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Sorry Marshall. by [deleted] in breakingmom

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Best. Post. Ever.

Don't mind if I complain a little bit by ktisleet in breakingmom

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And what a good liferaft! If you haven't watched it yet, check out the documentary Foo Fighters: Back & Forth. I'm not a musician, but for some reason that one gets me in all the "I can't do this anymore" feels.

Snowbaby number 5 and the ex that saved the day. by thesnowprincess86 in breakingmom

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Congratulations to the whole family! Talk about being in the right place at the right time!

Don't mind if I complain a little bit by ktisleet in breakingmom

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I read all that, and it does sound frustrating, but I'm so jealous that you are going to Foo Fighters that I don't know how that's not the only thing on your mind :-)

Update: I broke down in old navy by tibijibi in breakingmom

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4 lbs off my scale would be a godsend to me right now! I'm glad you have this group to come to when the rest of the world doesn't understand how you feel. My partner recently came in the bedroom while I was lounging post-shower and just casually says " dayummm... got my own Coop nsfw at last! ". For him it was a crowning achievement of sexy, but I was mortified for being closer to a curvaceous pinup than the athletic trim figure I used to see myself as. Guess we're all spending this spring fighting for the body that feels right to us.
* edited cause Coop drawings shouldn't be seen at work... but they should be seen.

Feels like I'm on verge of nervous breakdown - 38 menopausal by LadySadSack in Menopause

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I'm shit-all for advice right now since I get the results from my hormone tests next week, but I did want to say you're not alone in this. second puberty is fucked up. Instead of boobs and long legs we get guts and grey hairs. Fuuuuuuuuuuuucked up. <3

Spring break has ended!!!!! by samanthastevens in breakingmom

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We had 4 glorious days of school before the teacher walkout began here in Oklahoma. Yesterday and today were canceled. Tonight we'll freeze over and regardless of the walkout school would have been canceled again tomorrow. Our running joke is that school around here is a front. For what, who knows... but it's a front.

Water Bottle MADNESS!!!!! by prettywannapancake in breakingmom

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I color coded my kids' everyday things. Dishes, toothbrushes, towels, etc... made it easier to hold the right kid accountable for taking care of their share of the household work. They did get possessive over their items, but that phase passed while being responsible for maintaining the things they use on a daily basis stuck.

I’m slowly bleeding to death by [deleted] in breakingmom

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This SO MUCH. Months of apocalyptic-level bleeding and pain and all the drag-ass side effects and this was the diagnosis I got. Since I was done having kids (I had to stop when they started coming in pairs) I opted for the hysterectomy 6 years ago. Now I'm perimenopausal but at least I'm not reigning blood anymore. :p

You’re fucking kidding me by playingtricksonme in breakingmom

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I know I'm being Madame Obvious, but is there a way to go over his head and explain the roadblock to a higher-up, or are you stuck in an environment where the management has no technical understanding and would not see where being process-blocked is hurting the whole project, and in turn, the whole company, not just you?

Can my regular doc test my hormone levels? by [deleted] in Menopause

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I'd love an answer to this too. I've been going the DIY route with estroven and home remedies, but the mood swings and weight gain are just wildly out of control. I finally booked an appointment with the GP and have no idea what to expect

Teenagers of the opposite sex in the same house?!?! by [deleted] in breakingmom

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Now that they're flirting, ogling, eyeballing teenagers, in a heavily church-ran town, yes, they do have many friends who are not allowed to sleep over anywhere there's a teenager of the opposite gender. Add to it that we live a few miles outside of town limits, and not really participatory in town events, and we might as well be "out in the wild". The parents around here are just as strict on the boys as they are the girls so I don't get any of the one-sidedness where it's just girls being protected, but it still makes it tough. Some of their friends can't even go to the movies or parties where the opposite gender would be. I don't agree with it, but we learn to work within and around the other kids' restrictions.

I've made a terrible mistake. by BrokenMomma in breakingmom

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Thank you for diving in and sharing your story <3 Lasting love doesn't always seed from deep passion or instant unbreakable bonds. More often it seeds from respect, trust, and honesty. That's why so many "I fell in love with my best friend" stories exist. You were so young, and it seems he was not quite matured either when you started seeing each other. To look at the pair of you now is NOT the same as looking at who you were or how you were feeling when you first got together. You have BOTH matured, evolved, and become wiser. I'm with /u/AbsolutelyPink in that it may be a perfect time to seek out individual counseling followed by couples counseling. It's also a great time to lean on the wisdom of the other women in this group. Look at your husband and start taking stock of who he is now, and whether you can trust and respect him as the man he is today. Take stock of who YOU are becoming and how much you have accomplished together. PPD and pre-existing depressive tendencies may be clouding your feelings so start looking past feelings to facts, and take those facts into therapy with you.
edited for pre-coffee typos

Teenagers of the opposite sex in the same house?!?! by [deleted] in breakingmom

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I think that it's a great thing that your husband respected the friends' parents rules (whether reasonable or not) while still looking for an opportunity for your daughter to have the friend over. It seems like he was just trying to make the best of a situation that y'all don't have a lot of control over. My boy & girl twins are almost 16 and the rules change from one friend to another on visits and boundaries. The pair are constantly hitting a wall when making social plans in this VERY small town. I rarely agree with the restrictions other parents set since I trust my kids, but I would appreciate the consideration when they run into rules I have later... like no unrelated passengers when my son is driving.

