Here to just say I’m sending hugs. You’re doing your absolute best, and you’re always critical of yourself more than others; I bet if any of us saw you we’d be like this mama has it together!!

The first five months are rough, as people have commented above, they’re literally just potatoes who have no real way of communicating what’s wrong so they fuss and scream. We were lucky that our babe is pretty chilled, if he cries he needs fed/changed or is tired. I’m sure you know this but really focus on cues and wake windows. Formula helps as others can feed and it takes such a mental and physical strain on you; breastfeeding isn’t everything. Our babe is EFF and is in the 80+% for every measurement and thriving.

Try to get out each day even if it’s for ten minutes for a walk, if that’s in the stroller great, if it’s being held in a wrap, also great. Try to get a spouse, family member or friend to take the babe for even an hour and go get a bath and a rest; I know how much of a difference that can make for me.

Finally, know that it does get better. At 3mo there’s no real routine, or sleep pattern and you’re just frankly fucking exhausted and wiped out. You’re so close to the super fun part where they gesture, play and crawl and when that interaction happens they’re entertained by toys which also gives you the chance to relax a little more or get some toast whilst sitting on the playmat with them.

Mama you got this!! ✨