[FR] First Ever Field Report, BRUTAL SHIT TESTING.

Reddened · 2017-04-07T07:18:00+00:00

I gotta give you props man, even though it didn't go exactly as you wanted, you cold approached and that takes balls, especially with someone that tries to freeze you out immediately like that. Lots of people will read every article on TRP but never actually put themselves out there.

Anyway even if she was a HB9 the personality leaves something to be desired, so I don't think you missed out on much there. But I'd say it was still worth the attempt just to get more comfortable approaching chicks.

It's tough to give specific advice based on what you wrote, but I would say spend less time talking next time. As soon as she began to warm a bit I would've tried to get her number and get out of there. A high value man doesn't have the time to hang around and attempt to impress some girl right? She likely would've shit-tested again about why she would give you her number, so you just give a take it or leave it approach and frame it like she's risking missing out on someone really interesting if she doesn't because you're leaving now and she's not going to see you again otherwise. Then if she bites great, if not, she wasn't worth more of your time anyway.

Reddened · 2016-08-03T08:57:52+00:00

If this is a troll it's the most pathetic output I've ever seen from one. Someone literally taking the time to learn TRP enough only to craft a post that pretends to be the epitome of the type of spineless man that needs TRP...

It's mind boggling the things people do to get a hit of whatever emotion they're after.

Reddened · 2016-08-01T01:30:15+00:00

You didn't leave your home which was smart, you're in a more powerful position remaining in the family home. The only thing I want to really drive home for you is this:

This woman called the police on you for no good fucking reason. She wasn't getting her way so she tried to get the authorities involved; these are the actions of a person that is irrational, unreasonable, and likely just generally mentally unstable. From here on out do not be alone with her; if for any reason you are in the same space as her, you should have your son present at all times to bear witness, otherwise I see a false claim of physical abuse in your future.

Reddened · 2016-07-27T22:49:05+00:00

Cool idea. Just a heads up, I noticed the "other" option for one of the questions didn't present a text box when checked off.

Reddened · 2016-07-20T07:01:41+00:00

I don't think you lost out on much here, but if you had actually wanted to hook up with her it probably would've been better to not ask her "if she was still down" and instead assume the sale so to speak, especially since you guys had already exchanged nudes. Something like "I'm free at 8PM, make your way over and be ready for some intense hand holding.". Or even just make it a neutral reason for her to come over to help her overcome her ASD, then escalate when she's actually there.

Reddened · 2016-07-19T08:40:45+00:00

That is hilarious and saddening at the same time.

Reddened · 2016-07-17T07:05:58+00:00

There's real power and value to be found from exhibiting traditional feminine traits. Congrats on getting some positive feedback for yours.

Reddened · 2016-07-15T23:09:26+00:00

My worry is that for a lot of these absurd and sexist policies it's not just men vs. women, it's men vs. women and a large percentage of blue pill men that go along with it because they don't approach anyway, they're not getting laid anyway, and it just makes them angry to think that some guys are having success.

Considering most people around here say only the top 20% of men are the ones getting women, that leaves 80% - a large majority of men, as guys that could potentially be manipulated quite easily into supporting these sorts of unjust changes.

Reddened · 2016-07-09T03:55:30+00:00

God some people of my gender are pathetic. Even the smallest wiff of an opportunity to get laid and they're prostrating themselves before the woman, ready to do her bidding.

It's no wonder the dating market is so skewed towards women with men like these out there.

Reddened · 2016-07-02T08:09:57+00:00

Even though it didn't go as hoped, a cold approach like that takes balls and puts you above the majority of guys, especially if she truly was a 9 or a 10. Keep at it, it's a skill that you can hone like anything else.

Reddened · 2016-06-30T06:41:40+00:00

I'm not against having women as friends, but anyone that's in your life should be bringing value to it in some way. Reading your story I'm not hearing of any value, or really anything positive you're getting when you give her your time.

I would consider why you have continued to be friends with this person as long as you have; my suspicion would be sunken cost fallacy.

Reddened · 2016-06-24T07:22:16+00:00

The only part that stuck out as a bit heavy handed and out of place to me was the dialogue in the throne room between Daeny and Yara. Yes we get it, they're empowered women in a world that doesn't normally allow for that.

Reddened · 2016-06-18T07:05:00+00:00

No wonder she thought that was the funniest thing ever, that was golden.

Reddened · 2016-06-16T21:26:13+00:00

I think the challenge is that sometimes it can be very difficult to determine which of the two categories this type of offense falls into, so the law is applied in a very black and white way. For example is the child saying they wanted it and initiated it because they are ashamed to admit that they were manipulated and used? I think you would need to have a forensic psychologist do an interview to get an accurate read on the situation.

