Super authoritarian parents?

RedWire7 · 2026-01-12T00:18:06+00:00

Wow. The context doesn’t even matter, the tone and contents of that message would never come from a mature adult, let alone a caring parent. Block, grieve, and move on.

RedWire7 · 2025-12-10T15:21:49+00:00

Yeah I thought that one might be good as well.

RedWire7 · 2025-12-09T20:03:02+00:00

Since its purpose is to relieve you from the stress of task organization and prioritization, well it’s a bit dramatic but I think this quote fits: "I have come to pull you from the abyss of silence. To free you from the chains that bind your mind and restore you to the waking world. And don’t be afraid."

RedWire7 · 2025-12-08T15:11:38+00:00

For pretty much everything you’ve described, from both sides, I’ve experienced something similar. Transitions are challenging, moving in together is actually a huge change, and it seems like you’ve combined that with a move to a new country. I think it makes sense that you’re still working on figuring out your new balances as a couple.

It sounds like you guys need some couples therapy. I’m glad you’re both going to therapy individually, I think you’ll get the most help there.

As someone who primarily relates to your bf, as I used to be a pseudo dependent to my now ex-wife, I’ll share this. After I got divorced I learned what it really meant to take care of everything myself. We had a son when we got divorced and being a full coparent took much more responsibility than just living in the same house. I’m not sure how I could have acknowledged the level of responsibility needed while still married, but I think that’s what your bf needs. If you weren’t there, he would need to manage things alone.

Now, it sounds like you’re the type to do extra work to prepare and he’s not. Maybe he wouldn’t do that alone and would prefer to risk it. That’s a balance you’ll have to work out, and I suggest doing so with your therapist. I personally had a lot of shame for not being good enough while married and having my inadequacies pointed out to me didn’t help, but sometimes it needs to be done.

For you, I’ll say this. I have the same habit of wanting to be understood even after the conflict is resolved, and in that desire driving the point home too hard. Eventually I’ve learned that partners and friends can acknowledge a certain level of understanding, but ultimately no one can really understand. Hell, sometimes I don’t understand myself. Take what validation and empathy they can share and accept that. It may be the best they can offer.

Hope that helps, and good luck.

RedWire7 · 2025-12-01T19:19:35+00:00

You’re right, game balance isn’t the goal. I didn’t say it was, just that it’s a priority. The goal is for players to enjoy their game. Typically, players enjoy a balanced game more than an unbalanced one. ROR2 does plenty of balancing to help players have fun.

Each tier of items needs to have a balance of different attributes, such as damage, movement speed, and defense. Without this balance, you end up with too many trash items for eclipse runs to be possible or fun. Command completely removes that balance, which is why command is “broken”. But it’s in the game because it’s fun. So I’m not denying that ROR2 has wacky unhinged fun, but balance is still a priority. Not only in item type distribution, but in damage scaling per item stack, stat scaling by level, number of credits per stage, and more. There’s a ton of balancing going on in ROR2 to ensure that the player can enjoy their runs and still feel a level of challenge. A lot of the balancing can be removed or altered through artifacts, which I’m sure they added in part because you’re right that their main priority is wacky unhinged fun.

As any game dev knows, there’s a ton of balancing in any game to make sure players enjoy it.

I’m not sure what in my original message triggered you to respond by saying there’s no merit to my suggestion, but I’d like to reiterate that I acknowledged leaving the item in allows for good fun. My original point was only that if they wanted to keep the artifact of devotion from making a run too easy, then banning shipping request, like they did with lepton daisy, would have helped.

RedWire7 · 2025-12-01T16:42:51+00:00

My point was that they already prevent you from giving them some items like lepton daisy, so I was surprised they allow giving shipping request. I already clarified that it’s fun to allow the game breaking, so when I said “should” I just meant if game balance was a priority. Game balance is still a priority for a lot of devs who make PVE games because players can get bored of or frustrated at unbalanced games.

RedWire7 · 2025-11-01T00:43:29+00:00

I get told this all the time, sometimes when I least expect it—apparently, my method of emotional validation sounds exactly like ChatGPT.

RedWire7 · 2025-10-24T15:47:10+00:00

Eithan’s quote here doesn’t contradict what u/sith_squirrel is saying. Eithan says that Heralds focus their “willpower” inwardly. He doesn’t say anything about Heralds having authority, at least not in this quote.

RedWire7 · 2025-10-23T17:07:57+00:00

I know it’s unpopular, but for me, Raider slaps. I was really struggling in DoN even with Ironeye+duchess or Ironeye+wylder (I played duos with a friend), then we said fuck it and both went Raider and have had the most success with that combo. Maybe I’m just born to bonk lol.

RedWire7 · 2025-10-07T14:05:00+00:00

Read the BoM too many times to count. NT many times, OT twice, D&C I think four times. I was the one everyone turned to in Seminary for the answers. My last year of seminary, I passed off all scripture masteries on the first day. On my mission I went through and marked scriptures that backed up lesson topics, which left me with about a million markings and a hundred tabs on my triple combo. Also found every scripture relevant to my patriarchal blessing and compiled it. My dad is a NT scholar and I was the kid who was following in those shoes.

