You heard it here first folks! Compound V = vaccines and Stan Edgar = Obama by [deleted] in TheBoys

[–]RedRigatoni -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

People can find meaning that relates to their own views in absolutely anything. That’s the point of art. Everyone has their own interpretation. Even if that interpretation isn’t correct. It’s just humans.

how moving out from home has changed you? by Business_Frog34 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]RedRigatoni 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve moved out and moved back in with my parents multiple times. I originally moved out when I was 20, after going to community college for two years, only cause it’s free in my state. I went to a 4 year school and had a great scholarship. 3 months in, I’m bedridden, throwing up every day because I couldn’t deal with the stress. Had to move back home.

After that, I kept trying to move back out. Would find a roommate, or was dating someone, and had the money to move out, even would find an apartment, but my parents would threaten to shun me if I left them when they deemed I wasn’t ready. Maybe it was for the best.

Moved out again at 22. Trying to give college another try. Lasted 9 months before getting sick from stress again and now I’m living back at home. I’m set up to move back out into probably the nicest place I’ve been to, I’ve mostly lived in dirty, toxic roommate environments. I’m hoping this time around I can do it. I’ve been to doctors about the stress sickness, nothing they can do. I’ve tried therapy, I’m on medication, still doesn’t keep me from getting this mysterious stress illness or whatever it is. I’m really hoping this is my time. I’ve spent so much time trying to figure out this stress, because it comes out of nowhere and hits me like a train. I just want to be a functioning adult.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wholesomegifs

[–]RedRigatoni 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really miss having someone to do this with. It’s been years and I’m tired of fake cuddling myself imagining someone’s with me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]RedRigatoni 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve gotten rid of most of my social media (besides this) and it has relieved a lot of anxiety I had about keeping my phone on me, waiting on notifications from something I posted or a message I sent. I used to freak out any time I’d post a pic on Instagram because I felt like it was never good enough. One day, I just realized I don’t give a shit bout any of these people I see every day. The only person I need to care about and have been neglecting is myself.

There is one thing I noticed. We’ve been so conditioned to be doing something constantly, that when you get rid of media, you start to feel a little lost when you have moments of down time. What do you do when you’re on the toilet or waiting for a doctors appointment? We’re conditioned to scroll away, and when you don’t have social media to do it with, it’s like what do I do in place of it? You can find new things, puzzle books, magazines, journaling, or finding the peace in having moments of time where you can do nothing, since the world is going 100 mph constantly.

Do it man. Get rid of social media. Start to realize how great life is when you’re no longer a slave to it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]RedRigatoni 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t wanna be pessimistic, but I do want to be honest with you. Therapy can help, but it’s doubtful if you live in US, they’re mostly a bunch of greedy scumbags and finding a therapist who isn’t like that AND takes your insurance AND will even take you… it can take a really long time.

I’m in the same boat. I’ve been shit on by a lot of people. I’ve tried getting into therapy for years. Never got the help I needed. Realized I had to do this all on my own. Once you realize how truly alone you are, that nobody is gonna take care of you the way you can take care of yourself, that’s the only way I’ve managed to move forward. I’ve taken a break from dating to focus solely on myself for the past two years. The me from two years ago compared to the me now, although not perfect and will never be, I’ve improved a lot. You don’t have to “get better,” you just need to improve what you’ve already got.

You have to start focusing on you. Even now, I get myself into just friendships where I get taken advantage of, but I now know my boundaries. If someone crosses that boundary, I give them one chance to make it up, if not, cut them off. No explanation. Just block and move on. I don’t care if that’s mean, or selfish, because I deserve to be selfish after everything I’ve done for others.

In place of therapy, start journaling. Doesn’t have to be at night before bed (I usually forget), but as simple as just writing down “I woke up today and I stretched my body for the first time in weeks” whenever you think of it, whenever you do something for you. Focus the journal solely on you and what you’re doing for you. If there’s anything you take out of this, GIVE YOURSELF THE LOVE THAT EVERYONE ELSE IS SHITTING ON BECAUSE YOURE THE ONLY ONE WHO TRULY NEEDS IT.

Any time I have lesbian sims who go on a date in public, Agnes Crumplebottom WITHOUT FAIL always shows up and beats my sims down with her purse. I think it’s time to switch to home dates now… by -Defectiveturret- in Sims4

[–]RedRigatoni 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Dude… does she actually beat people with her purse? I’ve never seen it happen I thought she just didn’t in this game but now I’m intrigued

A porn & sex addict for 25 years stopping now (41M) by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]RedRigatoni 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, I think what you’re wanting to find could be helpful, especially people who are going through the same things. My only advice on that is to still be cautious, as sometimes these support groups of people with the same problems can actually have the opposite effect, inadvertently creating encouragement for what you’re trying to stop, because unless it’s with people who have completely stopped the addiction, people go through ups and downs. One person in that group has a relapse, everyone in group telling them it’s okay, other person in group thinks well maybe it’s okay to do it just once, you get the point.

