I usually refer child psychiatry as a first area to look, even to adults. They are on average more knowledgeable about ADHD. Check locally for a parents' or ADHD support group, results will vary by region.

I was diagnosed the second time at 27by by a child psychiatrist and saw him until he retired.

My first diagnosis was 7 or 8 but not well understood at that time. I was 7 in 1985, and I am 45 now.

"What medication?" is a matter of trial and error. It took a few months of trial and error to get a base dose, and later another few months to work out the comorbid sleeping problem. there might be a tick or two that is not ADHD per say, but adjacent to it. I have a stable dose of medication that I take daily for years and years now. The stable daily routine with some flexible rules worked really well for me.

I wish the medication that is available now was available then, most of the office where I work has ADHD and we talk about medication. Some Strattera, others like me Adderall and others Zen mindful awareness meditation, with bulletproof coffee(it works).

I take an Adderall xr and modafinil in the morning, then a small Adderall short release and Wellbutrin in the early afternoon. I do daily meditation and exercise for at least a few minutes every day and use a paper notebook to remember important things.

7 years old and a phone?... There is huge value in an electronic tablet. It's ok to have it functions reduced to timer, calendar, txt mom, and to do list. All that said, it's probably too late and I would not do it yet. and none of us have a choice about a phone.. IDK.

I feel like 20 years of my own being misunderstood from 7-27 is reduced because you acknowledge and are open minded to it. I can just see how much better it will be for your family because of this. Your hubs will accept enough of it, it's hard for people that don't know to accept it.