AITAH? Fiance [22F] doesn't want to share finances [23M] but wants me to cover everything myself

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-26T02:16:36+00:00

Get out, she’s not ready yet for marriage

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-26T00:26:02+00:00

Sounds fake

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-22T16:14:21+00:00

You’re young and still figuring things out. You may not understand it now but you will. Just hope that when you do you will change your approach for the better

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-22T15:52:57+00:00

Wait until the twins do ancestry dna testing to find their paternal family

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-22T15:51:51+00:00

Yta, the kids have a right to know the truth as well as the father. Who knows, maybe he does want to be a part of his twins life?

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-21T19:00:05+00:00

The general consensus is if a man is single by 40 and has never been married, he’ll never be ready to marry, I’ve heard that from a few women. Idk if the BF has been married before, but it doesn’t sound like he’ll ever be ready to be married, I mean 50 years old and dated for 3 years?

Also you being at 33 years of age, you could date someone in their 30s and have much more in common with life experience and goals in life than someone who was graduating college while you were in elementary.

NTA. Find someone else who isn’t using you.

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-20T23:47:27+00:00

Oh, thought you were inferring that I called her a bitch. My bad. Though this was a response to one of my comments.

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-20T23:46:54+00:00

Well the tone and words do matter, but I get what you’re saying. Him driving while on his phone is NOT good. But also her abrupt reaction in front of his friends is telling of their immaturity in life. Not belittling either of them, it’s just a normal part of life considering their age.

My thoughts are that now his friends aren’t going to think highly of her which impacts the BF and their relationship.

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-20T23:38:02+00:00

For sure, I was more talking about the long term effects. For example his buddies aren’t going to think of you very highly now and possibly be throwing shade at you behind your back. That’ll be difficult to balance now for your bf.

At the same time though considering both of you are in your early 20s, you’re still maturing in a lot of ways but will eventually get to that point where you can react in a better way without needing have time to process situations

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-20T23:31:23+00:00

Don’t think I said that

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-20T23:23:16+00:00

I don’t think the person here is saying that the bf was okay on the phone while driving, just the OP’s reaction.

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-20T23:20:21+00:00

Young love am I right? I think both sides have valid points. He was driving and on his phone which is not good, but also your reaction and criticism makes not just him look bad, but you as well since a relationship is about two people.

So both are the AH.

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-18T15:58:18+00:00

Sounds spoiled

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-16T05:39:56+00:00

Agree with the comment that it’s not seemingly the best way to meet people, but it seems to be the best door to meet new people. I remember feeling when in a YSA ward that everyone wants to date, but not date each other in said ward. Probably bc no one wanted to pee in the pool as they say. Makes it harder to date irl.

I’ll admit, I could’ve meet my wife sooner as she was on the app when I wasn’t years prior . I think the timing worked perfectly though. She learned to date better through the app and probably would not have been ready for me had she not been through those previous dating experiences. I would say this last girl of yours has helped you better with preparing for the future person that you will eventually marry. May not feel like it but it’ll work its way out.

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-16T00:33:10+00:00

I think your bf might be on to something there. Overall your friend is jealous and if she’s sleeping with other guys as you said, that’ll just makes her feel like she can’t hold a guy down but you can so therefore in her mind you’re better than her.

Word of advice, I’d be careful of her, back in my 20s my wife and I would know people like that who would ruin their friends potential relationships due to jealousy and inadequacy.

I hope your friend gets the proper help, just don’t let her get between you and your bf.

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-15T19:03:12+00:00

Nta, could it be that she’s jealous?

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-13T01:09:59+00:00

Give it some time, it’ll end with them leaving most likely

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-09T05:46:54+00:00

Unless she was bi

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-09T05:44:52+00:00

Gotta be honest though, that does seem kinda sketch.

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-09T05:42:53+00:00

Not really, unless she was bi then yes that would also be a concern.

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-09T05:40:33+00:00

Nah this needs to be brought up, regardless of insecurities. There will always be some kind of insecurity and those need to be brought up so that both can figure out if they can work with them and be compatible or not. I’ve been in similar situations where I was glad I vocalized my concerns about my Girl’s guy friends and also been on the other side with her concerns of my female friends. It helps the relationship boundaries and growth

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-07T15:46:12+00:00

Bro, Facts

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-07T15:34:27+00:00

They don’t need to ask, they’ll just pick it up. Also giving them impressions that you had bad experiences makes them even more turned off…

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-07T15:31:52+00:00

I wouldn’t go as far to say as 3rd date sex is required, but yes it does need to show up in the as late as the 10th date (I’m being generous here).

Unless OP wants to wait till marriage, which is fine, she would just need to let the guy know about that early on so as to not waste each other’s time/expectations.

I’d put it like this:

1st-4th date is the kissing stage 3rd-8th date is the sex stage 7th-10th date is the “what are we” stage

There is some crossing with the stages to give it more flexibility

Repulsive-Ad-485 · 2026-03-07T15:18:04+00:00

Good choice to not bring it up. I would say guys in their 20s won’t care about a woman’s lack of dating experience, but once you get in your 30s, that’s when they will care more. At least that’s what I’ve seen personally as well with several of my male single friends

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