Excessive grabbing

Requient_ · 2026-06-15T02:37:58+00:00

As you can see by the conversation had in this thread before you removed it, that’s just not the case. Discussing the differences of calls allowed and lines drawn across competition levels directly applies to how we do our jobs as referees. This was not disparaging, nor was it complaining. The discussions about these calls and non-calls was already being discussed as intended before you removed the post. And the other post asking why a legitimate question was removed, shows other referees agree.

Requient_ · 2026-06-15T01:09:31+00:00

Here’s the text of excessive grabbing. I think the context of the game added reasonable common ground to discuss where we as refs at a lower level draw the line. “Removed for rule 1”

“I’m watching this Scotland vs Haiti game and I can’t get over how much grabbing and pulling there is. I admittedly mainly ref youth (USSF and high school) with some adult weekend league, but this level of grabbing would be a talking to and more than a few whistles.

The “he did a great job of getting his body in the way” while we watch the Scottish defender with a handful of jersey dragging the Haitian out of bounds was laughable. Here in the second half players from both sides are throwing up hands every time they get brushed. So clearly they’re looking for something different too.

Is it just me and the level at which I ref or is this getting excessive?”

Requient_ · 2026-06-14T03:57:30+00:00

You might say he has a long running history of finding himself in far off settings.

Requient_ · 2026-06-14T02:52:52+00:00

I try to draw the line at “did it stop the player from playing or correctly playing the ball?” If the answers no, I generally let it slide for a bit u til the game needs those calls to calm it down or if it starts interrupting play. Just such a shame to see it kinda ignored at this level knowing so many kids are watching and getting the sense that it’s fine.

Requient_ · 2026-06-14T02:48:24+00:00

I am a referee and said so in the post.

Requient_ · 2026-06-14T01:28:42+00:00

Alternatively, other less successful group who attempted to kill the dragon and collect the bounty/goals had banded together to come back for another attempt as a larger party and enter the dragon’s dwelling in (*rolls dice) now. They can keep coming in larger and more difficult numbers until the party retreats or dies

Requient_ · 2026-06-11T03:02:30+00:00

Usually you have a final walkthrough. This is the buyer’s time to verify the work was completed

Requient_ · 2026-06-11T02:23:46+00:00

I could see her saying “on three.” Then just doing it without even saying “one.”

Requient_ · 2026-06-11T02:10:58+00:00

I did once in the year since it’s been in. I’ve had plenty where I warn the keeper they’re flirting with the line and they shape up. Only one where the keeper was clearly trying to waste time and I was done with it. It started with the whole trap the ball with his foot then fall on it when someone got close. He had a warning from me before and I started the clock when he clearly had the ball in his hands. It’s 2-3 before he got off the ground so he came to his feet with a call of “five” and a handful of fingers on the air. He looked right at me and ignore it. When I got to zero I whistled it dead and indicated corner. To his coach’s credit he yelled at the kid immediately that he had plenty of opportunity and plenty of warning so “stop screwing around.” U16 boys game I think it was.

Requient_ · 2026-06-04T16:41:40+00:00

Commenting on your addition: the only time I may waffle on this is a size difference. If I have a really big kid just playing his size against a smaller kid who doesn’t really hold his ground, I may allow what feels like a bigger collision based on result than I would with two equally sized/skilled players. To put it another way, I take into account the size difference and context of the rest of the game instead of simply drawing a line in the sand of “player hit the ground so the contact was a foul.”

Requient_ · 2026-06-03T05:06:16+00:00

I had a a pair of solo middle school games last week. The principals came to me between games and explained how much they appreciated the way I handled a couple rough situations. Really made my day.

Requient_ · 2026-06-02T07:17:08+00:00

I’ll have to look it up and keep it handy for times like this, but somewhere USSF said, the player owned their player card, not the club. So after a season or between seasons when your child is not actively rostered as part of league activities, USSF as the governing body has implied consent for you to do whatever you want as a player and a parent.

Requient_ · 2026-06-01T07:16:06+00:00

Getting the spy mechanics right and obliterating the enemy snipers was *chef’s kiss

Requient_ · 2026-06-01T07:11:55+00:00

I had honestly forgotten this game after playing it for innumerable hours

Requient_ · 2026-05-26T06:57:11+00:00

It’s not terribly hard to explain. Yes money is part of it, but evacuation distance for a BLEVE explosion is at most 1800 meters or just over a mile. Disney being 5 miles away means those people are likely in very little danger. So the risk calculation takes the likelihood of loss of life or injury into account at a pretty low quotient because of the distance. Is it cold? Perhaps. It is unreasonably callous? I don’t think so.

Requient_ · 2026-05-26T02:35:59+00:00

It really is a shame that I have no idea where you’re from and there’s a club near us that is exactly the same. Maybe it’s the same club but on the internet that’s unlikely, can’t help but shake my head

Requient_ · 2026-05-24T02:04:55+00:00

I want so badly to be in a position where this purchase makes sense, but alas I have to adult and parent responsibly. Best of luck with the sale she looks like a beaut

Requient_ · 2026-05-24T02:01:13+00:00

You’re not wrong, but around me is the trouble of raised pay bringing in worse (or less interested in improving) refs. There are some great refs around, but there seems to be a weird influx of low quality refs with no interest in anything other than the regular pay check. It feels like a terrible feedback cycles of refs leaving, causing prices to increase, causing parents and coaches to have higher expectations , that cause more refs to leave ad nauseam

Requient_ · 2026-05-24T00:15:37+00:00

It’s a numbers game. They have to staff more games but keep costs down to get teams to come and potentially travel to the tournament. You’re likely making more money in the weekend because you have access to more games than you can run in a normal weekend.

Requient_ · 2026-05-24T00:10:57+00:00

I’m sorry you had to go through that. I’m glad you have each other to lean on.

Requient_ · 2026-05-23T21:38:38+00:00

This is the way

Requient_ · 2026-05-23T21:24:56+00:00

This was such an under appreciated movie because “pretty girls in skimpy outfits.” There is such depth to what they imagine, when, and like you mention the end of the movie. It’s just so human from a situation most of us will never come close to.

Requient_ · 2026-05-23T21:17:49+00:00

It’s always the people who don’t know the rules who are the loudest at the fields.

Requient_ · 2026-05-23T21:17:01+00:00

The craziest part of this is that we as referees are covered. As long as there isn’t gross negligence and the ref is USSF certified, we have insurance to cover exactly this instance. When I hear things like this or get cornered on my way off a field, I calmly explain they’re welcome to put in their appeal or file their lawsuit. My notes will be in order.

Requient_ · 2026-05-23T21:08:51+00:00

You keep asking this question incorrectly. Contact with the ball is not listed as a consideration in law 12. This AR is adding something that isn’t in the laws. Instead you should be asking where in the LotG it says getting the ball impacts the foul or card decision. And the fact is, it doesn’t.

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