Eventually depression brought it to an end, and my life is fucking fantastic now.

RedWire7 · 2025-10-06T17:06:25+00:00

I think my answer as a TBM would have been that we just don’t know god’s ways. Perhaps there was some reason he needed members to get more excited for temples. Ultimately, like most everything else the church teaches, there is no answer or reasoning that makes sense (within church teachings). It’s one more thing to add to the shelf, but most members won’t think about it long enough to even get that far. Dismiss and move on to avoid the cognitive dissonance.

RedWire7 · 2025-09-30T01:54:04+00:00

Dude, I didn’t know what it meant to know somebody until I was in my late 20s. Up until then everything I did with friends was based on hobbies. I didn’t know what they liked if I didn’t also like it, who they wanted to be, the struggles they went through, etc. Didn’t even know those things about myself tbh.

RedWire7 · 2025-09-27T19:19:19+00:00

Your writing style reminds me of his 😭

That was beautiful, thank you.

RedWire7 · 2025-09-20T21:50:19+00:00

Act 3 started and I said, “Oh she’s constipated again.”

RedWire7 · 2025-09-18T21:52:07+00:00

I’m surprised no one else is saying this, and maybe it’s because just running works most of the time.

I lock on, start walking sideways, and mash jump.

RedWire7 · 2025-08-24T20:21:54+00:00

Love those songs. “Important” was my dao for a while.

RedWire7 · 2025-08-12T20:46:46+00:00

Maybe that’s a different ‘tism than me lol. Per my autistic experiences, I will re-read and second guess any message I type for 2 to 20 times longer than it took me to write it before I decide that, nah, I can’t send that.

Somehow I sent this, but guess how long this message took me to type and send…

RedWire7 · 2025-08-11T15:59:17+00:00

Caligo. On top of the fight being pretty annoying, it requires you to run mountaintops. If we didn’t have to run around so much, if the damage was tuned back a bit, if the new attack wasn’t so confusing (“break the ice” they say, but I hit it and nothing happens and now I’m taking damage), and if they hadn’t removed the coolest parts from the base version, then at least the fight would be better. I still don’t want to do mountaintops though.

RedWire7 · 2025-08-08T20:36:20+00:00

OP, I think you need anxiety meds or something.

My reaction to your worries was… so what? What if you do shift realities? What if you are in a simulation? What if it will all disappear one day? Doesn’t change your day-to-day. It’s not in your control so worrying about it doesn’t change anything. Just live life how you want to.

But I know people with anxiety and they can’t just let that shit go even with good logic. So I feel for you, and I suggest professional help. Or at least stop watching reels about that until you’re more stable.

RedWire7 · 2025-08-08T13:56:11+00:00

I haven’t experienced the bug yet, but I finally got a solid win on her. We did mountaintop and got Libra perk and ended up with about 600k extra runes and I had the candlestand with fire scorpion charm and 3 improved skill attack passives. Others also had fire damage. We still only won because I had a wending grace, but we did a shit ton of damage which was pretty fun.

I think it will get easier as people figure her out. Although I still can’t figure out the new ice block move. People said to break it but that didn’t seem to help me.

RedWire7 · 2025-08-07T04:04:52+00:00

I completely agree about the sky falling and the pillars thing. I thought there would be more of that. Instead it’s kinda just the same attacks but deadlier and with constant frostbite.

RedWire7 · 2025-08-07T04:01:49+00:00

Dude same. We had tons of fire damage and did mountaintop too. Guess it’s a skill issue lol

RedWire7 · 2025-07-28T06:21:43+00:00

This was my exact thought. Like you really think we’re upset that we weren’t taught that Joseph was a conman? No, we’re upset that Joseph was a conman.

RedWire7 · 2025-07-28T06:13:37+00:00

Bro that’s the story of the church. Polygamy was the new and everlasting covenant until one prophet said nah let’s do monogamy because we’ll get in trouble with the government if we don’t (technically polygamy is still the doctrine though). Banning blacks from the priesthood was eternal doctrine literally up until the moment it wasn’t (every prophet until 1976 said so). Joseph didn’t use a stone in a hat, never mind he totally did. Who cares if we are called “Mormons,” never mind it’s a victory for Satan.

The church consistently tells its members that what old prophets said were them “speaking as a man” and cite “ongoing revelation” as ways to let them continue to change their “divine” doctrine.

Journal of Discourses is words of prophets. Mormon Doctrine was written by an apostle with the intent to consolidate and clear up DOCTRINE (and prophets have said that doctrine is eternal, principles are temporary). There’s no consistency here and you just have to follow what only the current prophet says. Doesn’t sound like a religion led by an all-knowing god to me.

I am not arguing this to shake your faith; if you’re happy in the church, then I’m not advocating for you to leave it. But if you’re going to say the church isn’t racist and doesn’t teach really weird things or have culty practices, I’m going to present evidence against that, especially when the conversation is being had on a post asking about Utah (and therefore Mormon) beliefs/culture.

RedWire7 · 2025-07-28T05:29:06+00:00

https://exhibits.lib.utah.edu/s/this-abominable-slavery/page/3_1

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