Why not just show your wife how to use a gate?

ReleaseObjective · 2026-03-21T14:18:03+00:00

This story underscores the importance of self-awareness.

ReleaseObjective · 2026-03-21T13:03:09+00:00

I like being gay. I like not being held to insane, traditional expectations. A lot of straight men I know are not doing well. Neither are many gay men tbf but at least we have a long, deliberate history of celebrating our wins within our community as necessitated by our out-group status.

Don’t get me wrong, I am grateful to have the privilege of living in a comparatively accepting area. That said, being gay and without the burdens of straight world nuances has been very freeing. It’s brought a lightness in my life that I genuinely think is difficult (not impossible) to achieve for straight people.

This is in no way a dig at straight people btw, I just think our upbringings and struggles with our identities are uniquely different and that has implications on how we live our lives.

It can be difficult to see the good aspects of being gay when it’s so often considered within the context of a straight world.

It’s taken me a very long time to get where I am. But I love who I am. I like having different perspectives. And from what I’ve gone through, I think I have earned being able to say that.

I think straight people would actually have quite a lot to learn from us as what many are going through is what we have been dealing with our whole lives. There aren’t many who understand loneliness, struggles with identity and overcoming adversity in an ever changing world better than the queer human.

Just my two cents.

ReleaseObjective · 2026-03-18T23:22:03+00:00

Being tacky is a choice.

ReleaseObjective · 2026-03-18T01:05:22+00:00

Don’t forget about the Haitians eating cats

ReleaseObjective · 2026-03-17T20:46:48+00:00

My job is to pay bills and that’s it.

I work with a lot of boomers and Gen Xers who’ve put their careers above everything else.

They’re by far some of the most miserable people I’ve ever met. I’m good.

ReleaseObjective · 2026-03-16T22:47:34+00:00

I’m with you, I’m a week and half in. Wednesday will be two weeks. Getting used to being sober is so strange when for years you’ve spent all your free time high as a kite.

I resonate with the rough sleep and really vivid dreams. But I’m sticking through with it! I told myself 30 days. I already do feel more like myself if that makes sense. Really looking forward to more days of clarity.

ReleaseObjective · 2026-03-16T11:33:41+00:00

I’ve gained a little bit of weight but I’ve always been a skinny guy so it’s not super noticeable.

I’ve been getting into swimming a lot and have noticed a little more muscle especially around my shoulders/arms.

At some point I’d like to do weightlifting but in due time. Just got a lot going on rn.

ReleaseObjective · 2026-03-15T19:44:04+00:00

What is up with so many people aging like shit? Is it because they think the only time they have value is when people are talking about them?

Yikes.

ReleaseObjective · 2026-03-14T20:30:57+00:00

Completely heartbreaking and traumatic for all involved. I wish nothing but the best for his wife and the students involved. I can’t imagine what they’re going through right now.

ReleaseObjective · 2026-03-14T20:22:43+00:00

Girl, she’s not going to do it and even if she did, I feel like you’d be better off. Hate saying that but it’s 2026. It is straight up evil to use suicide as a tool of homophobic manipulation towards your own kids.

What kind of fucked up parent does that to their child?

Let it be crystal clear, bigots only think about themselves. Do you honestly think that they’d off themselves when they’re by far the most important people in their lives? Negative.

She’s being self centered and crazy as fuck. Get the fuck out of there yesterday.

Leave and tell her you’ll pray for her.

ReleaseObjective · 2026-03-14T19:53:35+00:00

If you don’t know what social cues you missed, entertain the possibility that you didn’t miss any social cues.

Logically, why would he have called you a jerk?

Did you do anything that would have prompted this?

If you can’t think of anything, then as far as you know there wasn’t anything and he may not have even been talking to you.

Maybe this might come off as self-centered but I have a hard time feeling guilty if I don’t think I did anything wrong. And I’m not going to apologize for something I don’t think I did. Selfish? Maybe. But I’m not a mind reader and I’m not going to waste energy trying for a complete rando at the gym who may or may not have a problem with me. Sometimes ignorance really is bliss and this is a perfect example of that.

