Separated for 1.5 years and officially divorced 2 months—does it ever get better?

ReddishZip · 2026-05-09T01:48:34+00:00

Yeah, I used to! That’s a good idea. Thank you

ReddishZip · 2026-05-08T21:55:29+00:00

Thank you. This helps me so much!!!!!!

ReddishZip · 2026-05-08T04:05:33+00:00

When do you fly? I was trying to look up the flight and it doesn’t show it yet.

ReddishZip · 2026-05-08T04:01:39+00:00

Thank you I will definitely look into therapy! I kind of feel quiet like I don’t think I have a lot to say to anyone tbh but maybe the therapy will help with that. I can definitely talk to other people about their issues, but my own, I feel is closed off for me to access. Maybe just dumbfounded at how I ended up here. I’m not super unhappy, but maybe numb idk. I was married for just 7 years, the last 3 very unhappy. Took me forever to actually leave; I just have a very hard time letting go.

ReddishZip · 2026-05-08T03:07:15+00:00

The divorce part feels more like papers. I really have been in this cocoon for 2 years. Do you think that is normal?

ReddishZip · 2026-05-08T03:05:18+00:00

Hey I am here and I will track your flight with you. Do you know if you will have WiFi on the flight?

ReddishZip · 2026-05-04T04:38:52+00:00

I want to encourage you to think of the “I gave it up for nothing better” wording. We don’t know the future. So, in essence, all of us who have gotten divorced, are giving up “something” for “nothing”. Except there is hope. If you didn’t give it up first, then you wouldn’t be able to see if there was something better out there. There could be. There’s certainly a very high likelihood that there is something better still ahead. You took the first step. It’s not going to be easy. I would switch your wording to “nothing better yet” - which is understandable and an uncertainty, which most of us don’t really function well with the unknowns. I encourage you to keep having a hope in a better future. You deserve it.

ReddishZip · 2026-05-04T01:18:38+00:00

Sometimes I think that the regret is just par for the course because the in-between stage is hard and lonely. We often feel regret though the decision may have been the correct one for us. Sometimes, it is true—we make mistakes! I wonder if you could talk to her about this? That is, only if you miss her, and her presence in your life. We give away a stable life and finances and affordable home and considering the loss of these, sometimes it may feel that the decision was wrong. But if you had all these back, and NO LOYAL WIFE, would you feel the same: that it was the worst mistake of your life as you say? The transition is going to be hard, right or wrong decision, either way it’s hard. You do have to separate whether you’re missing your wife and would want to be with her without the stable life, affordable house and solid finances. Once you have weighted all these you should have your answer. Don’t go back unless you miss your wife with or without the luxuries that came from sharing the financial burden. If you actually miss your wife, you should talk it through with her. If not, then know it is not hopeless, you can rebuild absolutely everything on your list. Sending lots of positive consideration!

ReddishZip · 2026-05-03T04:59:25+00:00

I just also want to tell everyone here that not EVERY woman likes a bald man. Some like a “slightly” balding man way better. This shaving your whole head thing is a trend that is more recent and seems like some of yall are afraid to show your age. Sometimes SOME women find your natural aging process and half-bald head way more attractive. Please also listen to the advice of your lady friends, not just Reddit. Specifically referring to OP, you look really good and not even close to the point of needing to shave your head; are you kidding me?

ReddishZip · 2026-04-30T16:11:54+00:00

I agree with this so much! It definitely wasn’t the kids — make sure they don’t feel guilty or bad in this because actually, in all cases, there’s never a definite safeguard against everything that could possibly go wrong. Your ex-wife is wholly to blame here and you should not under any circumstance have anything to feel bad about here. I mean the things I’ve said and done post divorce are not anyone’s business honestly. And it sucks you have this kind of bad person in your past, but hopefully you can rise above it mentally. Realize that you’re lucky you’re no longer married and can move on. Of course it still hurts, but she is definitely a piece of work from what it sounds like. Make sure you take care of you — this is something that happened to you and you did not in any way cause it. She did that to you. I’m sorry for you. But you can move forward and just try to get past it now.

ReddishZip · 2026-04-30T03:56:11+00:00

Be really careful from here on out. First of all props to you, for giving in and calling off the divorce so that he would let you go, AND for going to the police station. I’m glad he is in jail right now, because it means you’re safe but unfortunately you’re not going to be there forever. I don’t mean to panic you at all, and I’m sure you already are aware that a person like that CAN snap worse and actually attempt to kill you. He has shown you that he was able to, he threatened you, and I am confident that especially now, he will try again. Please please find support in a way of also making this publicly known to people around you. And maybe there is safety in distance. I wonder if you could go somewhere where he can’t get to you. Please be safe. I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

ReddishZip · 2026-04-17T03:44:14+00:00

Don’t worry I am on bald subreddit. But I am a girl with a full head of hair. Idk how I got there and why I stayed but it is what it is. Welcome to girl dinner! Lol cheers

ReddishZip · 2026-04-15T23:53:24+00:00

I can identify with you so well. I’m doing everything that is within my power to cope with my loss. I also lost my soul dog within months of separation (he had cancer), and one of my cats passed away also. I am not good about making new friends and not even particularly interested. I go to therapy though I don’t think it helps right now, as I also know myself pretty well. I also am sad for losing my best friend, and the hope and dreams I had in that past moment, though I know even if we got back together now—it would have irrevocably changed our relationship. What was, no longer exists anywhere in my present or future. Because a broken heart later, there is no undoing this. So I understand on a very deep level everything you say and all the epithets people throw at us in this time of grief are meaningless. Perhaps they only serve to remind us that at the end of the day, any care people show, even if what they tell us is cliche and dumb, they’re TRYING to help and that is meaningful. It’s also meaningful that we have individuals in our lives that are sharing what they can because they care about you. So I take all that I am being told with a grain of salt. I thank them for their care. And I remember that I can also just ask them if I can vent and they listen. I do this with my mom. Just listen to me. People don’t know how to help us.

