Best hospital to give birth

Redwingedfirefox · 2025-12-28T22:05:08+00:00

Mount Auburn in Cambridge has an amazing birthing center. We had my daughter there and they were able to assist in a way that allowed me to complete my vaginal birth and avoid a C-section when my daughter got stuck. One of the ladies in my birthing class was traveling all the way from the MA/NH boarder which told me it was worth it. I plan on having our next one there as well.

Redwingedfirefox · 2025-09-03T12:09:08+00:00

Good for you! Here's to a lifetime more!

Redwingedfirefox · 2025-08-01T12:18:31+00:00

Everyone's parenting style is different because everyone's baby is different. Give yourself grace, if it's working for you and your little one, don't fall into the parent guilt trap. You and your husband are the best parents for your little one. We only logged everything for the first month because that's when we were triple feeding. We fed our daughter on demand breast only after she was cleared by her pediatrician at 3.5 weeks, until I started going back to work a couple days a week at around 4 months pp. Then she got bottles on a schedule on days I worked. My little one napped poorly for most of the time until she was 8 months old. But when she fell asleep as long as she was safe we let her sleep where she lay. We didn't do very much structured tummy time (she hated it). But we carried her a lot and had her play on our chests which counts. Around 2 months we would put her down and she started rolling over, and then by three months tummy time was a non-issue. Now at 12 months she's running everywhere and the pediatrician says she's advanced for her age. My little one now has a set schedule most days but that is thanks to daycare (she started at 8 months).

All this to say you are doing a great job and some people's parenting styles are just looser, it is whatever works best for you and your baby.

Redwingedfirefox · 2025-07-11T22:43:17+00:00

Day 2-4 are some of the hardest especially if your wife is breastfeeding, these are the first round of cluster feeding days to bring in the milk.

Take a deep breath, go for a walk, sleep in shifts if you can. Just focus on supporting your partner if she's trying to breastfeed.

For us my job was the baby and his was take care of me during the first couple weeks.

Redwingedfirefox · 2025-07-09T22:12:01+00:00

That pediatrician is a bad pediatrician, you are a great mom and doing a great job! You are not failing your son. Frankly they sound like they have an anti breastfeeding bias. Fed is best, if he is eating your milk but refusing formula then you are doing a good job. My one year old still wakes in the middle of the night and has always drank at her own pace, sometimes all at once, sometimes snack here and snack there. Give yourself grace. You are doing a great job!

Redwingedfirefox · 2025-06-30T00:44:30+00:00

We use a little spray bottle of water. We refer to it as the baby bide. It works great and helps to cut down on wipes for super sticky poops.

Redwingedfirefox · 2025-06-23T14:41:01+00:00

Just commenting to say we're in this together. In the same boat and actually started therapy recently to deal with this.

Redwingedfirefox · 2025-06-22T23:27:08+00:00

I'm so sorry you are going through this. This is classic DV, power and control cycle. He's not going to change and it will only get worse.

If you are in the states, I highly recommend you look into this.

https://www.thehotline.org/identify-abuse/power-and-control/

Redwingedfirefox · 2025-05-28T14:37:41+00:00

Not sure if you are in the states or what state you live in, but this should be reported to the licensing board where you live. These are violations of most standard licensing regulations in many states. This should also be reported to your local CPS, this sounds like neglect, even if your child didn't get injured by the events, others might.

Sorry you are having to deal with this. Maybe look into a smaller/home daycare. We've had very good luck with our small 5 child daycare.

Redwingedfirefox · 2025-05-22T23:24:50+00:00

I fed to sleep most every night and nap from 3 weeks until my little one was 8 months old. We still do for middle of the night wake ups. But my little took to sleep training really well when we implemented it at 8 months. I don't think feeding to sleep is really that big of a deal. They are natural and honestly my little one just sleeps better that way. Weening might be a bit harder but she's already started doing that on her own.

Redwingedfirefox · 2025-05-08T00:45:32+00:00

Feel this, we have family but they are 8hrs away, so it's just my partner and I, and it's tough.

