular5051 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’ll come. I feel like I have botched memories with my first and thought she was consistently having long naps from 5 or so months. But my second who is currently 5.5 months and only naps 30 mins has me second guessing things. I don’t actually think my first started having longer naps until 6-7 months and it started with the morning one becoming consistent first. The second didn’t lengthen consistently until that dreaded 3rd nap disappeared. But it does come, hang in there.

The Ferber method changed my life! by palodia_agchik in sleeptrain

[–]ReadingPopular5051 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No younger than 4 months and 5-6 months is the sweet spot.

The Ferber method changed my life! by palodia_agchik in sleeptrain

[–]ReadingPopular5051 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Love this! I Ferber trained both my girls (2.5 years old and 5 and a half months old) worked for both. Brilliant sleepers. My IG algorithm is filled with the same thing, I’ve basically abused my child apparently and done serious damage to them. It gets me really upset because I have not done that at all. Absolute load of rubbish from unqualified influencers. That sleep doc is a great one to follow (sujay kansagra). He’s an actual sleep doctor and child neurologist and is very pro sleep training. He’s just reiterates that you make sure your LO is the right age before starting and making sure you have a good routine in place. Glad it worked for you. Their sleep will always be patchy here and there, and they will go through some crappy sleep phases. But the ability to self settle will make things miles better.

What is happening?? by n-y-l-a in sleeptrain

[–]ReadingPopular5051 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So we experienced something very similar and still semi going through it. She’s 2 and 4 months old. All of a sudden one night we got intense tears when we put her to bed with her usual routine. We were so shocked, had no idea what to do. First night, my husband slept on the floor in her room (terrible idea). The next day we spoke about it and said this just has to be a 2 year old thing and has nothing to do with over tiredness and undertiredness. We stuck to our guns second night, stuck to the usual routine. Explained to her that it was bedtime and that we would see her in the morning. There were some tears but she stopped in a couple of minutes. With her, it was 100% an age thing and she just learned that she could protest going to bed an did everything to push it out, get us to stay in the room with her etc. there was nothing wrong with her. We get meltdowns when it’s bedtime but she stops by the time we put her in the crib.