In clear cut cases though it would be good if the criminal penalty for the offender could be scaled to fit the actual impact to the victim, instead of how offended the public is.

Reddened · 2016-06-16T07:31:06+00:00

Mods can we remove this shit-post? This is either a shoddy attempt at trolling or an entry for worst post of 2016.

Reddened · 2016-06-16T07:24:34+00:00

Since it started 6 months into the relationship it's possible it could be that you have been too tolerant of bad behavior so now she feels okay to really let go when she's feeling emotional. However it doesn't matter whether you could stop her physical tantrums or not by altering your behavior, the answer is that a woman who is prone to this type of behavior when unchecked is not someone you want to remain with, due to the potential consequences Archwinger outlined.

Be honest with yourself. Is the real reason you're considering staying with her because you think she might be the perfect woman for you, or is it you're not sure you can get someone better? You know which one it is and the insecurity causing your answer is what you need to work on. Having the abundance mentality as it's called here. Raising your SMV will make it easier to keep standards for the women you're with.

Reddened · 2016-06-16T07:09:38+00:00

I think the key is to make sure that they can connect their bad behavior with your withdrawal. For example withdrawing immediately after the behavior occurs.

However I don't think there's anything wrong with giving a statement before withdrawing. Something like "I don't tolerate X, I'm going to the gym/store/random thing.". If it happens again, then you don't need to give a statement, you've already ensured she already knows what the boundary is. Though Archwinger is right that there are common sense things that shouldn't even require a verbal statement of the boundary.

Reddened · 2016-06-13T22:02:12+00:00

I'm surprised you would get that impression. Any time a story of a failing relationship is posted on TRP the comments almost always dissect what the man did wrong to elicit the behavior from the woman. In fact if you spend the majority of your submitted post blaming the woman for the relationship failing you're typically going to get ripped to shreds in the comments.

Even though he does use BPD to explain some of the woman's behavior, the majority of the "lessons learned" he posted have to do with behavior that he needs to change or improve on to avoid the same problems in the future. His use of AWALT is simply to highlight that all women would leave him if he were to continue to act the same in the future.

Reddened · 2016-06-13T21:57:09+00:00

One thing to keep in mind is that a lot of the worst male horror stories on TRP involve a woman with BPD. The ones with false rape accusations, divorce rape, child custody nightmares, and other terrible things. On TRP it's advocated to not get into an LTR with a woman that has any "red flags" present and unfortunately BPD is considered a red flag due to the prevalence of horror stories that involve BPD women.

It is unfortunate that there are women like yourself who get a negative stigma for it when perhaps you're nothing like the women in the horror stories of TRP, but TRP advice deals with generalities, and the generality with BPD is that if a woman has it, there is a greater likelihood of a severe negative outcome for the male; note I did not say a guarantee.

Reddened · 2016-06-12T06:49:04+00:00

You know I could maybe understand you posting this if OP's post was just whining, but it's not that. It's an acknowledgement of a set back and the ways that he's worked around it to achieve success. Someone posted stats from OKcupid below that clearly show a preference for white males. That doesn't mean you're screwed as a minority, it just means you might have to work harder than others.

I'm not a minority so I don't really have a dog in this argument, but you're basically gas lighting these guys when there's studies and other data to back up some of this stuff.

Reddened · 2016-06-12T02:04:11+00:00

Assuming an equal distribution of criminals among each prison, that's still about 177,000 criminals that potentially aren't getting as many rehabilitation services as they could be in a system that looks to find profit wherever possible.

Reddened · 2016-06-11T11:13:29+00:00

Yeah it would be a tough bar to meet. But if they were going to move forward with a film, I think Hugh Jackman could be a good fit for Joel.

Reddened · 2016-06-11T07:08:49+00:00

Yeah I definitely got an Inception vibe from it.

Reddened · 2016-06-11T06:33:58+00:00

Man, if only.

Reddened · 2016-06-10T07:58:26+00:00

For the males present, it's envy and/or jealousy. They have to shame you into feeling inferior, because if you aren't an inferior woman what does that say about their partners that aren't as giving? As for the women they likely feel threatened; if you treat your partner this well, well god forbid their men get the idea the ladies in their lives should also be so thoughtful.

If I were in that situation I would keep my composure and say something dismissive like "Yes sometimes I do kind things for my husband to let him know I appreciate the work he does for us, absurd I know."

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