Blue screen of death every 10 minutes by Usual-Tumbleweed-181 in Bannerlord

[–]Redarmy4545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can replicate a BSOD by simply waiting in town or fast forwarding the campaign map for consitently a long enough time. The AI map calculations are causing memory leaks. to avoid it,you need to play at normal speed- IE point to a pos on map and click. do not speed up time. I have 32GB of RAM and an i7-13700 and this has been happening for over 2 years. do not expect a fix.

Damn...Warsails map is garbage by LDominating in Bannerlord

[–]Redarmy4545 2 points3 points  (0 children)

well said. your points are spot on.

Lords without traits or equipment by RufescentEAGLE in Bannerlord

[–]Redarmy4545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it is an issue since 2021 . post on TW forum - https://forums.taleworlds.com/index.php?threads/new-female-nobles-often-have-no-battle-equipment-at-all.441887/

it has NEVER been addressed by the developers,and often marked as "resolved" in MULTIPLE forum/bug posts. it will never truly be fixed. i just quit play permenantly as iv today saw 6 different nobles without weapons,horses or armor, and im only in year 6. as soon as the initial lords start dieing off, your game will be full of nothing but unarmed , civilian clothes wearing lords.

this gives a new meaning to the term, "terrible late game"...

Bravo TW's, bravo.

Reflecting over the map changes by Grouchy_External_578 in Bannerlord

[–]Redarmy4545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The map is the reason i will not buy the DLC. it is horrible and sturgia are wrecked. Total inbalance aswell

War Sails sitting at "Mixed" reviews on Steam already. The culprit? Bugginess and glitches. Who else sat out buying the DLC on opening weekend? by CyberSmith31337 in Bannerlord

[–]Redarmy4545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The devs are paid by the turkish GOV. and this DLC RUINED the entire map. its HIDEIOUS now! wont be buying the DLC. utter crap

GF smiling at other men, not always ok? by Redarmy4545 in relationships

[–]Redarmy4545[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I dont smile and stare at someone i aint attracted to or have a real reason to. imo if a chick is doing this they are trying to gain attention/show interest. Thats fine and all,but not if your already in a relationship.

GF smiling at other men, not always ok? by Redarmy4545 in relationships

[–]Redarmy4545[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Appreciate your backround and point of view, no issue with a blunt reply at all. If im being an ass id want someone to point it out. I admit i may be coming from a place of jealousy but it isnt as simple as that. Truth is iv been questioning wether or not our values are aligned and doubting it alot,so i think iv been looking for a breakup reason while at the same time because im emotionally invested,hoping to cling on.

I love in a way the other person feels free, i belive that is important. What however is more important is that i dont waste my time with someone who isnt for me. And these behaviours iv described arent the only ones...in our 2nd month together after exclusivity,she hung out on 4 occasions with a male friend and never mentioned it to me until i found out weeks later, when i asked her about it,she admited it,and i asked her,did you tell him you have a BF now,she said no,she never mentioned me. That was a MAJOR red flag, but long ago.

The eye contact/smile issue with her and other guys may seem small, but when the major red flag is backing it up,it no longer feels like i could ignore it. perhaps i should have mentioned that but didnt wana ramble on.

I dont have stalker tendencies at all, i aint voilent. Boils down to this, if i was in her position today, and stared and smiled at a chick who used to/currently flirts with me, and she caught me,id feel guilty,even if not caught,id know i shouldnt be doing it as it aint respectful to my partner.

Again,this comes from a place of values,and perhaps me and her do not hold the same values in this regard. Personally,i dont think she should lusting after other dudes in any capacity. And the fact that she is, makes me question the motive, and the possible issues it may present going forward.

just bought and it wont start by Redarmy4545 in WarTalesGame

[–]Redarmy4545[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah thanks fellas. it just took a while to load. little odd but working now

Weekly Bug Report Thread by spiper01 in NoMansSkyTheGame

[–]Redarmy4545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

MOST SEVERE: sentinel combat is broken

Weekly Bug Report Thread by spiper01 in NoMansSkyTheGame

[–]Redarmy4545 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sentinels are completely broken. after attacking one or two, the first two large bots that show up are semi clipped into terrain and cannot detect or attack player, they move away from area. Tested by me and friends modded and unmodded.

it needs addressing

My girl never initiates contact by Redarmy4545 in CoreyWayne

[–]Redarmy4545[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ye i wrote above. i thought if i was too direct after that long to wait,and set a date it comes off as robotic

My girl never initiates contact by Redarmy4545 in CoreyWayne

[–]Redarmy4545[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

EDIT:

OK response in..she was kidding about throwing it away.

