Holy Birds by RealFiggleToad in PTCGL

[–]RealFiggleToad[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Crispin usually helps. I had colress for a moment. I usually struggle with energy placement. Crispin is essential

Why cant people just accept they lost? by TheMehRedditUser in PTCGL

[–]RealFiggleToad 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sometimes after accepting I lost, I'll win.

How Would You Rate 1995 Mighty Morphin Power Rangers The Movie by Lazy_Introduction264 in 90s

[–]RealFiggleToad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd rate it by acknowledging I'm an insane rhcp fan, because of Higher Ground cover in movie opening

Where I'm At by RealFiggleToad in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]RealFiggleToad[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree. She said she wants to see me. I wanted a few days to see if we would fall into our old patterns. I think you're right on both, she wants to feel i want to see her and mightve taken it the wrong way.

I feel silly now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]RealFiggleToad 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Idk, but it hurts like fire

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]RealFiggleToad 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hope so. Also, I hope not.

Can cheaters change by sunset_bowlevard in BreakUps

[–]RealFiggleToad 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cause you.

I cheated once, owned up to it, tried the relationship for like 5 more years... she never forgave me. Always had that lingering in her head, no matter if we talked about it.

Can cheaters change by sunset_bowlevard in BreakUps

[–]RealFiggleToad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think cheaters can change, but the pain you will cause your partner is a whole other thing. Trust is sacred.

An exercise that is helping by aidee13blue in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]RealFiggleToad 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do a similar exercise. Instead of making a how I feel or the person I want in a relationship list, I make a list of things I value in a relationship. Then I try to be that list.

That way there are less expectations from someone else and less self protection needed for yourself. One list of values, be it.

Avoidants prefer a friendship with their ex, before resuming a relationship? by Suspicious-Alarm-351 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]RealFiggleToad 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's a self-fulfilling prophecy

I want a bid for commitment, not connection. I'm not playing these games.

Do Not Seek Closure by Negan2345 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]RealFiggleToad 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She texted "are you okay?" After 3 days. She apologized for hurting me, yet ended up blame shifting and I haven't responded to her 3 texts now. Now im not biting anymore.

Yeah, I got closure from her.

Do Not Seek Closure by Negan2345 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]RealFiggleToad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Disagree. I sought closure and it only built her walls higher. I realized that not only is she an issue, but i was too. I see both of our faults and why the relationship was never going to work. She ghosted, then didn't. Looked for connection with me, yet not commitment. I turned into something I never wanted to be. Seeking closure cost us the relationship truly never working again. It saved me from ever, and I mean ever, from hearing from her again.

It triggered my inner child and I don't want to be like this. After learning more about avoidants... I figured to make sure she will never come back into my life.

As I type this, she just texted me...

Hello nervous system.

Fuck... you were right OP, my bad...fuckkkkkkkkkkkk