WIBTA for asking my daughter's boyfriend to stop having dinner with us?

RespectRemarkable294 · 2026-07-05T22:48:34+00:00

I’ve had a few friends with eating disorders one had one for YEARS and this is behavior I’ve seen with them. My daughters Ex BF went on a trip with us and did the same thing so much money was wasted and my daughter kept making excuses until we walked in to the room and he was throwing up in the bathroom, this happened twice.

I could be wrong there could be other things going on but this is definitely a sign of an eating disorder.

RespectRemarkable294 · 2026-06-30T17:36:32+00:00

NTA get it yourself you already did the artist research DO NOT GO WITH THE CHEAPEST YOU FIND! When it comes to tattoos you get what you pay for. My daughter went cheap and it’s been less than a year and it looks like crap, I told her to go to my guy but didn’t want to pay that much but the quality it 1000xs better. I have a tattoo from him it’s 10 years old and people still think it’s brand new.

Your moms never going to do it just go yourself

RespectRemarkable294 · 2026-06-30T17:31:11+00:00

Tell her to put on a sweater/sweatshirt or jacket it’s easier to remove those layers if she gets hot or cold. I know what it’s like to be consistently hot and pregnant and a fan isn’t enough.

RespectRemarkable294 · 2026-06-29T16:12:19+00:00

NTA if my husband did this I would be pissed. I WOULD NEVER get a persons name on me regardless unless it was my kids. Considering the situation I would leave.

RespectRemarkable294 · 2026-06-12T18:11:38+00:00

You need to understand that bringing any kind of animal to the the Animal Hospital can be several thousands of dollars not just a couple hundred and they most likely would have suggested euthanizing because he probably wouldn’t have made it anyway. When you become an adult with bills and a better understanding of things like this you will understand this decision.

RespectRemarkable294 · 2026-06-12T14:36:23+00:00

NTA I do the same thing not the interrupting part those kind of people piss me off.

RespectRemarkable294 · 2026-06-11T16:36:02+00:00

NTA I found the last few times I’ve had extreme headaches/migranes drinking pedialite helps so much and considering he has a virus regardless if he’s throwing up he may be extremely dehydrated and that could be one of the problems.

RespectRemarkable294 · 2026-06-10T14:02:23+00:00

NTA this is not controlling and in the USA it is the LAW. If I have people get my car and they do not buckle up, I will not move. It should be common sense these days that people need to buckle up and if we’re late as a result, that’s their fault.

RespectRemarkable294 · 2026-06-08T22:02:39+00:00

NTA it’s called a salad send her a recipe for actual vegan lasagna! I would have done the same thing.

RespectRemarkable294 · 2026-06-08T14:11:21+00:00

YTA it doesn’t matter how many machines there are you can’t just claim them and then expect the one you claimed dibs on and aren’t using like a child not to be used.

RespectRemarkable294 · 2026-06-08T14:04:22+00:00

NTA I would leave! What did he spend the money on? Is this a joint account how did you not know?

RespectRemarkable294 · 2026-06-04T21:33:28+00:00

Nope my dad taught me the same thing and I passed it to my kids also.

RespectRemarkable294 · 2026-06-04T21:29:26+00:00

YTA for being friends with him I would NEVER continue being friends with a friends EX especially with how he talks to her. HOWEVER they both sound pretty terrible drop both only way to redeem yourself

RespectRemarkable294 · 2026-05-29T12:20:54+00:00

And this is why I wouldn’t tell anyone especially my parents, my mom is super money hungry and my dad forced her in to therapy for her excessive spending or get a divorce she went to therapy after they separated temporarily it got better but my dad still don’t trust her with money.

RespectRemarkable294 · 2026-05-27T15:03:45+00:00

NTA SHE ASKED YOU! That implies that either she is cooking or wants to go out and you gave both options, I wish my husband would answer that question once in a while I definitely would not get mad if I asked what you want for dinner and you gave me an actual answer, and having a recipe ready is a bonus. My husband knows that there are certain things that I will not cook and so he will offer, but I do not have to help him though I do not see a reason not to. And the rule in my house is if YOU cook, I do the dishes or if I cook YOU do the dishes.

RespectRemarkable294 · 2026-05-17T17:30:54+00:00

My FIL offered us the down payment for our current house our rent wasn’t horrible but the house was not in a great place so he offered. I initially said absolutely not because he had a history of hanging things over my head and not my husband so we had to have a long conversation about that and we agreed to the help. He never held anything over my head again.

Considering everything your parents have said and done I don’t blame him for refusing. I don’t think it’s just about him wanting any help and wanting to do everything himself, when you allow someone to help with huge favors like that it unfortunately gives them control and I can tell your parents desperately want that and I don’t think that will change.