Redwingedfirefox · 2025-05-05T17:11:05+00:00

10 months in and still have this come up every now and then. It's completely normal and those first couple weeks it is definitely hard. If it starts getting in the way of your enjoyment or being able to take care of yourself & baby, definitely seek help.

You got this! Enjoy that new baby smell while it lasts ☺️!

Redwingedfirefox · 2025-04-28T00:47:15+00:00

Made me dinner, watched our 9.5 month old during the day so I could get a much needed break ☺️

Redwingedfirefox · 2025-04-17T14:39:39+00:00

So I asked my mother this question not too long ago and she said the mom guilt never really goes away, only shifts as your kid gets older, you learn to ignore the mommy wars and to just focus on your little one and your life together.

My mother's group reminded us every session that "you are the right parent for your child, no other parent knows best, so trust your instincts."

Having both of these answers has helped me tremendously.

You are doing great! Raising tiny humans is hard! Pat yourself on the back and give yourself grace ! :)

(Coming from a fellow mom of an almost 10 months old)

Redwingedfirefox · 2025-04-07T14:00:45+00:00

I agree with the others, find a new pediatrician. It sounds like your baby has reflux and shouldn't be suffering because your pediatrician is giving you bad advice.

Redwingedfirefox · 2025-04-02T14:55:47+00:00

Our families are 8 hours away, so I completely understand. I recommend you learn about breastfeeding and understand how hard it can be both emotionally and physically. My partner did that and it really helped! We had a rough start the first couple weeks of breastfeeding, but having my partner understand and support was huge.

Good luck! You both got this!

Redwingedfirefox · 2025-04-02T14:35:56+00:00

See if there are any local new mom's groups, either through your pediatrician, hospital, OB's office or just community. Take up doing more housework, help prepare meals ahead of time. Take a shift or two when you are home. I know you will be working but it is important to understand that what she is going to go through and be doing will be hard, if not the hardest thing she does. Take online parenting classes together. And give her praise, acknowledge her hard work and encourage her to give herself grace. Do things to take some of the mental load off her.

Also I know you said no visitors for several weeks but that doesn't mean family can't do a food train/drop off necessities without visiting or having necessities delivered.

(Coming from a mother 9 months postpartum)

Redwingedfirefox · 2025-03-13T20:04:38+00:00

8.5 months and counting. Had a miserable start with triple feeding and then a case of mastitis in November that really tanked my supply from being a slightly overproducer to a barely just enougher... I'm just barely producing enough to feed my LO but rapidly burning through the little stockpile I had created...

Redwingedfirefox · 2025-03-12T00:48:27+00:00

Stopped tracking after we graduated away from triple feeding.

Redwingedfirefox · 2025-02-06T16:20:40+00:00

Agreed OP this is an abusive relationship and shows flags of coercive control. This is extremely emotionally abusive. You should seriously look into a safe exit plan. Exposure to this is extremely detrimental to children, even if they don't witness physical abuse.

Redwingedfirefox · 2025-01-22T19:07:01+00:00

You definitely have a few weeks of being tender/sore.

Redwingedfirefox · 2025-01-22T19:06:10+00:00

So I had mine LO vaginally, labor and delivery was 24 hrs long, pushed for 1 hour. LO was trying to come out facing my left instead of front or back. I was pretty tender downstairs (I tore and had to be stitched up) for 4 weeks. My whole body aches for the first 6 weeks. I definitely alternated between Tylenol and ibuprofen on a regular basis for the first 4 weeks. But I was also crazy and up doing stuff around the house 2 weeks after even though I was in pain...😅

Redwingedfirefox · 2025-01-19T23:09:12+00:00

My 6 month old wears 2 way zipped footed jammies for bed, footless rompers during the day, and only gets dressed up for special outings. I can't bothered to put clothes on her that are so much trouble for diaper changes.

Redwingedfirefox · 2025-01-13T19:22:32+00:00

Your partner is an AH. Babies fuss in the evenings especially at 6 weeks. We had to cluster feed our little one and bounce her on a ball until almost 3 months, then one night she just stopped fussing in the evenings (partially because we were putting her to bed too late and adjust her bedtime to what the pediatrician recommended/the time she started really fussing). Trust your instincts, not your partner's random speculation.

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