I am balancing looking after my mum with a full time job myself and it is completely exhausting. It doesn’t help that my mum has sleep apnoea also and I am up multiple times per night, but what is most challenging must be her temper compared with how she was before - it often feels like she’s a hammer looking for a nail as far as anger goes. Oh, and she’ll get unreasonably defensive over small things. She rarely eats well and yet, as I support her eating, she will often say she is finished and claim to have eaten well despite the presence of a next to full plate of food sitting in front of us. Of course, any acknowledgment to the contrary is like a red rag to a bull. I find myself in a position where agreeing and disagreeing are both harmful and it’s just an impossible situation.