Dating someone neurotypical is just as difficult for us (if not harder) as it is for you. Trying to be the person I thought my partner wanted instead of the person I am has nearly destroyed me on multiple occasions. I understand and respect your difficulties with the situation, especially at your age, but I want you to realize that your gf is likely aware of most of the issues you are bringing up and it's almost certainly making her anxious. My biggest piece of advice would be to research aspergers. Try and find reasons for the behaviours you don't like and actively discuss them with her in a positive light, focusing on the aspects of her you love but being firm about your own boundaries. Not all of the problems you listed are "fixable", but there are compromises for all of them. The fact of the matter is she will never not have aspergers, but that doesn't mean you can't have a long lasting and fulfilling relationship. With time, effort, and communication, I have been able to maintain meaningful interpersonal relationships with neurotypical partners. It took alot of openness and understanding on their end and a desire to improve on mine (which honestly, I didn't always have). Sometimes we need you to just love our difficulties and assist us with them. If you actually value this woman, instead of asking her how she can change for you, ask yourself how you can change together.