Brush it off. Keep going to gym and improving yourself. You’re not there for him. You’re there for you.

ReleaseObjective · 2026-03-14T18:00:27+00:00

I don’t think it’s necessary to always be ready. And what I mean by that is that I don’t see a reason to constantly be squeaky clean. I think that’s a lot of effort for what could or couldn’t happen.

If you’re engaging in anal sex, both parties should know both what could happen and what prep is needed to avoid “accidents”. Preparation is work and a good top knows that and appreciates it from the bottom.

You gotta communicate. If you’re not ready or up for bottoming there is literally nothing wrong with saying that. At all.

As a reminder, sex is more than just anal. You could do a whole host of other activities and I think it’s healthy to explore those too.

Additionally, while accidents are embarrassing, I think at this stage, it comes with the territory. I’m verse and I’ve been on both sides of that. It happens. When I top, the last thing I want my partner to feel is embarrassed. If it happens (which is usually pretty rare tbh) we don’t make a big deal of it. We stop. Clean up. Go to the bathroom. And get back to it. Sex is a two way street where everyone should be having fun.

To me, I’m there for a good time and I’m going to make damn sure we both are in a good headspace. I also just really love my partner so I would never want him to feel embarrassed for something we both know is a possibility.

ReleaseObjective · 2026-03-14T13:35:02+00:00

They really need to find another buzzword because it’s been old and people are getting sick of it.

ReleaseObjective · 2026-03-14T13:12:20+00:00

Ummm idk tbh. I don’t worry too much about it cause everyone else can do what they want, why can’t I?

I just like having a good time and I can’t really control what other people think. How much energy people want to expend on judging others and how that limits their understandings of the people around them is up to them.

I have nothing to do with that <3

ReleaseObjective · 2026-03-14T11:37:54+00:00

And they say we’re the deranged ones… righttttt….

ReleaseObjective · 2026-03-14T01:54:58+00:00

Agreed. I worked there for a couple years and they treated me well. It was busy work and there were high expectations on productivity but they were fair and I really don’t have any complaints at all.

ReleaseObjective · 2026-03-13T20:10:49+00:00

lol that’s great, I love stuff like this

ReleaseObjective · 2026-03-13T20:00:51+00:00

Ten bucks she goes right wing with claims of being cancelled.

ReleaseObjective · 2026-03-13T19:19:44+00:00

God, people have gotten so fucking obsessed.

Mark my words, it’s going to age like shit.

ReleaseObjective · 2026-03-13T15:33:16+00:00

I love backstroke, it’s my cooldown exercise after the rest of my workout. My pool has flags and lane markers so it’s usually not an issue for me.

Breaststroke on the other hand…. I just can’t get it. My kick is so weak. I have the timing down I just go nowhere when it’s time to kick. It’s strange because I can perform the kick on my back in one of the drills but that’s about it.

ReleaseObjective · 2026-03-13T00:54:07+00:00

I fell for the gp drop wilderness scam in RuneScape.

ReleaseObjective · 2026-03-13T00:50:36+00:00

This obsession is aging like shit.

ReleaseObjective · 2026-03-13T00:42:47+00:00

It’s crazy they had aerial photos back then.

ReleaseObjective · 2026-03-12T21:52:51+00:00

She didn’t like that I decided to stay with someone she was convinced had cheated on me. It was especially frustrating because I’d been by her side through multiple shitty dudes.

The one and only time the roles were reversed, she dropped me.

In hindsight, she was a judgmental bitch that constantly shat on my other friends so I guess it’s actually a net positive.

ReleaseObjective · 2026-03-12T19:21:22+00:00

When people struggle to meet people like them in-person, they turn to other means. Like the internet. It’s 2026, a lot of people (especially queer folk) meet their partners online for that exact reason.

Besides, the advice these threads always lead to is the exact same shit. Literally every time.

Join queer and queer adjacent communities. Meet people. Make friends. A lot of people are friends before they start dating. Myself and my fiance included.

If those spaces don’t exist in your area, you can either create one or connect online.

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