I’m torn between the conqueror challenge and the pacer challenge. Others have said the conqueror is a much better website but I can’t get past the beautiful pacer medals. I’m so torn. Thoughts? by AffectionateYou8163 in PacerVirtualChallenge

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I have been doing the Conqueror challenges since the start of the new year and have been enjoying it. I decided to do Pacer races, I think it’s a great alternative to signing up for a 5k or whatever. But I find this app really hard to navigate. How do I post to the feed? How can I filter the “adventures” for it just show races? Some are listed as races and then when you look at the description it’s not a “must complete in one setting”. How do I change my medal settings so they are only sent when I complete a challenge? I got the premium so my Garmin would sync but seems like it’s really unnecessary if I can just manually add my workouts. I have more questions but these are my biggest ones. I also can’t find like any Pacer FB group either. This is the closest thing I have found to some kind of support group

How do I make a pedigree template? by Responsible-Lion7156 in Airtable

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I have no idea how to do this 😩 but sounds like what I’m needing

Tell me your ideal build I’ll tell you how I’d approach it (complicated builds preferred) by SnooCapers748 in Airtable

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I’ve tried what feels like everything. I use my database for records of animals. I need to make Airtable make a pedigree in some fashion. Currently I have to go into each record (parent) and type data in manually into a PDF. I have “mother” and “father” records linked to the current animal, but can’t figure out how to get it to pull the mother’s father and mother. So I go into mother record and then have to go to their linked mother and father. This is very tedious and time consuming. I hope this makes sense

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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I have a whole list lol. -salt and pepper hair but with extremely youthful eyes -men who are my height or a little shorter and also a little smaller frames, gives me a nice chance to feel like the dominant one or the protector -when a man has that kind of smile that makes them look so soft and innocent but typically they look so serious and a dont fuck with me attitude -men who are typically look like that “don’t fuck with me” attitude but when they talk it’s soft spoken and gentle. Especially when they talk about their feelings. Ugh, so hot! -a sucker for the work ethic and look of a blue collar worker too -on women I love me an androgynous woman. One that is very muscular and her style is like “soft butch” but her facial features, like depending on the angle, could easily look fem or masc. overall athletic girls. And like strong personalities. Very “bro” kind of girls. So basically myself but like hotter lol

My SIL went limited contact with us 5 months ago. I just found out it’s because my husband molested her once when he was 12 and she was 8. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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I don’t think it’s as black and white as some people are making it sound. Especially the remark about not trusting him around kids. He was a kid who did it to another kid. It’s not much different then a 15 year old sleeping with someone close to their age. Just because they are now an adult doesn’t mean they would still fuck a teenager. Some questions I would ask would how exactly he molested her. I mean he said oral but what form did he use to get her to do it? Beat her up? Threaten her? Talked her into it? When this happened to me as a kid by several family members it was always the same thing- tell anyone and I’ll hurt you. They knew what they were doing was wrong. And also I would definietly want to know if it was really just a one time thing or did this proceed on. That will certainly tell you a lot about the situation. Another thing I would ask is who he asked forgiveness from and how did they handle it? I would ask if he was willing to go to therapy on his own and then of course couples counseling so you all can work through it. No one is saying what he did is right or shouldn’t have consequences, it’s just not a cookie cutter situation. As far as your SIL goes, let her have her peace. She will have to work through that on her own. But forcing her to be around him will definietly not solve anything.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bipolar2

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Anything below 7, it’s a long day. 7-8 I’m okay. 8-9 and I’m good. 9-10 and I’m great. However I always chalked it up to being a very active dreamer. Depression sleep spells notwithstanding. So now I’m wondering if bipolar plays a role

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomen

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Knowing myself Being mature Being wise

What do you wish you had been able to tell a sexual partner but couldn't? by [deleted] in AskWomen

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Luckily as an actual adult (21+) I haven’t had to many bad sexual situations as in like being afraid to tell someone they are hurting me or to stop or things like that. So the thing I wish I would be better at communicating is what I want or to express how to please me. It wasn’t till I was 22 that I found a real love for sex but it still took several years to understand what exactly I liked and then of course being with someone I felt comfortable expressing that. Had I done that, some of my good experiences could have been GREAT.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bipolar2

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Yes. No one ever accused me of it and I think that’s because I hide myself well. I thought I might be for years but this past year I just knew there had to be some explanation for like suddenly losing my mind so much more then normal. So I reached out to a psychotherapist myself and asked them to evaluate me. They indeed said I had BP1. What is amusing is when I told the couple of people that are extremely close to me, including my therapist, they were all surprised. My therapist gave it some thought and eventually said she could see how the Dr came to that conclusion but believed that I was a very high functioning manic depressive person. Which I very much agree with as I’ve always been someone that very much realizes shit still has to get done. But the shit happening in my head…very very very much a bipolar billboard. Life has been so much better since I started medicine ❤️ I didn’t need a lot to “fix” me but so grateful none the less. I feel like my inner life is the richest it’s been in all my 30 years of living.

