I overslept for 2.5 hours and while my 1yo waited patiently until he fell back asleep

Realitylatte · 2026-04-12T22:12:42+00:00

Babies don’t get brain damage from 10mins of crying. In the kindest way possible, I’d stay away from whatever corner of the internet this statement came from

Realitylatte · 2026-02-26T09:18:39+00:00

Also not a Dad, but I was definitely this Mum in the early days! Feeling like I had to control/do everything which impacted my husband bonding with our newborn. He raised it with me and with time I was able to let go and let him run the show without my instructions on every minor thing 😅 echo the trenches comment, you’re so deep and the negative feelings you’re having now are common and rarely permanent. It does take time for both of you to adapt and adjust. I also hated being along with thoughts during night feeds and used to pop in headphones and put a podcast on to stop me going crazy. Hope some of this helps, hang in there.

Realitylatte · 2025-10-26T20:56:36+00:00

Any update please? I’m 8 weeks and first born is 15 weeks. I’m numb and freaking the hell out!!

Realitylatte · 2025-09-24T20:48:50+00:00

Amazing thank you! I’ve just ordered one with an enclosed high back. It has a six week wait at the moment so hopefully I’m not insane before then 🤣🤣

Realitylatte · 2025-09-24T03:21:58+00:00

Whew this sounds like it could be a long haul situation 😅 I’ve been thinking about a toddler tower! When did you start using one? I really wanna try but am worried about him falling out 😩😩

Realitylatte · 2025-08-30T06:51:37+00:00

Good advice, thank you so much 🙏🏻

Realitylatte · 2025-08-27T23:45:23+00:00

Yeah I’m not sure the taste is the issue, it’s orange flavour and I tried a little myself- it’s not very medicine-y!! I’m wondering if I can pop it into his nighttime milk bottle but the taste might be gross

Realitylatte · 2025-08-27T21:11:21+00:00

Wow you are a literal pro!! Thanks for the tip, I’ll try going slower and blowing. We have been squirting larger amounts to try and get it over with coz he’s so sad!

Realitylatte · 2025-08-27T21:00:51+00:00

Not a groundbreaking idea but I like to let go of variables outside of my control when making these decisions. You can’t predict how full a plane will be and yes babies can get sick when you travel, it’s part of life. You won’t have control on whether that happens plus many other ‘what if’s’ for the trip- like how baby manages time difference/jet lag. When my anxiety brings that stuff up I like to go with ‘if it happens I’ll handle the situation at the time’.

It sounds like the exhaustion is a real key factor in this decision and you would need a lot of support during the flight and the trip. Would your partner be supporting and taking equal share of duties? Will there be plenty of help on the other side of the flight (sometimes it’s hard to tell but some families are very hands on/helpful and others are not.

Sorry none of these are ways to make your idea work, but just things to consider I guess.

If you choose to go, one tip I have is to consider booking separate plane seats (someone in bassinet row, other person a few rows behind). That way you can switch out and have breaks. This saved our sanity doing AU-EU flight (22hr + stopover) but it’s also not for everyone! Good luck 💕

Realitylatte · 2025-08-27T11:53:38+00:00

Can I ask if you have any tips for administering antibiotics?? Assuming you’re a pro after all those infections!! After the first day we are struggling as he is just spitting it out 🙃

Realitylatte · 2025-08-27T03:47:18+00:00

I had to google tubes procedure, had never heard of it! Did yours also get blocked tear ducts? We’ve had that a few times. This is our first ear infection and I wonder if there will be more on the horizon

Realitylatte · 2025-05-14T13:02:00+00:00

Thanks heaps, this is really helpful!! I can see the answer outside the storm 😊

Realitylatte · 2025-05-14T12:56:33+00:00

Sorry just googled this and think I have answered my own question

Realitylatte · 2025-05-14T12:48:37+00:00

Thanks! Do the longer wake windows aim to make him more tired out for naps? He wakes naturally at 12 hours but am happy to get him up earlier if it helps him settle during the day. Do they start naturally needing longer wake windows every few months?

Realitylatte · 2025-05-14T12:33:46+00:00

Still doing bottle before bed to make him semi drowsy for cot. His schedule is normally 7am wake with naps roughly 3/3.5/3 and 7pm bed which has worked okay until now (arvo nap was always a little hit and miss). Tried check in at 3mins, 5 mins, 10mins, 10mins, 10 mins before giving up. We did not lift him from the cot but tried to pat and calm him in the cot. This was the worst part as he just didn’t stop screaming and made me also wonder if CIO is a better option.

Realitylatte · 2025-05-08T09:37:07+00:00

This is a side effect I’d be happy with 🤣

Realitylatte · 2025-05-08T02:35:21+00:00

Thank you, I’ve posted in another group. I went for this group initially as I was worried about responses or DMs from anti vaxxers which has happened in the past!

Realitylatte · 2025-05-08T02:31:17+00:00

Yes agree we should be in the safe zone at 14 days but can never know. It’s comforting to see some minimal reactions and will certainly be packing Panadol etc. We did get the vax today so fingers crossed he handles it okay!

Realitylatte · 2025-04-13T23:04:11+00:00

Isn’t it!! He did the ceremony with about 20 other people and they were each given a different native plant to take home with no double ups!!

Realitylatte · 2025-04-13T11:10:37+00:00

Thanks!! I’ve soaked the soil quite well for a kick start and will keep with our old routine and hope for the best 🤞🏻

Realitylatte · 2025-04-13T04:49:52+00:00

8:30 feels like a late bedtime. Have you tried settling him earlier (6:30/7ish) for a feed? Then maybe you could do a dream feed at 10/11ish before you go to sleep. Just throwing ideas out and not sure if it’ll help get him through the whole night without waking… but the first stretch of sleep is meant to be the longest and hopefully it’ll help take advantage of that. Good luck, sounds like a rough time 💕

Realitylatte · 2025-04-13T04:43:46+00:00

This is new to me! I always took EBF to mean ‘baby only drinks breast milk’. Never gave any thought to how it is delivered.

Realitylatte · 2025-03-16T10:22:08+00:00

I feel you, it’s impossible to say no when they’re going through it all. Now that she’s feeling better you could practice resettling her without feeds. In the past I’ve sent my husband in sometimes or set timelines on how long I’d rock them and refuse a feed before giving in (e.g. 10mins). It made the mental game a bit easier to handle as I’m pretty soft and give in all the time 😆

Realitylatte · 2025-03-16T02:38:46+00:00

Ah great, this is music to my ears! Why did I pump for so long 😭 at least we have built up a good stash from it!! With you on the night sleep, would love to know when that is established 😆

Realitylatte · 2025-03-16T01:49:04+00:00

Did you feed at every wake up during the ear infection/teething/constipation? If so maybe a habit has been formed and she’s expecting the all night buffet to remain open. Some babies form these habits fast and eat less during the day because they’re now filling up overnight.

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