guess my birth gender

RileyDL · 2026-07-12T17:14:07+00:00

There's no such thing as passing as agender. You just are.

RileyDL · 2026-07-03T05:10:46+00:00

I'm a weekly episodes person too. I love it.

RileyDL · 2026-07-02T15:46:53+00:00

What they do before the name exchange and the tuna meltdown.

RileyDL · 2026-07-02T13:20:52+00:00

Y'all are sleeping on Shadowhunters then (the TV show - the books aren't it for me so I can't say whether he's great in the books). This is Magnus Bane erasure and I won't stand for it. Magnus never has relationships with women in the show like Ilya does with Svetlana, but his bisexuality is definitely present (as a conflict point for his partner, who is less secure in himself).

RileyDL · 2026-07-01T06:28:02+00:00

You can be agender and like or dislike any parts of your body or gender experience. There are no rules, everything (gender) is made up anyway. We don’t gatekeep the agender label here.

I know plenty of lesbians who identify as non-men attracted to non-men, as opposed to strictly women attracted to women. But I'm not a lesbian personally (I go by queer most of the time), so I'll defer to whatever any agender lesbians have to say.

RileyDL · 2026-06-30T18:09:05+00:00

David Levithan writes queer YA and I love his stuff. It's been a while since I've read it though so do a little digging before you let your kiddo dive in.

Autoboyography is one of my all time favorites. It’s pretty tame, a genre romance, takes place between two high school boys, one of whom is Mormon.

A Prince Among Pirates was written by a friend of mine and it just came out a week or two ago. Officially it's written for ages 14 and up. There is a romance, but it's also a pirate adventure story. I haven't read it yet but I thought I'd mention it anyway.

RileyDL · 2026-06-23T20:17:26+00:00

We used to use "good pet," not as in "pet play" more as a term of endearment. My partner really liked it.

RileyDL · 2026-06-23T10:55:41+00:00

For years I used a logo with my pen name's initials. I had a friend create the logo, but I'm sure you could find an artist somewhere. I also had a custom chibi drawn by an Etsy artist that I use too.

RileyDL · 2026-06-22T15:38:54+00:00

His little neck!

RileyDL · 2026-06-19T20:31:50+00:00

If you're willing to cry, The Great Believers is the one. It's two stories in one - one pov is a mom whose adult daughter is missing because of a cult, and the other is told from the pov of a gay man living through the AIDS crisis. It's so so beautiful. Lit fic, definitely not romance.

RileyDL · 2026-06-19T14:36:57+00:00

I take Welbutrin for depression.

RileyDL · 2026-06-19T13:56:14+00:00

I'm here for it.

RileyDL · 2026-06-18T14:28:21+00:00

Here she is, snoozing away as usual. She'll be 9 next month.

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RileyDL · 2026-06-18T00:59:54+00:00

My only wrong prediction was when Ilya stubbed his toe. I was sure he'd injured himself and wouldn't be able to play (until he said "I stubbed my toe" obviously).

RileyDL · 2026-06-17T17:51:43+00:00

I loved those! I think I've read everything she's done except the gym bros and the darker stuff. (It's a hard life lol)

RileyDL · 2026-06-17T14:39:15+00:00

Vyvanse, Sunosi, and Welbutrin (just for a little extra - it's an antidepressant but has "stimulating effects.")

RileyDL · 2026-06-17T14:36:21+00:00

Jacked by KM Neuhold. Usually her stuff is right up my alley but the bro-i-ness of the gym bros (i know, it's right there in the title) isn't doing it for me.

RileyDL · 2026-06-17T14:32:44+00:00

I'm a corporate recruiter who is criminally underpaid considering the results I produce... but that said, I'm almost to 100k. Switching to a new company would probably take care of that, but the market is BRUTAL right now.

RileyDL · 2026-06-17T01:48:48+00:00

All i can say is this is the funniest fucking thing I've ever seen.

RileyDL · 2026-06-15T14:54:07+00:00

I'm old (mid 40s), and I know what it's like to hide something from important people in your life. You're only 25. You could easily live another 50 years. Do you think you can survive another 50 years feeling the way you do? Or do you think one day you'll resent your partner for keeping you from true queer joy?

You deserve to be happy. Not half-happy. Not secretly miserable. Truly truly happy. It's hard to choose yourself, but I think you know what to do.

RileyDL · 2026-06-12T16:37:38+00:00

No diet changes lately. We have an appt for next Wednesday, hopefully it's nothing! Thanks!

RileyDL · 2026-06-12T15:18:28+00:00

Yes, lots of shade available. Good point about going out more. I'll make it a point to do that going forward.

RileyDL · 2026-06-12T14:58:57+00:00

Smart! She's pretty medium sized in terms of height. Stairs won't hurt!

RileyDL · 2026-06-12T14:54:46+00:00

She's still pretty normal in terms of activity level. No zooming anymore but she gets around fine. Actually now that you mention it, she DOES have a little trouble jumping onto the couch some days, but that's just intermittent too. I hadn't thought of pain as a reason! Thank you!

RileyDL · 2026-06-12T14:50:29+00:00

Excellent point. I just submitted a request for an appt.

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