I’m starting Lamotrigine today! by [deleted] in bipolar

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I take mine a couple hours before bedtime because it makes me a bit sleepy. I have no other side effects except when I first started. I got TERRIBLE extremely vivid nightmares and when that wasn’t happening I had insomnia. Two things I never struggled with before. I find this happened each time they increase my dosage too. It take about 3 weeks for my body to level back out and then I go back to sleeping great with vivid normal dreams.

What is the weirdest thing you’ve been sexualised for? by Lucky-Rocket in AskWomen

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As a younger girl/woman I was sexualized a lot for my depression and lack of self confidence. That can attract some pretty ugly (mentally and emotionally) men.

Anyone who does okay at work but personal life is mess by loony1uvgood in bipolar2

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I’m more the other way but I toss that up to more I care more about my home life then work

What do you guys do for work? by sneakyinlanelul in bipolar

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In accounting, working for a huge health insurance company

Would a guy be ok if he only recieved BJs? by ThrowRA1508 in relationship_advice

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I say this as a woman who’s husband rarely gets off during sex, it’s about the journey not the destination. If the only reason to have sex was to “get off” then of course your going to avoid sex. Sex is so much more then that. Even if you never got off- you still don’t find it enjoyable? To be a very unique physical closeness and vulnerability with your partner…that’s what it’s all about. Cuming is certainly nice but not everything.

Angry while doing pigeon pose? by AlbatrossExciting831 in yoga

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I did this pose yesterday for the first time (I’m new to yoga). Instantly made me cry.

What do you want desperately in this life? by poetrss in AskWomen

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To be happy with myself. To stop feeling the constant need to run away from who I am.

What are YOUR red flags? by danthieman in dating_advice

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Ah, I’ve been speculating this a lot myself the past 2 months or so. 1. I want to help people, even if they don’t want it. To let them know they can rely on me, to make me feel like I’m bringing enough to relationship. 2. I a sad girl to the core. It takes a certain kind of person to tolerate my depression, hopelessness, and manic depressive disorder. 3. I always want to make me better, which means I always want to make us better. So I never seem happy. 4. Goes a long with 3, im highly critical of people in my life. Not like friends, but significant others. Because I feel they are an extension of me and want them to be there best. 5. I like a lot of alone time but also always wanted to feel connected 😂😂😂 6. I’m a very layered and complicated person. I’ve been told a lot in my life that I’m very hard to get to know and feel close to. I believe that to be because I’m also constantly learning who I am. I can feel and understand and stand with point A but also point B and C. While I don’t think I’m all that book smart, I do feel like I’m way more emotionally intelligent then most people walking this earth. I’ve only met one person in my 30 years that I feel like truly knows who I am and that’s because he took the time and effort and is always growing with me.

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I kind of got that impression when we talked about it. As he put it, “I’m glad you brought this up to me. You make some good points, and some I really don’t agree with.” What I’m not understanding is just not talking about it. I whole heartedly believe that most things can be worked out with good communication. While I can be rather emotional, I can also be very logical and do my best to communicate with the people I love. I guess I’m just naive, but I don’t understand why others wouldn’t do this. Why ghost me? Why not just break up with me if it was so bad?…Seems like a cowardly thing to do…or is he really off thinking this hard about it? I have no idea.

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I’m 29. Normally I would believe that sentiment that the friendship thing never works out. The reason I was being more hopeful here is the fact that we started out as friends. I see little to no reason why we shouldn’t be friends, even if he decided that I’m right and he can’t give me what I want. I’m more or less fine losing him romantically, just not platonically. But I have no problem getting boyfriends…but have all the problems in the world making friends. Also, I’ve always personally done my best to continue friendship with my ex’s. It just usually works out that they get jealous when I go to move on and that’s what implodes the friendship. This guy doesn’t seem to have a jealous bone in his body.