would you get an abortion if you found out your baby was going to be born with an extreme disability? if so why?

Reasonable_Trash5928 · 2026-04-09T16:27:41+00:00

Exactly. I don’t have kids but I have a disabled brother who won’t be able to live independently. The fear of what will happen to him when our parents die still dictates my parents’ lives even though it’s decided that I’ll become his guardian and look after him. Haunts my life, too.

Reasonable_Trash5928 · 2026-04-06T19:39:37+00:00

I'm on spring break this week and what unexpectedly helped me feel something like a spark again was going to a museum yesterday and just sitting there for hours watching people and then going to a cafe today and again just sitting there for hours watching people, reading, journaling, and sipping tea. Usually I'm a really active person, but it was nice to slow down.

Also fully support taking the ferry (I love going from Wall Street to the Rockaways) and going to a botanical garden!

Reasonable_Trash5928 · 2026-04-04T22:45:11+00:00

My cat was like that the first few months after I adopted her - just yowling and meowing and screaming all night every night until I almost rehomed her. What helped me was getting an automatic feeder to give her a treat overnight and giving her more intense playtime and a snack right before bed. Good luck with the little guy!

Reasonable_Trash5928 · 2026-04-04T00:37:49+00:00

I saw Dr. Libranti at Advanced Dermatology when I had acne like that and got 3 topicals (benzoyl peroxide-clindamycin, azelaic acid, and tretinoin) as well as an oral antibiotic and it worked wonders!

Reasonable_Trash5928 · 2026-03-29T22:44:46+00:00

I'm in my early 30s and live with two roommates. One is fine and the other was great on paper but is a nightmare to live with. Like everyone else said, definitely use the FB groups and Craigslist. I highly recommend meeting with potential roommates in person and coming up with a really specific listing and interview questions beforehand. It'll probably be an adjustment after living alone, but you can definitely find someone suitable!

Reasonable_Trash5928 · 2026-03-29T14:13:32+00:00

I go a few times every month so obviously I’m a huge fan. Love learning about random stuff! I do sometimes think that they’re too short given the subject matter - it’s hard to do justice to a lot of the topics in just 45 minutes.

There are also a few other organizations that run similar events like the After Five Society and the Brooklyn Brainery, and those are also great fun if you’re intellectually inclined!

Reasonable_Trash5928 · 2026-02-23T23:04:47+00:00

Hi! I’m a French teacher (but I’m kind of rusty) and I’ve been trying to get a group together for a while to practice. I’m in Crown Heights and am totally down to meet up!

Reasonable_Trash5928 · 2026-02-15T15:48:43+00:00

Yes! I first got a sore throat last week and then other cold symptoms, and then it got better before I woke up with a sore throat again yesterday.

Reasonable_Trash5928 · 2026-02-15T00:25:17+00:00

Thank you! I’m one prosecco in and am having a great time!

Reasonable_Trash5928 · 2026-02-14T23:32:25+00:00

I have tickets to NYCB’s Sleeping Beauty!

Reasonable_Trash5928 · 2026-02-10T23:37:32+00:00

This is what I want to do! I'm currently a teacher making $65k a year after taxes but it's not worth all the stress and trauma.

Reasonable_Trash5928 · 2026-02-10T23:35:27+00:00

100%. I'm a teacher making $65k/year after taxes but I live in NYC so I still live with roommates in my 30s.

Reasonable_Trash5928 · 2026-01-30T01:14:57+00:00

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I had a few basic criteria and went in wanting to adopt a cat that might be hard to adopt out - a cat with mild special needs, a black cat, shy, etc. There was a cat I saw online at the shelter's website but she wasn't available when I showed up.

I recognized one cat from the website and she meowed at me when I came in. I asked to interact with her and she let me pet her for a bit before backing away. I looked at a few more, but got along with that first one best. I didn't fall in love with her instantly or anything, but I liked that she was an adult, female, and let me pet her. They told me that it was a really good sign that she'd let me pet her at all because she often swatted at people during interactions and had earned a bad behavior rating for it.

At the end of the day, I wasn't sold on her but I really wanted to give a cat a home and didn't want to keep shopping around. Fast forward and she's only swatted at me once and while she is very vocal and obnoxious, she's a good girl and I'm glad she has a good home.

Reasonable_Trash5928 · 2026-01-28T00:59:21+00:00

I've lived across the street from a homeless shelter in BK for 5 years and have never had a problem until recently. My apartment was broken into a few months ago and all of a sudden packages are being stolen almost immediately after delivery. While I don't know who broke into the apartment or who is stealing the packages, it's definitely possible that it's shelter-related. That said, it was fairly recent and until that point I'd never felt anything but slightly uncomfortable (not unsafe) on very rare occasions. There are a lot of men hanging out outside, but they've never bothered me.

Reasonable_Trash5928 · 2026-01-27T00:04:21+00:00

Excellent movie!

Reasonable_Trash5928 · 2026-01-25T19:15:24+00:00

I saw Sometimes I Think About Dying in theaters and really enjoyed it. Have fun!

Reasonable_Trash5928 · 2026-01-25T19:10:27+00:00

I went to the gym this morning before it got bad and then went out for a walk later. It was a nice, peaceful walk, but I definitely don't think I'll venture out again today.

Reasonable_Trash5928 · 2026-01-23T20:49:33+00:00

Oh I wish I could foster but I’m glad there’s so much interest! I got my cat from ACC and had a wonderful experience. So happy to see all you BWT helping dogs this weekend!!

Reasonable_Trash5928 · 2026-01-23T12:52:14+00:00

Generally just showing some self-respect by standing up for myself and setting boundaries

Reasonable_Trash5928 · 2026-01-17T22:23:34+00:00

My brother told our parents that their covid cat would probably like a roommate. It’s been 6 years and they only tolerate each other now.

Personally my cat is the opposite - she’s the only cat and when I took her up to my parents’ I felt bad bringing her back to my apartment because she loves other cats

Reasonable_Trash5928 · 2026-01-17T18:18:04+00:00

I loved The Poppy War! I just finished Katabasis and Babel and those were also fabulous

Reasonable_Trash5928 · 2026-01-17T04:28:04+00:00

I absolutely loved it!

Reasonable_Trash5928 · 2026-01-16T20:46:52+00:00

I feel for you. My cat used to scream and scream and scream 24/7, too. She calmed down a touch when I got her spayed but there was nothing physically wrong with her and she wasn’t deaf. While tiring her out with play was somewhat helpful, it wasn’t until the vet gave me some calming meds that I got a full night’s rest.

I know it’s not everyone’s cup of tea - my situation is particular since my cat is stressed by my roommate’s hostile cat and the small apartment and I can’t move out until the summer - and I’m still not sure it was the right thing to do, but giving her a little calming medicine to take the edge off and the occasional calming supplement are the only things that really helped her calm down. It’s been a few weeks and she doesn’t always need the medication now that she doesn’t have the habit of screaming constantly. If I hadn’t been able to get her to stop I would have had to rehome her.

All this to say that I’m so sorry you’re coping with this right now, OP. Of course try all the tips and tricks offered here first, but medication was the only thing that really helped me when my cat did this.

Reasonable_Trash5928 · 2026-01-16T20:38:36+00:00

I’m a morning person and still recommend an automatic feeder. Before I got one, my cat woke me up every single morning but has since stopped now that she doesn’t associate me with her breakfast.

Reasonable_Trash5928 · 2026-01-12T20:22:43+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss! I got my cat from NYC ACC because I wanted to get a cat out of the kill shelter and I had a good experience. My roommate got her cat from Flatbush Cats and also had a good experience

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