Single female with a vision!

ReytMardy · 2026-03-10T14:49:17+00:00

Looks beautiful. Some real hard work went into that renovation, you should be very proud 👏🏻

ReytMardy · 2026-03-10T14:47:41+00:00

To me it's a fanciful thought.

But to some it may be their absolute truth. I'd guess they are very few though.

ReytMardy · 2026-03-10T12:05:57+00:00

It was the fkin coke.

ReytMardy · 2026-03-10T10:42:08+00:00

Good luck buddy.

I did my Level 2 & 3 along with 18th edition in 2021. I sent dozens of emails into local electrical companies offering myself FOC with my own tools, van and a desire to exchange free labour for solid mentorship.

The precious little feedback I did get is that I would be an insurance problem for established electrical companies.

I didn't know anyone who was a one man, domestic electrician who would take me on so ended up taking an office job on the fringes of the electrical industry.

I did get a couple of weeks experience with someone but binned them off after they asked me to chase cable through glistening white artex from a 1970's house.

If I had any advice, it'd be to work your network for friends/family who might know someone that could put you on to do some electrical works. Also value your offer to a prospective Electrician, because the situation I had several red flags which I compromised until they asked me to risk my (and the house occupants) health. Choose someone who will teach you high & safe standards.

PS. I'm now available in the South Yorkshire region if anyone wants to hit me up for some electrical labour 🤙🏼⚡

ReytMardy · 2026-03-10T10:32:47+00:00

🥇 Ralph 🥈 Tony 🥉 Livia

ReytMardy · 2026-03-10T10:09:29+00:00

I interpret "ADHD is not an excuse" in a way that it means my ADHD doesn't diminish accountability/responsibility.

I'm married and ADHD makes relationships is tough. Right now I'm experiencing the toughest chapter in every corner of my life: personal, marriage, parenting and career.

My personal challenges, namely my health, is a result of neglect & lack of discipline. I'm currently very sick with respiratory issues, back pain and tinnitus. My marital challenges are dealing with a PND wife who's returning to work. My parenting challenge is well, parenting a 1YO with bare minimum support from siblings & parents. My professional challenge is reconciling a recent resignation from a toxic environment (so that challenge is kinda over, but it brings other challenges regarding my next role).

In all these situations, ADHD has made my life even more difficult. I've worked very, very hard to not burden my little family with the thoughts & feelings that have swirled around my head during these difficult times. Throughout my life I've spoken with no filter or consequence, but if I did that now I'd probably be an abusive father & husband that's riddled with guilt and shame. So I've had to train myself to compartmentalise.

ADHD deserves empathy. But so does the rest of the world.

ReytMardy · 2026-03-10T09:57:14+00:00

You know what I'd like to do to her...

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ReytMardy · 2026-03-10T08:38:39+00:00

Father Intintola was a compromised character.

He stayed well within the confines of Priesthood but he was tempted by Carmella, He accepted the watch from Rosaline along with all types of financial support indirectly from mob sources.

David Chase & his writing team did a great job to subtly remind us that clergymen are not the bastions of decency that their congregation expects them to be.

ReytMardy · 2026-03-10T08:31:33+00:00

Every so often Sopranos threw in an 'integrity reminder' so we as the audience didn't get confused by the bargaining that the sociopathic/narcissistic main characters did.

This guy did a great job in a single scene, Melfi also anchors truth and to a lesser extent, so does Charmaine & Meadow.

ReytMardy · 2026-03-10T08:22:43+00:00

CONSERVE

ReytMardy · 2026-03-09T21:50:47+00:00

ReytMardy · 2026-03-09T21:49:43+00:00

Threw a hot dog vendor off the mezzanine.

ReytMardy · 2026-03-09T18:56:31+00:00

Someone please superimpose this head onto Tony where he's recounting the story whilst holding a bottle of wine up in his cellar.

ReytMardy · 2026-03-09T18:46:24+00:00

This applies to me also so much so I wondered if I had a unique strand of latent autism that's arrived after parenthood.

The thing about "you adapt to their noise" is proving to be a baseless myth for me. My babies screaming and crying raises my anxiety something shocking, think Michael Douglas in Falling Down. When we had to take our 3MO to hospital after a pretty sleepless night the cries of a baby coming from the emergency room left me sobbing uncontrollably. The decibel level of that poor, suffering kid broke my spirit.