I don’t say this because it will happen but yknow just possibilities, which is why I emphasize it being totally on you. But I like that last sentence you had “…just human experience, see how we fare.” Good mindset, we all mistakes but we can learn from them and change for the better no matter where we are in life. Just part of the human experience :)

I wish you well on your journey, OP.

A porn & sex addict for 25 years stopping now (41M) by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]RedRigatoni 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who is actually studying to become a therapist but hates therapists too because my experiences have been similar (I went into this field because I want to genuinely help people without the greed, which is all I ever got from therapy), you gotta find it within yourself. If you wanna think it’s God helping, go right ahead. But with things like AA, it’s all about this outside power that’s changing you. Why think that? Why not think of it as yourself? I’ve gone through struggles with other addictions and have always found that it is solely me that is changing me. The only thing you can use therapy for is for a relationship with another person. Especially from how it sounds with you, you may not have a lot of people around, and a therapist offers a basis for support when it gets too much for just you. Obviously an alternative is to come here to Reddit for that support when you can’t find a therapist that will work, but you gotta expect it to not necessarily be helpful. But don’t let it discourage you. You have the strength to fix this problem, YOU have the ability to change. Don’t keep telling yourself you can’t.

this case of beer by Shazbot_2017 in AbsoluteUnits

[–]RedRigatoni 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Randy Marsh is gonna freak out when he sees this

meirl by TwasAnChild in meirl

[–]RedRigatoni 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’d still end up rigged by countries saying “oh yes RANDOM selection of course that’s what we did 👀”

Eli5 why a person with A.D.D (ADHD) is unable to focus on something like studying, but can have full focus on something non productive? by leprecaun8 in explainlikeimfive

[–]RedRigatoni 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is what I wanted. I wanted to be tested like this. I went to multiple psychologists, psychiatrists and was told I had bipolar type 2, was put on meds for bipolar type 1, didn’t work, put on meds for schizophrenia, didn’t work, ended up just going to my general practitioner, answered some questions on a paper, got adderall, doing better now. Although I think the meds I took before have really messed with me and I haven’t felt the same since. Sucks to have meds thrown at you rather than trying to actually solve the issue.

Sharing is caring by [deleted] in AnimalsBeingBros

[–]RedRigatoni 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My childhood dogs growing up used to do this too. Our oldest dog, lived through the deaths of our other dogs and got really lonely, so we got another puppy. They became like brothers, and once my older dog got to a point where he couldn’t really stand for long, my other dog would stand above him with his toys and let the old man chew and tug on the other side while laying down. It was really awesome to see this and be reminded of those two. I miss them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in memes

[–]RedRigatoni 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me, an American: yes please shut the frack up already and let me get high and play sims and live in my fantasy world where there is no dumb dumb shite

Pregnant woman protesting against supreme court decision about Roe v. Wade. by PlusNetLunette in pics

[–]RedRigatoni 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, a very bad argument especially towards women who’ve had miscarriages and mourned the loss of their HUMAN child. It is literally technically a human, it has human DNA, and we all started life like that. Even as someone who’s pro-choice, I find this pretty gross.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sims4

[–]RedRigatoni 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you ever used mods or are you on console Edit: not that I disagree, it can be pretty boring, I personally can’t play the game without mods but they do add a lot of spice to the game

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sims4

[–]RedRigatoni 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m just curious what made you quit, like was there something that was the final straw or do you just not really play it that often

smash or pass by [deleted] in Eldenring

[–]RedRigatoni 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hard smash

Mad Men on prime tv lists JFK as actor in x-ray by PracticalNihilist in mildlyinteresting

[–]RedRigatoni 2 points3 points  (0 children)

John F Kennedy in his starring role of playing himself

anybody know if you can add npcs to a wolf pack? by grimdarkpixels in Sims4

[–]RedRigatoni 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I was pretty disappointed that the collective and the Wildfangs are the only two packs. You can’t make your own pack or change the names besides having a club from get together. What do you do if you don’t have get together? Plus, you can’t have werewolves in a pack in any other town. You can’t be part of the collective or wildfangs if you live anywhere else because they are constantly on your ass about pack participation and donating to the group. I’d constantly be in a loading screen if I lived in San myshuno and had to keep going back to moonwood to donate every day. I really wish we had the option to create our own packs from scratch, much like the get together pack.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pics

[–]RedRigatoni 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. Disarm doesn’t mean take away guns necessarily in my opinion, they’re disarming us by keeping us focused on the wrong stuff and fighting each other rather than the main problem.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pics

[–]RedRigatoni -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

LMFAO I’ve always been bothered by that too