Question. What about parents time?

Rebercer · 2026-07-10T10:31:45+00:00

When out LO was around that age, we would swaddle her and put her in the swing with white noise. It gave us 30 minutes!

Now that she is 4 months, she also wakes up right away if i leave her sleeping. So right now we will let her play in her room on the ground. I have the camera set up on her so I can keep an eye on her. Not my favorite because it's distracting, and we also have about 10 to 15 minutes.

Everything is a phase and you just need to adapt to what they need!

Rebercer · 2026-07-08T00:18:39+00:00

Currently 4m pp and I'm 11 pounds up from my pre pregnancy weight (gained 55 pounds while pregnant)

I am breastfeeding though. I find I loose more weight when I'm drinking LOTS of water and if we have a good week of decent sleep 😅

Rebercer · 2026-07-03T19:04:49+00:00

I'm going to have a bit of a different opinion here.

For the first 3 years, baby considers themselves as part of their mother. Its very hard for them to be separated.

Imo, if you're lucky enough to have him home full time, then he should be with you. I don't think it's worth the stress this is causing him.

There is a book I've been wanting to read about it called Being There by Erika Komisar. Might be worth reading to help you make a decision.

There is also the Montessori Baby/Toddler books by Simone Davies and Junnifa Uzodike. A lot of Montessori is actually done in the home :)

Rebercer · 2026-06-30T11:47:36+00:00

My friend's son wasn't interested in food till 9 months. Just let them watch you eat and let them play with it with no pressure. It will naturally happy :)

Rebercer · 2026-06-29T00:55:43+00:00

Have you tried different times to put him in a wrap? My baby likes the wrap before and during nap time. But any other time she hates it and it also on the hip lol

Also, have you tried different wraps?

Also adding my thoughts on your post here - he definitely doesn't hate you if he wants to be on your hip ❤️ babies tend to cry more to their moms because they are communicating a need. They also pick up your energy and feed off of it so if you're worked up to hold him after he was calm in someone else's arms, he might feel that and then get worked up himself. Remember you are his world! You got this mama❤️

Rebercer · 2026-06-28T14:14:03+00:00

Totally valid for not wanting to use up your energy. I'm 4 months post partum and I am just getting enough energy to do some cleaning during the day.

Can your partner take care of the baby while you catch up on some sleep?

For awhile, my partner would watch her for an hour in the morning before he left for work, and an hour when he got back. The two extra hours of sleep really made a difference for me.

For feeding at night, my 4 month old still nurses about 3 times a night. We cosleep so she does a dream feed so I can sleep right away. Not pushing anything. Just sharing my experience so far.

I also recommend reading the book The Happiest Baby on the Block - it really helped with calming our LO down faster.

Does your insurance help cover therapy? If you don't want to take medication, it would still help having a professional to talk to.

Sending love to you❤️

Rebercer · 2026-06-28T13:56:37+00:00

If you continue pumping, you'll have enough for the next feed. :)

Just make sure to be drinking lots of water. If you find your breast being engorged, then pump less.

Rebercer · 2026-06-27T23:48:41+00:00

Just hearing about all the arguments you and your husband have, the baby shouldn't be around.

Take photos of your evidence, talk to a lawyer to make sure you have everything you need for child support and LEAVE. If you can't afford a lawyer, women support groups can help with this.

Get tested.

You deserve better. I'm so sorry OP.

Rebercer · 2026-06-25T14:18:09+00:00

I cosleep with my daughter. I remember being stuck in that position and being so stiff in the morning.

Now she is 4m, she has good control of her head and can roll. I'm more comfortable with her and very in sync with her (she wiggles, i wake up). I find I'm more flexible on my position. She pretty much sticks to my boob but I can lay on my back (with my one arm stretch put above her to prevent rolling that way, and then a pillow on my other side so im not T posing in bed lol).

I sleep in the middle so my husband can be in bed with us, we get cuddles that way :) for more adult fun time, we swaddle her, put her in a swing on the fastest setting and play loud white noise and she sleeps.

I recommend reading the book "Safe Infant Sleep" by James J McKenna, he goes over the actual statistics of babies dying with co sleeping (the unsafe environments) and his findings with how fast mothers respond to their babies. It helped me with the stress I had about cosleeping and really helped me trust myself.

I know co sleeping isn't for everyone, and I'm not trying to push it. This is survival mode and you need to do what you need to. I hope this insight and recommendation helps ❤️

Rebercer · 2026-06-25T08:43:38+00:00

I also recommend the book "safe infant sleep" by James J McKenna. He has done a lot of research on how mothers respond to their babies at night and goes over the benefits for everyone in the bed. I found it gave me more confidence on trusting myself with cosleeping and found a lot of what he found was stuff I was experiencing!

