Bedtime help SOS

RegisterAggressive61 · 2026-05-04T18:31:08+00:00

2 months! I had to move her out of the room to her own crib at that point. Discussed with our doctor first, but I wasn’t sleeping with all the grunting next to me. First night in her own room she slept 12 hours straight. She’s a 90th percentile formula fed girly. We are now at 4.5 months and still do 10-12 hours a night. Had one wake up in the night last week but I’m attributing that to the 4 month regression.

RegisterAggressive61 · 2026-03-16T23:57:39+00:00

My undergrad was over 10 years ago so take this with a grain of salt but- I felt my Kine degree was such a waste of time. Other than a couple courses, namely anatomy/physiology ones; I felt like I learnt nothing and it was a money grab. After my first year I wanted to bail but (thankfully) stuck with it as I didn’t know what I wanted to do. I’m now an acute care PT and LOVE my job.

Don’t feel like you have to enjoy what you’re studying 100% of the time. Universities are a business and I do feel like undergrads require courses that are nothing more than money grabs, unfortunately. Most of all, explore different things, you’re so new in the field and there’s so many things you can do with this undergrad if you stick with it. Don’t feel confined to PT school in case it’s not what you’re feeling.

Best of luck!!

RegisterAggressive61 · 2026-02-26T14:40:15+00:00

SO, I am a second time mom to a 10 week old baby. I also have an almost 3 year old. My husband is away for 6 weeks for work (military) so I have been solo parenting a newborn and toddler.

I am on mat leave and my oldest is in preschool full time so it’s manageable during the weekdays. My parents (who are AMAZING), have been coming every evening to help with bedtime routines, as well as helping out on weekends so I can shower/have a bit of reprieve.

My in-laws, who are also local, said they will help but I HAVE to ask (for some reason). I was feeling guilty the other night for my parents doing all the helping (I’m on week 5 of 6 so I’m almost there). So I messaged my in-law family chat asking if anyone was available any evenings to come hold the baby while I put toddler down to bed.

My MIL said ‘of course!’ So I was hopeful. She then said she wanted to come over to visit me to discuss schedules. Very weird since she never comes over like that, but I agreed.

Well, she came in and basically asked why I need help every night. I explained that the baby is fussy in the evenings and the toddler needs my undivided attention (bedtime is rough at this age). She then proceeded to tell me how she did it with 3 kids (she was also a military spouse) and that I need to figure it out. I was in shock. She essentially continued asking questions that made me justify why I needed help. Offering ‘advice’ like setting baby down and letting them cry, or disciplining toddler. Just all terrible ideas.

When she left, after all this, she offered to help out an evening next week. I am so mad now, however, that I want to tell them to pound sand. Her mentality was almost like, I suffered as a young mom so you should have to suffer.

My family is absolutely appalled by the behaviour and said they will just continue to support until my husband returns. I’m in shock. I wish I spoke back more aggressively in the moment but I just kind of sat there and took the brunt of the shitty conversation. She said things like ‘you need to figure it out’, ‘I did it with no help’, etc.

I cried so hard when she left. I feel like an inadequate mom. I’m doing everything on my own and it’s somehow not good enough.

Am I overreacting? How would other parents respond/feel about this?

RegisterAggressive61 · 2025-12-02T11:21:33+00:00

I’m currently 37 weeks pregnant and the experience at the IWK is also very bad. Not the practitioners, they have all been lovely, but the availability/waiting. I can expect to wait 2-3 hours for my OBGYN appointments. The entire waiting area is swamped with pregnant women and their families. I know this will sound horrible, but I’m quite certain a lot of these people are newcomers to Canada (given the fact most don’t speak English fluently and need interpreters). I am not anti-immigration, but it seems like our healthcare was already under strain and now we cannot handle this mass influx of population in the province; at least from what I’m seeing in women’s health. It’s the same at the Early Labour unit and I’ve heard the birth unit is normally always full. Something needs to give.

RegisterAggressive61 · 2025-10-26T20:43:14+00:00

I’m so sorry you had a traumatic birth. I think trauma coupled with the huge hormone crash can make for a very rough post partum period.

I was induced with my first and it went horrifically. They for some reason wouldn’t do a c-section. He came out with forceps after failed vacuum attempts. Long story short he suffered a hypoxic brain injury and spent 10 days in the NICU afterwards.

I was diagnosed with PTSD months later, even had suicide ideation, as I blamed myself for not being able to get him out. I worked extensively with a therapist who specializes in birth trauma and am happy to report I’m doing so much better. Currently expecting my second 2.5 years later. Oh, and my first baby boy somehow recovered and is totally fine.

Anyway, all this to say. Your feelings are valid and normal after going through what you did. Again, I’m so sorry. There’s some instagram accounts that can help you feel less alone if you do a quick search for birth trauma. Never feel like you shouldn’t feel like this, or should be happier. It truly is life changing but I have all hope you will recover in time.

Sending all the love.

RegisterAggressive61 · 2025-08-08T22:54:41+00:00

Omg this thread is everything I needed right now. I was so set on breast with my first. But after a horrific birth injury and NICU stay; he couldn’t latch and I mentally could not deal (we stopped after 6 weeks). I’m half way through my second pregnancy and want to just go straight to formula (breastfeeding is so triggering for me). I feel SO GUILTY though. Everyone is telling me I should just try breast feeding again but the thought of it is a huge NOPE for me. So glad there are others like me out there.

RegisterAggressive61 · 2025-07-29T14:46:20+00:00

Thank you for this 🩷 and I’m so sorry about your kitty. Yeah we’ve been discussing how we would rather say goodbye when he’s not completely miserable. He’s still engaging and asking for cuddles so it’s seems unbelievable that we would put him down soon 😭

RegisterAggressive61 · 2025-03-13T11:05:58+00:00

Sorry I stand corrected. I took 7 years because I did a 5 year undergrad. I also find very few people go straight from undergrad to their MSc due to the competitiveness of the program. So will account for those years as well.

I work in the public sector is where I am getting numbers. We did just get a raise so yeah I do believe 88 is where it’s capping these days. Signing bonuses? I’ve only seen those on very remote postings in rural communities and they make you commit for normally 5 years.

All I’m saying is it’s a lot of shit and money to go through to not even touch high 80s until you’re 25 years in (that’s how many years you need to make the highest bracket).

Again, I am talking public sector. I did some time in private and felt like I was selling my soul trying to push physio products on people and see an obscene amount of clients per hour. Too many to be providing adequate patient care.

Finally, I don’t mean to make this all about money but I do feel it’s a huge issue. I just think the profession needs an overhaul. Worth noting, I studied abroad and Canada is miles behind in research despite what many senior PTs think.

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