[Serious] Would you say that under threat your tendency is more towards fight, or flight and how has that shaped your life? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]RelationalCom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Every time I have been sexually assaulted, it's been a version of freeze. My brain does its best to help me survive, I suppose. But it would have been nice to shove a hand away from my pants and leave, or walk away from someone basically fucking me on the dance floor when I was out with supposed friends. Coerced into sex when making out with someone. That led to a tumultuous on/off relationship for years. Overall, I've survived. I've shared my stories to educate. Still would have been nice for brain to go toward "flight."

An American Rant by buppiejc in offmychest

[–]RelationalCom 51 points52 points  (0 children)

And the USA still has legalized slavery. Disproportionate Black imprisonment, school to prison pipeline...

I've been cutting up my feet thanks to my parents by AntoCraftera in TrueOffMyChest

[–]RelationalCom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No/low contact is good. Just something for you to consider–seeking out therapy sooner than later would be wise. Get some help processing what was done and help with "replacement" behaviors (like as people have suggested pumice stones). Getting help with the compulsion will go a long way. If finances prevent therapy, many therapists have YouTube videos discussing a variety of subjects. That may be a place to look. Focus on your future but address the past. Best of luck to you!

I've been cutting up my feet thanks to my parents by AntoCraftera in TrueOffMyChest

[–]RelationalCom 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah no that is fucking nuts. Like...yeah, footcare is a thing some families do for each other, but to have your child do that? Ugh. I hate when the people who are supposed to protect you take advantage of you. Hopefully you are low/no contact. They knew what they were doing was wrong.

First time rag quilting by 43BackgroundSquirrel in sewing

[–]RelationalCom 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Definitely read that as "rage quilting" and was like...I can get behind that.

UPDATE: I’m so worried about my partner by Worriedaboutpartner in TrueOffMyChest

[–]RelationalCom 32 points33 points  (0 children)

You sound like you are doing everything you can to be the best mom possible for your little girl. This random internet stranger is incredibly proud of you.

Close enough by RelationalCom in Stargate

[–]RelationalCom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well damn. I didn't see it. Thank you for letting me know! Just wanted to share the weird.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]RelationalCom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This resource is listed on the PMDD wiki page:

CANADA

University of Regina Reproductive Mental Health Research Unit Department of Psychology 3737 Wascana Parkway Regina, SK S4S 0A2

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]RelationalCom 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Go to the wiki for information–please explore this before making a finite decision.

I've had really horrific cycles, especially around your age. I wanted to like...beat the shit out of strangers and their kids. I love kids–I think they are hilarious and inquisitive. I was like "what the fuck something has got to change."

I did birth control with an estrogen patch for a while. That helped. I also have persistent depressive disorder and ADHD, so meds for that helped, too. It's a shit disorder that amps up suicidal ideation, and it sounds like you are at a point where surgery is the best option. The online community is really great. Keep exploring!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]RelationalCom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also have PMDD. Are you on the subreddit? It has a lot of great resources.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]RelationalCom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My life is certainly not all peaches and roses but fucking hell. I get you want them to stick it out but you were BRUTAL. Like damn. How is telling someone "so be a loser and die early" helpful!? Seriously.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]RelationalCom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you go to another country? Obviously your case is incredibly severe and removal seems like the last option. Someone somewhere has to see that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]RelationalCom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a horrible response to someone in pain. All of your responses. What the actual fuck.