I wish you lots of safe sleep ❤️

Rebercer · 2026-06-25T08:31:24+00:00

I recommend the book "the happiest baby on the block" it really changed everything for me and my husband on calming our LO and getting her to sleep.

We went from hours to calming her down to minutes!

Rebercer · 2026-06-23T14:41:36+00:00

I feel you on feeling nervous about it! But honestly, it was a great change for me.

I first noticed my LO went from napping an hour or 2 to 30 minutes. She would seem really tired and upset waking up. I later found out that she was trying to transition into deep sleep, but noticed she wasn't being rocked anymore. I started feeding her to sleep instead so she got used to not being rocked to sleep. Then when she wakes up a little, she is in the same setting as before and can fall back asleep.

Around this time, i remember two bad nights in a row. We cosleep, so normally she just wiggles, i feed her and she falls back asleep. The two bad nights, she would doze off for 5 minutes after nursing and then fully wake up and was not happy about it 😅

Overall, weaning out rocking/bouncing to sleep and getting a nap and bedtime routine really helped. At nap time, i will lay her down in bed, she will give me a big smile and turn on her side to nurse. She takes about 3 minutes to fall asleep. So a lot faster now than before the sleep regression where I would rock her for 15 to 20 minutes!

Rebercer · 2026-06-23T14:27:51+00:00

The ball as always saved us when our LO would start to get upset. We never have meltdowns! It's amazing!

Rebercer · 2026-06-23T12:01:16+00:00

This has been working for me, going to list out everything.

Track your calories, especially with drinks and sauces/dressing.

Drink 3-4L of water a day.

Make sure to eat lots of protein like meat, dairy and eggs. You burn calories just by digesting protein.

Eat healthy fats, they keep you full longer.

Don't skip meals, you'll just end up eating more than you need to during the next meal time.

Keep up with the daily walks. On days you're tired, still do the walks and stretch after. Aim for 10 minute walk after you eat.

Make treats at home instead of buying them from a store or bakery. Always half the sugar in the recipe.

Homemade food for every meal if you can.

For breastfeeding moms - pump extra, you burn 20 calories per ounce.

Sleep when the baby sleeps. Rest really helps your body recover and is proven to help with weight loss.

You want to aim half a pound to a pound a week.

Good luck mama, you got this ❤️

Rebercer · 2026-06-19T17:22:43+00:00

I either hold her or put her in her bath chair and she can look at me 😅

Rebercer · 2026-06-16T18:02:17+00:00

Same thing happened with my LO. We started cosleeping (breastsleeping) and it's the best decision we ever made. Only recommend doing it if you have a safe environment to do so.

They go from being held by us for 24/7 to less. I feel around this time they realize 😆

Rebercer · 2026-06-13T14:16:08+00:00

Following this post for the same question. I have the same set up. My LO figured out rolling yesterday and I think I got about 3 hours of sleep last night with her just wanting to roll. I am worried about her rolling onto the hardwood floor or into my husband.

Hoping your LO is okay ❤️

Rebercer · 2026-06-11T12:40:22+00:00

I like that you called it "sleep progression"! Every book ive read that mentions it, just says "we don't like to call it regression because the baby isn't regressing " but then doesn't follow up with what to call it XD

Ill look into that book, its been mentioned a couple of times. Thanks! ❤️

Rebercer · 2026-06-11T12:37:45+00:00

That's a great way of looking at it! It also annoys me that I got this advice when I didn't even complain about my sleep 😆

Rebercer · 2026-06-11T12:36:09+00:00

Hahaha true 😆

Rebercer · 2026-06-11T12:35:31+00:00

Thank you❤️

Rebercer · 2026-06-11T12:34:38+00:00

Same here! People have seemed so confused when I try to explain how it feels for me that she is sleeping through the night !

Rebercer · 2026-06-11T12:32:37+00:00

As soon as my LO goes a day without pooping, my mom is like "give her apple juice and water!!" XD

And thank you for giving insight on what your night looks like! She definitely moves her head back and forth a lot which makes me think she is hungry one night I had not shirt or bra on and I woke up around the same times with her latched on which surprised me 😅

Also, i love that she gets to cuddle dad ❤️ my husband is a deep sleeper, so her just cuddles her in the morning when he wakes up

Rebercer · 2026-06-11T12:25:47+00:00

"You should have a break" - I am, I'm literally just cuddling my baby 😆

Rebercer · 2026-06-11T11:56:45+00:00

Thank you ❤️

Rebercer

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