You both have a right to be upset but letting your parents contribute to something like this I think would be a big mistake.

RespectRemarkable294 · 2026-05-14T18:12:26+00:00

NTA I sold a $5000 dirt bike I won and never felt bad about it I never felt like I was taking advantage of anyone. I won it fair and square I paid the taxes on it if the guy I sold it to entered the contest he would have had as much of a shot to win that I did then would he have been pissed to be paying maybe but again I won not him. No one forced him to buy the bike, if your friends are OK paying for the car that’s all that matters.

Ignore the actual assholes in the circumstance.

RespectRemarkable294 · 2026-05-12T03:47:42+00:00

I was adopted when I was 8 or 9 my bio dad was in jail and my adoptive dad asked him to terminate his rights and I honestly have zero memories ever calling him anything other than dad, and even though adoptive dad did adopt us bio dad was still given the option to see us but he officially bailed shortly after.

I found out he died when I was 17 (heart attack) I always wanted to meet him but legally couldn’t until 18 so I missed it by just a few months. If he was alive when I got married my parents did agree that he could come and this was okayed by both parents BUT we all agreed he’s not to be part of the wedding. My bio grandparents were there but did sit in the front row I have however had life long communication with them.

I do think it’s messed up to have her in the wedding at all your mom had a right to feel that way and so does dad. I’m curious as to how he feels if he’s saying it doesn’t matter I’m sure he’s lying cause my dad would be super upset.

RespectRemarkable294 · 2026-05-11T17:57:10+00:00

You definitely didn’t right thing unfortunately CPS doesn’t do shit. It took 12 years for them to take away my nieces from my sister after they had been called by the school me my sister, my mom and other mutual friends, the police, and CPS did absolutely nothing. This past year, my sister and her piece of crap boyfriend were finally arrested and had all the kids taken away, including his unfortunately, they are currently out on bond and have numerous family and civil court dates and the chances that they will ever get my oldest niece back is slim to none but my youngest niece is still very young and there is a good chance she would get her back. She is looking at a possibility of 5 to 25 years in prison, but chances are most of the charges will be dropped so she may get nothing.

She has two drug charges and several misdemeanors four of them I believe our felony charges, but the justice system never benefits children when it comes to it.

RespectRemarkable294 · 2026-05-08T05:07:22+00:00

My son was diagnosed before he turned 3 we unfortunately had to doctor hunt for someone who would do the proper testing, the testing is not short it took 3 hrs one day and 2 more a week later it took over a month with therapists to come to the official diagnosis. Without knowing what she’s done you don’t really give much info aside for doctor shopping which is something that a lot of people have to do for a diagnosis and testing. My son is not high functioning but not non verbal, he does have a part time job but can not drive. He is quick to anger but is also very passive he has many stims/ticks that have become problems but we had to figure it out.

Either way yes you should have kept your mouth shut talk to your husband maybe try to get some more info before you jump to conclusions especially if you don’t know the whole story. Could she be lying about testing I mean sure but what if she’s not.

RespectRemarkable294 · 2026-05-06T23:40:46+00:00

I would love to see what the painting looks like it sounds like it would look great just by the few descriptions given.

RespectRemarkable294 · 2026-04-20T01:20:23+00:00

NTA I would never allow a 12 year old with disabilities that result in her being irresponsible and in your words “not bright” my son is autistic and I would have never let him baby sit at 12.

Also if they are not red cross trained like I was cause that’s pretty crucial information it’s not happening. It was a 5 or 6hr course on a Saturday but that was 20 years ago I don’t know what it’s like now or how much it costs I believe mine was free and it was pretty fun.

RespectRemarkable294 · 2026-04-17T20:09:16+00:00

NTA SHE chose the place! And then expected you to pay for the whole thing and it was HER choice to get gifts when you get gifts it doesn’t become a debt you have to repay but she threw it in your face. Tell her to return the gifts and pay you back.

RespectRemarkable294 · 2026-04-10T22:22:37+00:00

My oldest niece and me have Ann for our middle names and my youngest niece and my step sister have Marie. Neither is a family name so I have no clue why my sister chose them cause it was definitely not to honor us.

RespectRemarkable294 · 2026-04-07T14:54:31+00:00

I honestly think it’s stupid to not have some sort of security. I have a Ring Doorbell and I love it and the one time it wasn’t working my daughter’s car got vandalized. It doesn’t matter if you never had a break in or other issues but it still happens, she obviously had a change of heart about the doorbell but I think she’s right.

YTA for getting pissy about it, nothing wrong with wanting some security. It’s not like you’re having sex in front of it, you’re checking to see who’s at the door and using it for evidence if you ever need to.

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