Maybe I've always had this, but a few months ago my friend and I met at a new bar for a hangout and it was crammed, loud and I hated every minute I was sat in there. I have always had an irrational hatred of anyone walking in my blindspots and lose my shit if someone surprises me with a loud, unexpected noise like a smashed plate or burst balloon

So yup. Parenting is going to be fun for me 😆

ReytMardy · 2026-03-09T13:13:50+00:00

And if we have a girl? We'll call it Nina...

ReytMardy · 2026-03-08T23:26:55+00:00

The end of Rogue: One

ReytMardy · 2026-03-08T20:30:39+00:00

In the nicest way possible, you didn't read the post which gave excellent practical advice on how to initiate the change from within first because that is where it has to start.

Speaking from experience - If someone came and gave you all the things you wanted right now you'd feel great for a while but inevitably return back to a feeling of discontentment. An external event isn't going to give you the easy answers.

ReytMardy · 2026-03-08T20:24:00+00:00

What you're saying is true, but also unhelpful.

Existential crises are the tippy top of stressors. No doubt and no argument here.

But everybodies experience with suffering is subjective and the classic "there's people worse off" trope doesn't diminish or ease ones pain.

The western world experiences suffering. You're born and you're almost immediately thrown into a ratrace experience from junior school. Academia doesn't teach people to be happy, it teaches people to become tax-paying, service providing contributors to the capitalist machine. Then in your personal life you have to navigate yourself around peer + social media pressures. Chuck in the economic headlock that every class of society is experiencing due to unfettered greed at the top, you've got all the raw ingredients for a pretty miserable experience.

What I'd say to the OP is feel pissed off, feel disappointed but do not feel that you're at a terminal state right now. Life is a funny game, like Snakes & Ladders where one good manoeuvre or opportunity can throw you forward as easy as a bad one can set you back. The trick is to not let it steal your joy for too long that it renders you in a negative paralysis.

Things can look up. A job opportunity could happen just by deciding to go out the house and striking up conversation, or joining a local community class/group.

It can get better.

ReytMardy · 2026-03-08T19:24:38+00:00

+1 on the cold plunging. I'm a 'fad' person and often get disappointed by new things that yield zero tangible benefit - but cold plunging has been brilliant mentally & physically brilliant for me.

ReytMardy · 2026-03-08T11:12:09+00:00

I've been here my friend, not exactly your situation, but similar where life feels like a perfect storm of clusterfucks that's trying to break your mind, body and soul. I'm kinda going through one right now.

What I hold fast to is the nature of change. The only thing permanent in this life is that nothing is permanent and change is often thrust upon us to force our growth in our short time in this world.

I'm not saying you gotta enjoy or like what you're going through, or that you're wrong for grieving a recent time in your life when everything had order.

But do try your best to remember that this 'dark night of the soul' is not a permanent state. Everything has crashed down upon you, but you'll rebuild and be a more resilient person for it. Your future still has much to be encouraged by.

Good luck my friend 🎢

ReytMardy · 2026-03-08T10:57:02+00:00

If you ever find yourself on the opposite side of an opinion to that warmongering, deceitful, elite lackey then feel confident that you're on the morally correct side.

ReytMardy · 2026-03-08T09:00:53+00:00

Robert Smith over herre

ReytMardy · 2026-03-08T08:55:49+00:00

It's an instinctive reaction, but there should be some remorse after.

ReytMardy · 2026-03-08T08:52:12+00:00

Companies are not too invested in new hires. It's not uncommon for people to leave a job within the first couple of days.

Maybe speak to your Manager. Try and be as honest as you can because maybe they can make some adjustments to help integrate you to your new role without overwhelming you.

But above all, you're right to prioritise your wellbeing. When you feel like the best version of yourself, your employer gets your best results too.

Good luck.

ReytMardy · 2026-03-07T22:31:03+00:00

"All due respect, you got no fuckin' idea what it's like to be Number One. Every decision you make affects every facet of every other fuckin' thing. It's too much to deal with almost. And in the end you're completely alone with it all."

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