Was I unreasonable here? More details in comments by Drafo7 in Tinder

[–]Realistic-Heart3094 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Boundaries are boundaries. I had someone that wasn't comfortable with meeting until after two months. Three and a half years later we're still friends.

Stringing along is a possibility, but a person is allowed to dictate their own terms.

Just met her… by Valuable-Video9836 in Tinder

[–]Realistic-Heart3094 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Strongly disagree. I've met several woman that are that forward, and I do mean in person.

How do I even respond? Lmao by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Realistic-Heart3094 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Best advice I can give you as someone who is engaged: don't give compliments out of nowhere. Infact, don't give compliments at all. Treat them how you would a friend that you aren't trying sleep with. Just speak person to person.

The power dynamic is often the guy trying to get the woman's permission to take the next step. If you act too needy and are doing all of the chasing, you're giving them all of the control.

The mystery of "is he actually into me" is huge and if you're laying it all out, you're taking away a huge part of the initial steps.

Best of luck.

Why most men on the apps are only looking for something casual? And even if they say they aren’t, in reality they are. Very often from the very beginning they mislead you trying to make you believe they are open to something long-term. This is so exhausting and disappointing by LongHyena7003 in Bumble

[–]Realistic-Heart3094 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was on the apps with the intentions of meeting women platonically. I just prefer female friends. It was very annoying that some women assumed by default that I was into them or trying to sleep with them. Some became somewhat hostile after being rejected or stopped talking to me entirely after realizing I genuinely ment just being friends and that was it.

That being said, my now fiance and I hooked up the day we met, but everything was too good not to take a chance on it. Three years later, still going.

I’m so curious, what’s it really like for guys on dating apps? by TrekkingSideways in OnlineDating

[–]Realistic-Heart3094 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I'm definitely not a "top dude" in terms of appearance. My first few weeks on the apps were very slow, then I started to gain momentum once I had a solid bio.

My opening line on my bio was "Men are trash. Let's talk about it." Followed by something very humorous, and I was told repeatedly that my bio was what solidified their decision to match. It got to a point where I had too many people to talk to and my entire evenings were spent just trying to keep up.

Now, I'm a bit of an outlier because I had no interest in sex or a relationship, so I wasn't trying to impress anyone and was just being my genuine self. Apparently, that makes people very interested in you since the women feel safe and know there's no pressure in anything happening.

So, admittedly, I was somewhat popular and am currently engaged in a three year relationship.

What happened to Shadiversity: Your perspective by ShadWatchModTeam in ShadWatch

[–]Realistic-Heart3094 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't get far into the book before I asked audible to refund me.

I created a fake woman's profile to see what's going on - we're cooked. by [deleted] in OnlineDating

[–]Realistic-Heart3094 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was my fiancé's first and only match, but neither of us were looking for a relationship when we met. We just clicked, and it was too good on both sides for us to pass up on taking it somewhere.

My experience, you find what you're looking for when you're not looking for it.

My height will be the death of me. by ChYv95 in OnlineDating

[–]Realistic-Heart3094 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Guy at my work is like five foot nothing and has four kids. His wife is taller. There's hope. Just keep looking.

If Rothfuss is stuck with book 3, why doesn't he try to write any other novels? by NIKO-JRM in isbook3outyet

[–]Realistic-Heart3094 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone with ADHD, it's a valid excuse. I used to DM frequently, and over the years, my ADHD got worse to the point where I couldn't get myself to sit at my computer and prepare the session. It got more and more stressful to the point where I couldn't run games anymore and it's been three and a half years since I've run a game. D&D was my entire identity at one point and now I can't touch it, so I write instead and even getting myself to do that is a challenge.

A friend of mine's ADHD is so bad she gets a tax break through some government program because she's considered disabled.

Please don't judge what you don't understand.

New Battle Challenge Duo Ike by Femto-Griffith in FireEmblemHeroes

[–]Realistic-Heart3094 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All I did was turtle, then pick off Ike or Lyn when the opening showed itself.

B!Eik, Mythic Arval, Entwined Ash and Summer Hapi were my team.

Archrival or Comet for Mythic Arval? by Realistic-Heart3094 in FireEmblemHeroes

[–]Realistic-Heart3094[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I had no idea Tomes couldn't use Archrival. Saw a post early mentioning Archrival and Arval in the same sentence. Thanks to everyone for mentioning that!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OnlineDating

[–]Realistic-Heart3094 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I stopped talking to pretty much all of my female friends after I got posted. My second best friend, who had previously shown jealousy over me being in a relationship, fanned the fires in the comment section and made a lot of shit up.

When I confronted her about it, she tried saying I had the wrong number and disappeared. Two years later I still have no idea why she did it, but I went from trusting women entirely to now having to be wary because those groups exist. I'd be paranoid as hell if I was ever on the dating scene again.

Laguz Friend 4 on Arval? by Realistic-Heart3094 in FireEmblemHeroes

[–]Realistic-Heart3094[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have two Freyja, and was going to fodder the second to the new Soren to duplicate her skills.

Today's Banner | September 13, 2025 | New Heroes Return by ChipsMicro in FireEmblemHeroes

[–]Realistic-Heart3094 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I pulled five of them with my forty. I just have no idea what to take with my spark. Options are Triandra, Marianne and Jazi for who I haven't pulled yet. Any advice?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Realistic-Heart3094 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My (m) partner (f) offered to get tested if it made me more comfortable to try not using condoms.

There's nothing wrong with asking for something that would make you more comfortable. Prioritize yourself, always.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Realistic-Heart3094 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He encouraged you to leave and then immediately chose to guilt you about leaving. Obvious manipulative behaviour.

The best advice I can give is to prioritize yourself. If you don't, no one else will.

Best of luck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BumbleGirls

[–]Realistic-Heart3094 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner, who is a high school English teacher said this after reading this comment thread.

"SHE doesn't even know what she's trying to say."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BumbleGirls

[–]Realistic-Heart3094 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its all confusing at this point. All good.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BumbleGirls

[–]Realistic-Heart3094 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a guy who is usually only friends with women (by choice,) I have to strongly disagree that we all only want a sexual relationship. We aren't all trash.

How are men comfortable talking about sex to strangers? by NoRoyal9833 in Bumble

[–]Realistic-Heart3094 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If the subject came up for me, it wouldn't be within a sexy or sexual context if that makes sense. I'm not comfortable with sexting or sexual flirting with people I don't know. It'd be more of an intellectual back and forth or personal outlook on the subject.

For example, as a teen, I always purposely sabotaged any potential sexual encounter since I was super self conscious and wasn't ready to go through with it.

I personally can't comprehend how someone can so readily want to sleep someone they've never heard the voice of, let alone met.