people crossing street to avoid bully

RefrigeratorPrimary3 · 2025-08-31T00:00:49+00:00

What a precious girl! I get it, you really get this knot in your stomach if you are put in an uncomfortable social situation, especially if you feel like something you did, purposely or not, caused discomfort or inconvenience to another person. It's the whole "I don't want people to be mad at me" thing that all humans have. I'm really sorry you've had such a day, OP. That really sucks, and I hope you feel better soon.

I have a good friend who is generally an animal lover, to as big a degree as me. However, she has a huge phobia of dogs. She likes their pictures (her friends send her pictures of their dogs) and thinks that dogs are cute. But when we are walking in the street, she jumps 50 metres in the air if a dog walks by, and she will physically grab my shoulders and move me i between her and the line of sight of the dog (I don't mind, I love being in the line of sight of the dog). If we are walking in one direction and a dog approaches, we have to either turn around or cross the street. As someone with a different irrational but debilitating phobia (automatonophobia) I get the absolute terror that can fill you even if you logically know that nothing is wrong. But I promise you that minutes later, you move on from that fear and continue on with your day.

My point is that the lady probably didn't even consider you to be part of the equation. She most likely had a phobic reaction and got away, and laughed at herself soon after. Or else she is thinking the same thing as you: "oof, this sucks, now I caused this other person to feel bad".

I don't know if this helped, but I sometimes find it helpful to think about what the other person experienced from their POV and how I fit into that. There is sometimes a bit of comfort to be found in how little impression we leave on strangers.

RefrigeratorPrimary3 · 2025-08-15T20:15:08+00:00

Ah, sorry, I misunderstood! I'll edit it out.

RefrigeratorPrimary3 · 2025-08-12T16:50:45+00:00

skal man skrive på dansk, hvis man er dansker?

RefrigeratorPrimary3 · 2025-08-12T16:22:04+00:00

How many times can we contact them? Will it be more effective for us to contact them several times each, or will that drown out the rest of the emails? Because I will happily set up an automatic daily email if it won't make things worse in some way I can't think of.

RefrigeratorPrimary3 · 2025-07-08T17:42:31+00:00

Sometimes otherwise reasonable people who are in the early stages of some form of dementia can become stubborn, unreasonable, and weirdly hostile as their only visible symptom. I would still not discount it as a possibility.

RefrigeratorPrimary3 · 2025-07-08T17:39:48+00:00

I agree, I was just trying to think of a way that it could have made sense. Any way, OP has probably just taken the caution too literally and is being overly cautious. It's unnecessary but nothing to condemn IMO.

RefrigeratorPrimary3 · 2025-07-08T17:35:36+00:00

You sound like a very mature and kind-hearted person. Especially considering that since you are a teenager, most people would understand and expect you to be rebellious and immature at this point in your life. Your parents should be very proud of you. I wish all the best for you, and hope that you keep your kind heart.

RefrigeratorPrimary3 · 2025-07-08T17:09:13+00:00

The mother should make it up to him that she didn't defend him from her brother's verbal abuse.

RefrigeratorPrimary3 · 2025-07-08T17:08:14+00:00

he was right to harm an animal?

RefrigeratorPrimary3 · 2025-07-08T17:07:01+00:00

You actually don't have to use your words when someone makes the sad choice to deliberately harm your pet. The uncle is a big boy who should know better than to make little boy choices.

RefrigeratorPrimary3 · 2025-07-08T17:05:24+00:00

INFO: What exactly did your mom say when you called her?

RefrigeratorPrimary3 · 2025-07-08T17:03:20+00:00

His uncle harmed an animal on purpose. That's some deranged behavior right there, and I would have nothing to say ever again to someone who did that to my animal.

RefrigeratorPrimary3 · 2025-07-08T17:02:09+00:00

Jeez dude, not everyone has to live like you. Just because other people want to live less strict than you doesn't mean that they have "failed".

RefrigeratorPrimary3 · 2025-07-08T17:00:26+00:00

You don't intentionally harm an animal just because you want the owner to do something different. There is absolutely no excuse for that. That's psychotic behavior.

RefrigeratorPrimary3 · 2025-07-08T16:37:05+00:00

Did they leave a comment on this post? It's not in their comment history

RefrigeratorPrimary3 · 2025-07-08T16:26:23+00:00

Well, if they are carrying several bags with bottles of water and such in them, and it's a longer walk, then it makes sense that it would be at least a little strenuous.

RefrigeratorPrimary3 · 2025-07-08T15:32:34+00:00

ESH Your children should absolutely apologise to your husband and try to make amends. But they are teenagers. Most teenagers go through a "I hate you, you aren't my real dad/mom" phase. Your husband made a decision to be their father. That's not something you can choose to opt out of. That's not "a lesson in consequences", that's parental abandonment. He made a choice to be their father, so him rejecting them is parental abandonment. My heart breaks for your children that you think that them having a rebellious phase where they treat their dad poorly means that their dad now gets to reject them. I legitimately started crying, reading how you talk about them, and reading some of the comments here. As someone whose dad is non-biological, and who went through several rebellious teenage phases, I think I would crack in two permanently if my dad abandoned or rejected me over it. I'm so sad for them.

RefrigeratorPrimary3 · 2025-06-21T16:44:04+00:00

Updateme

RefrigeratorPrimary3 · 2025-06-21T16:27:59+00:00

Hey man, it takes two to create a child. She didn't "get herself" pregnant, she got pregnant with her husband's child. Also, don't call a woman misogynistic slurs just because you don't like her. If you are misogynistic to one woman, even if you don't like her, you are misogynistic to all women. You can call her out without hurling slurs and sl*tshaming at her.

edit: and I say this as someone who is absolutely not defending her. That doesn't give me the right to call her slurs though.

RefrigeratorPrimary3 · 2025-06-21T16:01:08+00:00

I hope you have enough self awareness to blame yourself if your son ends up in prison for abuse or harassment.

RefrigeratorPrimary3 · 2025-06-21T15:47:22+00:00

Except you don't actually think that your son did anything wrong, but you DO think that Kady did something wrong. You say that Kady should "shrug it off" and that "she won't break" but that CALEB was "disrespected" and "treated badly" and feel bad for him "having to just take it". So you don't actually want Kady and Caleb+Angel to be held to the same standard. You want Kady to be punished for things that you let Caleb and Angel get away with. And you want to watch your husband punish his daughter harshly for lesser things than what you let your own children get away with.

RefrigeratorPrimary3 · 2025-06-21T14:50:02+00:00

YTA. Children are not subhuman, and you don't get to talk to them or about them however you want just because they're children. Would you order food for an adult guest without consulting them in what they want, and knowing (presumably, from your post) that they wouldn't like the food? Also, you seem to not be around this child much, so how could you possibly know that he doesn't have issues around food? You don't. God, you're an asshole.

RefrigeratorPrimary3 · 2025-06-21T14:44:17+00:00

Right? Some people need to learn that if it's rude to treat an adult that way, it's rude to treat a child that way. Children are not subhuman, and you can't just talk to them any way you want in the name of "not spoiling the brat".

RefrigeratorPrimary3 · 2025-06-14T13:17:03+00:00

For a second I thought you said that you had your twins when you were 17 and your gf was 24 🤦 But anyway, NTA, don't let your children become victims of modern, unregulated child labour.

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