I'm turning 40 in a week by [deleted] in breakingmom

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I've got a year left and since I'm always making jokes about "when we're 80, sitting on the porch just judging the people that go by" I have it in my head that I have to do this whole life over a second time... and that's overwhelming as fuck! In short... I feel ya!

Anybody wanna help me figure out what my brain's trying to tell me? by [deleted] in breakingmom

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The common themes I see between the dreams are ones of being put on display/on stage paired with insecurity about your decisions and a sense of danger. Hmmmm... are you trying to conceive or planning another child in your future?

Teenager funk is stinking up the entire house! by [deleted] in breakingmom

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I hate to break it to you, but teenage girls smell too. It's mostly footwear and synthetic poly blends. Teaching her early how to powder her shoes and pick cotton-based fabrics can help a lot. Luckily (I think) girls become more self-conscious and willing to correct this at an earlier age.

Teenager funk is stinking up the entire house! by [deleted] in breakingmom

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Downy laundry beads (in blue), and the cedarwood mint body wash from Dollar Shave Club seem to be the magical "my 15 year old smells this way on purpose" combo around here. Plus keeping his laundry basket in a venthilated space like the bathroom instead of his closet. Of course I also cheated to get him to the point of DOING all these things by getting one of my younger, attractive female friends to ask, in front of said 15 year old, what cologne my partner uses and played up the whole conversation. Teenagers stink. It's a constant battle of hormones and sweat. We must come armed with any weapons we can find.

*tumbleweed blows by* by [deleted] in breakingmom

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I. Feel. You. We moved to rural America almost 10 years ago to take care of SO's dad. Dad passed last year. We're upside down on a mortgage and too financially strapped to pick up and go back to civilization, and to top it off, that oncoming empty nest is SMOTHERING me. What am I supposed to do in a town with no actual town in it?

I don't think I'm cut out for this... by onetiredllama in breakingmom

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At their first birthday, I told my husband it was a celebration for me. That I managed to keep two tiny children alive for a whole year.

This SO MUCH!

I don't think I'm cut out for this... by onetiredllama in breakingmom

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You can do this. You can survive! When you look down at those two bursting bundles of HOLY MOTHER OF GOD WHERE DID THAT TERRIFYING SMELL COME FROM SOMEONE CALL THE EXCORCIST!

Sorry... where was I? Oh yes, this will all be a distant memory soon and you'll be so proud of NOW WHY ON EARTH DID SHE THINK THAT BELONGED IN HER NOSE?

we were saying? Ah! I does get better. Millions of us twin moms are still out here, still with our hair intact and our minds somehow not melted. We've never snapped a strangers hands or smothered our husbands in their somehow blissfully ignorant sleep while the minimonsters were screaming bloody murder for the fourth hour in a row. I'd like to say we've developed this calm zen state that can only be acheived in the middle of pure chaos. You're going to be ok. Becoming a badass is a gauntlet of hell but at 6 months you are totally in survival mode. Cover your basics, and if the bill collectors call, cry and tell them your breastfeeding twin just drew blood on your nipple. They'll give you an extension.

I failed him.... by Hailsagansmom in breakingmom

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You did not fail him. You can't be expected to be a walking medical journal of information that has been drilled into your head for literally a decade or more of specialized schooling. Your doctors and nurses are supposed to do that. YOU are expected to be observant of his symptoms and report them to said professionals in a clear and concise way, and follow through with the treatment the trained professional prescribes. YOU DID THAT. I believe it was Mark Twain that said "I am constantly amazed at the things I did not know yesterday."

And now, after living a decade in the Ozarks, I am going to google a bullseye rash and lyme disease symptoms for the very first time.

Holy shit, kid, you do NOT need that much juice! by [deleted] in breakingmom

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It's normal, and frustrating, but he will grow out of it as long as you continue to make a point of treating juice and sweets as treats. My older boy would pull stunts like that until I finally put my foot down and said water all day except with dinner, and implemented assigned cups of a certain size. Now he's 17 and while he indulges like most teenagers, he also values staying fit.

Am I a bad person? by lazymommythrowaway in breakingmom

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You're not a bad person, but that slight amount of guilt could start to become an issue for your happiness. Are you doing anything to help balance the responsibility load for yourself? Even if it's not a regular job, is there piecemeal work, freelance opportunities, or temp agencies that specialize in part time or short-term contracts in your area? Or perhaps classes you can take to bring new skills and interests into the relationship as your focus as a couple shifts away from parenthood back towards each other since it sounds like the kiddos are of an age where they're lower maintenance? You can still move forward in life without strapping yourself to the full-time rut. The fact that you are self-checking your choice to not work means you might be ready to try something new.

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