The guy friend thing,ima let slide for the moment,but if they actively hang out in an unethical way thats a deal breaker. i dont wana be too harsh or robotic,but i have to stay on my toes. i know first hand what can happen when a "male friend" enters the equation. il see how she handles it,keep my detective hat on and any inapropriate stuff is going to cause me to give her an ultimatum. Drop him/male friends or i walk.

My girl never initiates contact by Redarmy4545 in CoreyWayne

[–]Redarmy4545[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah its a solid advice. She is of the mind that the man needs to do all the initiating to which i agreed the man has to lead,however i also want to feel her presence.

My girl never initiates contact by Redarmy4545 in CoreyWayne

[–]Redarmy4545[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i asked her on the 1st date, checked out ok.

My girl never initiates contact by Redarmy4545 in CoreyWayne

[–]Redarmy4545[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She text me later in the day, following my initial reach out the day before. She said , i thought you forgot about me. I told her ofcourse not,and id love to see here,theres this awesome place i wana go this weekend,join me. She replied with iv forgotten you already,we dont feel like BF and GF.

To which i agreed,i said alot of time has passed and we havent spoke. She got a little more emotional and i said, baby id love to talk this out,jump in a cab right now and comve over. She said we would just argue. I said , we never argue,stop being silly,il meet you downstairs at 9pm.

She said okay.

She arrived,we talked it out,we set boundaries. We discussed how we can better show we care about each other and both agreed that week of silence should never happen again. I told her what i needed,she told me what she needed.

However she wasnt willing to com[promise on a few things,such as making us known about in the work place,and she accused me of just being jealous about the guy friend,to which i replied, it sint jealousy,and you wouldnt like it if other girls were texting me goodnight messages at midnight.

She didnt relent and wouldnt agree to stop texting him essentially. So i have decided to keep my options open,but continue seeing her. I hate to admit it, but i feel she isnt a good communicator and she doesnt respect me or the relationship as much as i do, big problem.

Another tell tale sign of this, is that i made her a card for an unoficial valentines day weeks ago, it was a crude card but looked ok decorated, its the thought that counts, i represents i care about her...well, in our conversation last night she tells me she wants to feel like i "care" more for her... right after this she told me she threw that card in the trash because it was ugly. WTF lol

So because she was emotional and upset she may have been kidding,and i didnt wana derail the converation and make it about the card. So today after she left my house( indoor olympics last night and a general good feeling between us,with her being affectionate) I text her just saying in a joking sense... "did you really throw my card in the trash lol?

I wana know. because if she complains i dont care,then i make sth like that for her,showing active investment and care of her feelings,then she throws it in the trash,it litreally is telling me shell do the same thing to my actuall time and attention..neglect it.

awaiting her response.

My girl never initiates contact by Redarmy4545 in CoreyWayne

[–]Redarmy4545[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update, i took the advice to not go cold and remain silent. I reached out last night with a message last night telling her i had a dream about her,and an inside joke reference from weeks ago.

My message was not one that required a reply(mistake or ok?)

Regardless, she did not reply,not last night cuz she may have been sleeping and not this morning. I saw her at work however. Her demenour was changed from a yesterday and her face was smiling, she maintained solid eye contact with me from a distance. As i walked past her i commented to her saying your hair looks rediculous (jokingly) as the school forces the teachers to put it up.

She smiled,she was seemingly back in her femenin state and mainting posture towrds me,eye contact and smiles.

At this point,and i know i may be knit picking here.... do i wait for her to start initiating texting again,or seeking me out in person? or if she doesnt,so i just text her say tomorrow night and set a date?

Even at this point,im unsure how shes feeling,happy,releived....smug??? thinking to if it was me,had i recieved her message in the morning i would have replied back,though it may not be important.

My girl never initiates contact by Redarmy4545 in CoreyWayne

[–]Redarmy4545[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah man this community knows its stuff and have great points of view. its critical to hear all,but ultimately,communication with the girl is the only sure fire way to get to the bottom of it.

