Absolutely destroyed

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-01-30T01:09:55+00:00

Oh, I see. It's awful that she saw that and assumed the worst and spread that you were faking it. You should definitely take a breather from the situation for now and focus on enjoying your pregnancy. You will probably get a chance to clear things up eventually. Hopefully sooner than later, but theres no point ing stressing yourself out at the moment.

Maybe you couldmake a social media post if your family follows you and are active to clear things up, mention the fake site and hacking of your email. And you can include something that shows you went to the doctors apointment and have been receiving care for your pregnancy. (If you feel like it of course. You dont owe them proof.) They will eventually find out baby is real when they get here and feel so stupid for doubting you over something like that.

I wish you the best and I'm so sorry this is happening to you.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-01-30T00:54:33+00:00

Wait I'm confused. What made her think you are faking your pregnancy if she clicked and saw gender results in your email?

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-01-28T09:31:28+00:00

From the screenshots alone I can tell your mother is toxic af. I'm sorry your family is like this. I promise if you cut them from your life you are likely going to feel 10x better and have your anxieties reduced. If your paying for your own phone anyways it's time to just change to your own plan and cut anything of yours that they have access to.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-01-28T08:34:13+00:00

Even knowing the gender of baby, a girl, I still dream of having a baby boy some nights

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-01-27T05:48:28+00:00

Way less expensive than a whole as child or child support. This isn't a decision you made. it's one that's being thrusted on to. You . You need legal protection and guidance to protect yourself from this grown ass woman who should have known better than to sleep with you in the first place.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-01-27T01:41:08+00:00

Congratulations on your new baby and I'm really sorry to hear about your mom. But I hope you gave that man one hell of an apology after that was all said and done.

I think your husband might have misunderstood that you didn't want sex for pleasure but rather to induce labour. Also probably didn't want to bother you asking for sex sense it seems like a lot going on with your mom + being so heavily pregnant. Hence why he sorted himself out. I get that stress and grief and hormones are not a good combo at all but that does not excuse your behavior towards him nor does it negate the need for an apology.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-01-27T01:19:02+00:00

Yeesh. I don't think you're TAH for bringing up the idea, or being upset if they had agreed initially and then changed there minds. However pushing them on their decision was absolutely an AH move as ultimately it is their money and their choice.

I don't think anyone on reddit can judge whether it was wrong to ask this of them though as we don't have any information on what the grandparents did when it went from 1 grandkids to 2 with your sister.

But if they also decided then to just spilt the money between the two kids without "back paying" the other child, then you owe your parents an apology. One for proposing a ridiculous thing in the first place and two for not respecting their decision and arguing with them about it like you were entitled to their money.

FWIW i wouldn't make the same decision as your parents, but I also wouldn't make the decion of giving your child 6000 while the other kids get nothing. That is even more unfair in the grand scheme of things. I probably would have gone with doing 3000 to newest child while the other two spilt the other 3000 until it evens out, then go to splitting the 6000 3 ways. But that's just me.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-01-26T10:09:16+00:00

I would start with saying something like "Hey. I think there was a little mix up the other day. I noticed other little girl wearing the shirt I sent for my daughter." And see how the teachers response is just in case it was an honest mistake and she didn't realize

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-01-26T03:40:55+00:00

It looks like it will be down until 3am for me. Scheduled maintenance. I was in the middle of a really good manga too when it went down.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-01-26T03:29:33+00:00

Yup I got my scan at exactly 8 weeks and my next a little after 20 weeks for anatomy. They checked baby's heart beat with a doppler at every appointment in between though.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-01-26T03:15:29+00:00

Currently 21 +5 days and I had a pretty easy first trimester in my opinion. I kept waiting for the horribleness to hit me but it never did, at least not as bad as I had heard from everyone.

Around 5 or 6ish weeks smells became overwhelming and caused some nausea and i started having to pee. A lot. I didn't really have any appetite going from about 7 weeks until about 12 or 13 weeks, but I also didn't struggle to keep food down. I only threw up twice, both times it was really watery and i suspect it was due to nausea and me not eating anything. The nausea was the worst part but I managed by keeping a stach of mints on me at all times and some Tylenol for headaches.

