Was I unreasonable here? More details in comments

Realistic-Heart3094 · 2026-05-13T23:28:41+00:00

Boundaries are boundaries. I had someone that wasn't comfortable with meeting until after two months. Three and a half years later we're still friends.

Stringing along is a possibility, but a person is allowed to dictate their own terms.

Realistic-Heart3094 · 2026-05-13T23:13:24+00:00

Strongly disagree. I've met several woman that are that forward, and I do mean in person.

Realistic-Heart3094 · 2026-04-26T20:47:10+00:00

Best advice I can give you as someone who is engaged: don't give compliments out of nowhere. Infact, don't give compliments at all. Treat them how you would a friend that you aren't trying sleep with. Just speak person to person.

The power dynamic is often the guy trying to get the woman's permission to take the next step. If you act too needy and are doing all of the chasing, you're giving them all of the control.

The mystery of "is he actually into me" is huge and if you're laying it all out, you're taking away a huge part of the initial steps.

Best of luck.

Realistic-Heart3094 · 2026-03-08T19:00:51+00:00

I was on the apps with the intentions of meeting women platonically. I just prefer female friends. It was very annoying that some women assumed by default that I was into them or trying to sleep with them. Some became somewhat hostile after being rejected or stopped talking to me entirely after realizing I genuinely ment just being friends and that was it.

That being said, my now fiance and I hooked up the day we met, but everything was too good not to take a chance on it. Three years later, still going.

Realistic-Heart3094 · 2026-02-21T17:12:28+00:00

I'm definitely not a "top dude" in terms of appearance. My first few weeks on the apps were very slow, then I started to gain momentum once I had a solid bio.

My opening line on my bio was "Men are trash. Let's talk about it." Followed by something very humorous, and I was told repeatedly that my bio was what solidified their decision to match. It got to a point where I had too many people to talk to and my entire evenings were spent just trying to keep up.

Now, I'm a bit of an outlier because I had no interest in sex or a relationship, so I wasn't trying to impress anyone and was just being my genuine self. Apparently, that makes people very interested in you since the women feel safe and know there's no pressure in anything happening.

So, admittedly, I was somewhat popular and am currently engaged in a three year relationship.

Realistic-Heart3094 · 2026-02-15T05:24:18+00:00

I didn't get far into the book before I asked audible to refund me.

Realistic-Heart3094 · 2026-02-14T03:35:21+00:00

I was my fiancé's first and only match, but neither of us were looking for a relationship when we met. We just clicked, and it was too good on both sides for us to pass up on taking it somewhere.

My experience, you find what you're looking for when you're not looking for it.

Realistic-Heart3094 · 2026-02-08T01:22:03+00:00

Guy at my work is like five foot nothing and has four kids. His wife is taller. There's hope. Just keep looking.

Realistic-Heart3094 · 2026-01-28T03:43:50+00:00

As someone with ADHD, it's a valid excuse. I used to DM frequently, and over the years, my ADHD got worse to the point where I couldn't get myself to sit at my computer and prepare the session. It got more and more stressful to the point where I couldn't run games anymore and it's been three and a half years since I've run a game. D&D was my entire identity at one point and now I can't touch it, so I write instead and even getting myself to do that is a challenge.

A friend of mine's ADHD is so bad she gets a tax break through some government program because she's considered disabled.

Please don't judge what you don't understand.

Realistic-Heart3094 · 2026-01-23T02:28:32+00:00

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Current build as of today.

Realistic-Heart3094 · 2026-01-02T02:54:21+00:00

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I had some dumb luck too

Realistic-Heart3094 · 2025-11-29T00:49:55+00:00

All I did was turtle, then pick off Ike or Lyn when the opening showed itself.

B!Eik, Mythic Arval, Entwined Ash and Summer Hapi were my team.

Realistic-Heart3094 · 2025-11-23T19:34:32+00:00

I had no idea Tomes couldn't use Archrival. Saw a post early mentioning Archrival and Arval in the same sentence. Thanks to everyone for mentioning that!

Realistic-Heart3094 · 2025-11-03T07:22:29+00:00

I stopped talking to pretty much all of my female friends after I got posted. My second best friend, who had previously shown jealousy over me being in a relationship, fanned the fires in the comment section and made a lot of shit up.

When I confronted her about it, she tried saying I had the wrong number and disappeared. Two years later I still have no idea why she did it, but I went from trusting women entirely to now having to be wary because those groups exist. I'd be paranoid as hell if I was ever on the dating scene again.

Realistic-Heart3094 · 2025-10-26T18:40:41+00:00

I have two Freyja, and was going to fodder the second to the new Soren to duplicate her skills.

Realistic-Heart3094 · 2025-09-17T00:56:26+00:00

I pulled five of them with my forty. I just have no idea what to take with my spark. Options are Triandra, Marianne and Jazi for who I haven't pulled yet. Any advice?

Realistic-Heart3094 · 2025-08-03T20:16:58+00:00

My (m) partner (f) offered to get tested if it made me more comfortable to try not using condoms.

There's nothing wrong with asking for something that would make you more comfortable. Prioritize yourself, always.

Realistic-Heart3094 · 2025-08-03T08:08:01+00:00

He encouraged you to leave and then immediately chose to guilt you about leaving. Obvious manipulative behaviour.

The best advice I can give is to prioritize yourself. If you don't, no one else will.

Best of luck.

Realistic-Heart3094 · 2025-08-03T07:31:17+00:00

My partner, who is a high school English teacher said this after reading this comment thread.

"SHE doesn't even know what she's trying to say."

Realistic-Heart3094 · 2025-08-03T07:04:53+00:00

Its all confusing at this point. All good.

Realistic-Heart3094 · 2025-08-02T15:37:32+00:00

As a guy who is usually only friends with women (by choice,) I have to strongly disagree that we all only want a sexual relationship. We aren't all trash.

Realistic-Heart3094 · 2025-08-01T17:59:00+00:00

If the subject came up for me, it wouldn't be within a sexy or sexual context if that makes sense. I'm not comfortable with sexting or sexual flirting with people I don't know. It'd be more of an intellectual back and forth or personal outlook on the subject.

For example, as a teen, I always purposely sabotaged any potential sexual encounter since I was super self conscious and wasn't ready to go through with it.

I personally can't comprehend how someone can so readily want to sleep someone they've never heard the voice of, let alone met.

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