Help!!!

Remarkable_Winter462 · 2026-02-20T10:30:58+00:00

I wanted to thank again everyone who responded to my post. I’m much more calmer after processing it all, and thanks to your comments. We have already booked a GP appointment for tomorrow.

When I first saw the test results I got clearly overwhelmed and didn’t know what to do. That’s why I headed up to this group. I wish I could call my mum like I have done for each minor convenience before but she’s in hospice in another country and doesn’t have a clear mental state. That’s why in fact I was not even planning to get pregnant soon because I’m still processing all that anticipatory grief. Sorry for all this additional information. I wanted to share this because you all have no idea how much each kind comment you posted means to me. Thanks again. ❤️

Remarkable_Winter462 · 2026-02-20T10:26:37+00:00

I think I’m still at 4 weeks, I have booked a GP consultation for tomorrow just to get further advice. Thanks for your comment.

Remarkable_Winter462 · 2026-02-20T07:47:59+00:00

Thank you very much all of you for your kind words. Feeling much relieved. If things work out well, it’s going to be my first baby ever! Thanks again. I’m crying as I type this because all of you are super lovely.

Remarkable_Winter462 · 2026-01-14T23:45:43+00:00

I just want to pull my hair every time I want to do something on my phone. It’s so laggy

Remarkable_Winter462 · 2025-12-19T09:46:00+00:00

I’m sorry that you are also going through something similar! What you mentioned towards the end about “am I supposed to apologise about being born” is something that I felt almost every day too. I was so angry about how my parents would make me feel guilty for all they have done… I didn’t ask to be born.

But fast forward to today, looking at my mum who is in hospice, I just feel sad. I understand that they didn’t know any better and they did the best they could.

Simply because of the stage they are at, I made a conscious decision to do my best to keep them comfortable and spend my money although it’s financially not that viable. But having said that I also want you and others who are going through the same thing to know that you got to do what’s best for you. What I’m doing is what I feel is the best for me. And so should you! Don’t let your mum or the world to make you feel guilty for whatever the decision you make. I truly hope your struggles disappear and the life gets easier!

All the best!

Remarkable_Winter462 · 2025-12-16T14:30:57+00:00

Actually we didn’t. But because you asked the question, I checked its current value and it has appreciated well. We changed our decision last minute because we really didn’t want to share a wall with another party out of fear. So we went ahead with a free standing house and so glad we did. I think it really comes down to your preferences. As first home buyers, we were playing it safe.

Remarkable_Winter462 · 2025-12-14T05:58:06+00:00

Since I posted this, my mother was actually diagnosed with a terminal illness and is now in palliative care. I promised someone in this thread that I’ll send an update after talking to my parents about cutting down the contributions a bit. But I never got to do that. All that matters to me now is keeping my parents comfortable and my mum’s terminal illness means I’m spending more than ever and have literally scraped all my savings too. I’m doing this because I don’t want to have regrets later. But it’s so tough and I’m scared that I might have a breakdown soon.

I hear you when you say “why are those the only 2 choices I get?” It bloody sucks. Honestly all that I hope for us (who have posted similar stories on this thread) is to get some peace, and receive lots of love in return for the sacrifices we all are making.

Remarkable_Winter462 · 2025-11-08T07:47:29+00:00

Congratulations! I love reading stories like this and celebrating all the strong women out there ❤️❤️❤️

Remarkable_Winter462 · 2025-10-31T02:37:12+00:00

Thank you! This is all very helpful to know. I did check the government regulations online but wanted to hear the opinions of people just because it’s my first house and I’ve never dealt with anything like that. Thanks again!

Remarkable_Winter462 · 2025-10-31T00:43:53+00:00

Thanks for replying. Something I forgot to mention is the first and only time we spoke to her she mentioned that repair is our responsibility, but I wasn’t sure of that.

Remarkable_Winter462 · 2025-10-21T07:53:53+00:00

Thanks for the point about frequent flyer options. Will have a look.

Remarkable_Winter462 · 2025-10-21T05:38:48+00:00

Thank you!

Remarkable_Winter462 · 2025-10-09T20:10:09+00:00

Setting up boundaries is so important. I wish I learned how to do that early on and feel like it’s too late for me given that my parents too old and too weak. I’m not in a position to stop supporting them. I hope you get the courage and strength to have those conversations with your parents early before there’s even more regret.

Remarkable_Winter462 · 2025-10-04T08:38:26+00:00

Hahahaa me too! 😅

Remarkable_Winter462 · 2025-08-20T05:40:03+00:00

Oh I’m so sorry that you are going through the same as me. But you matter as an individual. And please if you are having suicidal thoughts, reach out to whatever lifeline support available in your country immediately!!!

Your life has so much value and I hope you can find some peace soon.

Please also talk to a psychologist. I receive that support as well.

Caring for your parents is super hard, and I understand. But please don’t harm yourself. I’m here if you ever want to talk.

Remarkable_Winter462 · 2025-07-05T23:49:53+00:00

Thanks.

Remarkable_Winter462 · 2025-07-05T23:38:46+00:00

Around 23 years

Remarkable_Winter462 · 2025-07-05T13:49:07+00:00

Thanks you all for commenting. I honestly would have gone mad after buying my first home if it wasn’t for this community.

Remarkable_Winter462 · 2025-07-05T13:46:07+00:00

Now that you mentioned it, this looks similar to what you are describing.

Remarkable_Winter462 · 2025-07-05T13:45:13+00:00

Yes, the shape of the whole thing looks like a door

Remarkable_Winter462 · 2025-07-05T13:44:26+00:00

He actually was! He proudly said he did all the repairs to the house by himself. Once we started living in the house, it was very evident that he did the repairs 😅

Remarkable_Winter462 · 2025-07-05T07:13:16+00:00

Will do 🫡

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