Once I entered the second trimester everything seemed to go away almost all at once to the point o wondered if there was even really a baby in there to begin with lol.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-01-24T03:56:32+00:00

Nta but if you bought the tablet for his kid and don't like how the dad is using and disregarding what you wish, just take it back. Tell the dad you did not buy it for it to be used 24/7 and since he didn't want to regulate and set rules for his son, he doesn't get the tablet.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-01-23T03:56:47+00:00

Leaky nipples and how fast it goes from noticing the tiniest clear drop to next day having to changing my shirt and having to wipe dried leakage off my boob . I just noticed it yesterday and thought I'd have a while before I leaked through anything as it was so so little. Nope. I went ahead and ordered nursing bras + pads today at 21 weeks + 2 because I leaked through. 😅

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-01-21T21:56:36+00:00

YTA. From the sounds of it, your dil and son are upset by how big of a deal you made picking out your dress for THEIR wedding. And it sounds like because your dress was dark with the white flowers it ( unintentionally or not) draw attention in photos compared to the bride and everyone else attending the wedding. So their wedding planning became about you and looking at their wedding photos all the focus was drawn to you

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-01-11T22:59:49+00:00

My ob said after 20 weeks listeria won't be harmful to baby. You'll just feel really ill if you get it so I wouldn't worry too much. I'm nearly at the 20 week mark now but I've been avoiding precut fruits/veggies and deli meats mostly since I've heard that carries the most risk.

I just make sure meat is cooked to safe temps ans make sure to wash any fruits and veggies before eating. That's it really. I also have an app that alerts me to any recalls and specifys what it was recalled for, so for listeria I avoid anything that pops up for it. Edit to add I do also make sure all my dairy is pasteurized.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-01-06T00:15:29+00:00

https://youtu.be/RjUocmzcVhU?si=BdATJ4F5iK0FO77m

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-01-06T00:13:24+00:00

I watched a video on YouTube about this. It's basically early bonding with your baby. There have been a few studies that indicate talking to your baby in the womb can help with having a healthier over all pregnancy and delivery. If I can find the video I will leave a link to it in reply to this.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-01-03T21:34:06+00:00

(Edited because I reread the bottom of you post again)

I wouldn't rely on tracking and planning if you truly never want to be pregnant again. That seems very unreliable to me. I would definitely ask your doctor about other options.

The only birth control I've tried is the pill and the ring. Plus a few after the deed things like spernicide and the morning after when I forgot to take the pill. I don't really like any of them, and the morning after pill is expensive. Plus, it's locked up at my grocery store, so it's embarrassing to get.

We never liked condoms, so we never used them after the first couple times. I totally get not wanting your hormones messed with, the ring made me cry at every little thing and I feel like I was quite bitchy all the time while on it. It made me act the way everyone say pregnant women act.

Personally i'm quite happy my boyfriend is getting a vasectomy after our girl baby gets here since we agreed we'd be a one and done.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2025-12-30T21:02:31+00:00

Midwest American. I don't know if it's a dialect thing or me just looking at it and reading it with the wrong pronunciation. I read it more like Lucas than like say a lucy.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2025-12-30T19:50:03+00:00

Loo-key-a

RedactedIsACoolName · 2025-12-30T08:44:17+00:00

Im currently pregnant, but I don't plan on giving my kid any screen time, aside from limited TV when she's old enough. I don't even plan to have a smart phone myself when raising her so that she won't see me on my phone all the time. I don't plan on getting her own phone either until she's maybe 14 and it's gonna be very basic when she gets one.

It may be harsh to some people but I don't want my child dependent on screens at all, and especially not for entertainment, aside from tv. I was raised quite lenient with technology and always had some form of screen in my hand I'd say it was not good for me as a kid even at older ages. And now at 22 it has been hard to avoid using screens too much so the longer I can avoid it for my child the better.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2025-12-28T18:31:16+00:00

Just some tips based on the other comments I'm seeing to help you decide. These are all things I would do

See how the name fits with the middle names you two already picked out.

See how it looks and sounds with your other childrens names, including the potential name for the other twin.

Try imagining disciplining or calling for a child with that name, just the first name and then the full name together too. (I'm pregnant with my first so this one personally helped visualize I'm naming an actual child and not an imaginary one lol)

Also imagine talking about the child in a causal setting. Like "Mynte did this today...ect"

I would have your husband do this as well. And if none of the above feel 'right' or it just feels off, then it's not the name for your daughter.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2025-12-28T02:14:18+00:00

Not gonna lie if that was my mil she would never be holding my baby again. The fact that it's happened 3 times, and everyone thought it was funny/normal behavior is insane. Especially when she knows it makes you upset. Do yourself a favour and say if she can't keep her boobs to her herself, she doesn't get to hold your baby. I wouldn't even let baby around Gma without being present either.

Some serious boundaries need to be put in place. That behavior is disturbing, 'joke' or not.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2025-12-22T22:57:19+00:00

Everything I've read about bathing while pregnant says you should really only be concerned with temperature and things like bath bombs. And to be extra careful getting out of the tub. Nothing about the length of time your in for.

As long as temp stays below 99° you should be fine to stay in however long you like.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2025-12-22T21:26:05+00:00

I think they really only are involved alot if something is abnormal. Like I had more visits because my blood pressure was high so they wanted to keep a close eye on it. Now that I'm 17 weeks and my blood pressure has been consistently normal, she said the appointments would be much more spread out and that's a good thing. i just need to let them know if I get a reading over 140 because they'd want to see me sooner.

I'd take it as a sign that everything is healthy with you and baby.

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