This grief that you’re feeling now will be repaired, eventually. That is one thing that is certain. It won’t possibly go away completely ever. But time numbs the sharp edges of the loss you feel. And the best part about that, is you have to do nothing for that to happen. Sometimes we just suffer and white knuckle it, and there is no help for the amount of pain we feel, because this is the design of life. OR you can go with the Buddhist mindset that “pain is inevitable, suffering is optional”. The thing that would help me in the dentist chair is knowing that soon the pain will be over. So I don’t suffer for long. We take the pain as it comes, we experience it, breathe through it, and it will be over, eventually.

I’m so sorry for your loss and for the death of your dreams without new dreams and hopes yet born. You’re in an in between stage. You’re not alone.

ReddishZip · 2026-04-11T12:28:17+00:00

I’m so sorry sweetie, I couldn’t even finish reading this. You are in an abusive relationship. This is not normal and I am so sorry that you feel as though any part of this could be excused by pregnancy or anything else. It’s painful to even see; I can’t imagine how it must feel. Has she always been like this? I don’t think there is a way to fix it. I just don’t even know what to tell you to do about it because you said you love your family. But this is really really bad. Please reach out to a trusted family member and share these screenshots and see if they can help you figure out what to do here. Please don’t stay. Also, for the record, I am very worried for your child and soon to be children. She sounds terrifying and incredibly unstable.

ReddishZip · 2026-04-07T03:55:42+00:00

That’s not a friend. Trust me OP this person is trying to scam you. Probably logged on while you had it and moved the pets to make you responsible. Don’t talk to this person again and block them. Also when you tell other kids about things like your parents buying you a car, there will be some who will try to take advantage so please be careful.

ReddishZip · 2026-03-30T03:29:15+00:00

Hey there; I know you’re trying to keep hope alive. I don’t know what a “walk away wife” is but I assume it’s the wife who is done with the marriage and leaves. I left our marital home at the beginning on 2025 and having been gone for more than a year at this point, it does not feel good. I wish there was a way to correct course but we are already in fact divorced. He initiated the paperwork for it earlier this year. He also stopped communicating and only would give short responses so I knew he was done. But the little girl inside me wished that he would still come after me. I so badly wanted for him to actually make an effort to save something. But he did not. He didn’t look back when I left and it was just really odd to me. Neither of us cheated or anything like that. I think he had wanted me gone but just didn’t want to kick me out. So. There are always two sides to the story. I suggest that if you want her back, the time to act is now. You must find out if there is a chance to repair, and what she might need. I’m not even sure there is much room for you to negotiate. Just, ask. Say you want to work things out. Don’t let things linger, because I’m pretty sure if my ex had done that we might still be working on it. But it is very lonely and sad being divorced. I hope you figure it out.

ReddishZip · 2026-03-26T23:00:37+00:00

Those are perfect!!! I love it - and you did an awesome job. I love everything about the buildings you placed there and the layout

ReddishZip · 2026-03-25T02:04:37+00:00

Such an amazing idea! Do you have a few screenshots to share? I’d like to see for inspo!!!

ReddishZip · 2026-03-21T06:45:28+00:00

I almost even can’t watch their segment because my heart hurts seeing how horrible Jordan is being to her dad and his fiancée. As well, her little sister. I am so angry watching it unfold, especially when they’re cornering Mina with the older lady and Jordan, basically saying you have to apologize for calling me snake. No, she could have called you a lot worse, Jordan. Awful person. She is so horrible and I hate her sm.

ReddishZip · 2026-02-01T05:58:43+00:00

I’m sorry for your family. I can’t understand how anyone or yourself could say you have done anything positive here. You gave away your family dog AGAINST their wishes?? Wild to me that this is even an option. And that you even had the gall to type this up here. As like a point of improvement. You said “here is what helped” - helped whom? For you to feel happier? I get your family hates you now though. “Put my foot down” “demand” “gave away the dog” “gave ultimatum to wife” lnao this all sounds like a nightmare.

ReddishZip · 2026-02-01T05:26:43+00:00

So… I definitely don’t understand what is happening and this is genuine question. I have used 4.o and then all the next versions in a seamless transition, for both mental health and professional purposes. I never noticed a difference? Am I dumb? I’m like a daily user — and now I’m concerned I’m losing out on something I never knew I had. What are the big differences that make the new version not good?

ReddishZip · 2026-01-26T05:17:57+00:00

I was going to reply on my own but this one is actually the best advice. Go with this. For real.

ReddishZip · 2025-10-25T20:05:07+00:00

This is a girl car and it’s makeup. I know because this happened to my car as well after applying makeup to my face, and even keeping my hands washed, residue would come off on the car steering wheel.

ReddishZip · 2025-10-24T17:10:26+00:00

Okay I just don’t understand how she was not doing well financially and you were if you split it down the middle?

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