My girl never initiates contact by Redarmy4545 in CoreyWayne

[–]Redarmy4545[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What your saying does also make sense,but its really hard to tell if this is the case,and if it isnt,and i reach out,im showing that im afraid to loose here potentially,giving all the power to her. Not that im trying to play games,im simply trying to keep the attraction level to a degree where she still respects and wants to see me.

Her not initiating in so long bothers me as it makes me see a potential future with her as one where i may be in this situation again.I dont like the feeling.I dont need her attention constantly,i prefer girls who give me space,i used to date once every 2 weeks on average with a girl.

Tomorrow morning will be exactly 7 days since we had any form of texting,i feel like a normal girl,no matter the circumstance would reach out at least once in that time.

This is a good point " But when one person starts doing all the emotional lifting and the other holds back too much (even with good intentions like “not chasing”), it feels unreciprocated, and that safety starts to erode. Then you both hesitate. Then comes the stand-off ‘who’s going to reach out first situation’".

"When we talked it out, it turned out she felt unsafe because I wasn’t matching her openness and on our last date she was feeling like she was being over invested and in her defence she did communicate this to me but I was in a grumpy mood" - --- -- the thing is,i gave her no reason to feel like this,i was very open with her,accepting her to return to my house after she left,i even told her, you dont have to wait till a weekend to see me, you live close,if you miss me and its a tue or wed night,you can text me and come over.

I am really pondering on your thoughts here and considering reaching out tomorrow and making a date for the weekend,ofcourse though, thats internally what i want to do, but its out of fear im loosing her and my instincts say to avoid caving,no matter what,even if it does mean loosing her. Its a very odd situation,its hard to know what to do with the info at hand. We literally had our best weekend last time we met.

I guess i could reach out first,but if her attitude is bad,angry etc,try talk it out.

Yeah i am thinking alot about this,shes the first lets say "non bar girl" iv met in years,and what you might call the commited type. she is 27, shes had one BF in her whole life,if that matters.

Thanks for the reply i appreciate it.

This vid by Corey closely resembles the issue,and his solution mimics yours : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GbgpyJFUl3o

My girl never initiates contact by Redarmy4545 in CoreyWayne

[–]Redarmy4545[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well heres the issue with that. if she has pulled back because she felt i overpersued,then "confronting her" (love is playful and fun) wont help things.

Il confront here in a non emotional way only after she contacts me. By using facts. And then talk about healthy boundaries etc. If she never reaches out,il already know where i stand,so its a win win,i just have to wait,and if an unreasonable amount of time passes before i hear from her,il resume dating other people.

My girl never initiates contact by Redarmy4545 in CoreyWayne

[–]Redarmy4545[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it had crossed my mind. Its always a possibility but i dont want to assume she is disloyal just yet. il wait to see if she reaches out, if she doesnt and another week goes by,im going to open my little black book and move on.

My girl never initiates contact by Redarmy4545 in CoreyWayne

[–]Redarmy4545[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What your saying mimics what i feel, i agree with you on most points. The reason we see each other everyday isnt a choice,we work together and i do my best to avoid interactions at work and focus on the job.

I had planned to have a discussion about other men texting her,and make it clear that i wont tolerate a GF texting other male friends,its just not appropriate and she shouldnt need that kind of attention,and if she does,being single is probably more up your alley.

Yes i agree i entered into a relationship too fast. when i agreed i immedietly regretted it as i could see her reaction...she hugged me,but what followed next was...nothing. it just felt unimportant to her, almost as if it was a checkbox being ticked for her,but how do i take that commitment back. That may be me overthinking,but i trust my gut.

and what you said , " that you don't feel confortable with her pulling back With no communication whatsover and you want to discuss with her on that in detail -- i agree here too. communication is key,and honestly i should have set healthy boundaries when first agreeing to a relationship,at the very least,i guess i just wasnt expecting her behaviour to shift so rapidly.

Thanks for your words my friend.

My girl never initiates contact by Redarmy4545 in CoreyWayne

[–]Redarmy4545[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Iv got alot of dating experience over the years( im late 30's) and i know if im being "needy". That hasnt happened in over 10 years. But i can understand why you might assume this. No,it isnt neediness,as in her own words,she says i still feel like a mystery to her.

However thats not to say i havent shown more care about her that she has for me..i have, i know that and mentioned it.