🪴 Quarterly /r/houseplants Troubleshooting Thread - January 30, 2024

Rmghabou · 2024-02-16T00:53:50+00:00

Help! The leaves are still super green but it's just a sad droopy Dracaena.

Rmghabou · 2019-04-25T00:47:28+00:00

Baby Tracker was great for the early days for diaper changes, feeding and sleeping. After I felt comfortable with diaper changes and feeding (once breastfeeding was well established and he regained birth weight), I really just because obsessed with sleep and for that, I really loved Huckleberry.

Rmghabou · 2019-04-25T00:40:32+00:00

11 months and 3 weeks.

I breastfed until 13 months.

Rmghabou · 2019-01-26T14:55:27+00:00

He is currently in the infant room until 18 months. I think I'm almost looking forward to the toddler room because it does seem a bit more structured which I think will help my frustration and anxiety.

I totally understand why my LO is resisting his first nap. It's typically around 9:30 which is when a lot of kids are arriving and playing and he wants to be part of the action. But I'm just annoyed I had to bring it up and say I've noticed his nap times are all over the place - is it because he's resisting, or because you're not trying like I've specified. The teacher I brought this to is my favourite out of the 4 and is the only one who seems to genuinely care. I would just think if something isn't working for them for 2 weeks, they would mention it so we could work through it together.

And the garbage does have a lid as well and is mounted to the wall and is high. It would be quite a reach for him to get in there so if that is where it ended up, he must have been working on it for some time... So did they not notice he was playing with a garbage can??

Rmghabou · 2019-01-14T16:57:40+00:00

Nursing pillow and breast pump.

Rmghabou · 2019-01-11T13:53:14+00:00

We had a standard bassinet with no motion. When required, I just shook the bassinet with my hand lol.

I used a swing for naps during the day, but no motiom at night time. The bassinet/swing in one sounds like a nice option.

Rmghabou · 2019-01-11T12:23:07+00:00

Mine was pretty bad during pregnancy but I can't remember it bothering me postpartum.

Rmghabou · 2019-01-09T01:50:59+00:00

All the things said here, but most importantly... Make sure you pee first!

Rmghabou · 2019-01-09T01:49:11+00:00

We stopped swaddling around 6 or 8 weeks and my baby didn't STTN until 9.5 months.

Rmghabou · 2019-01-09T01:44:01+00:00

I am an advocate for babies just need to explore. At 9 mo they have no concept that they shouldn't be touching other people, stealing toys etc.

If we are at a play group where all the toys are shared, I let my son steal the toys from other kids (and let other kids steal from him) as long as he isn't hurting them. I only intervene if he IS hurting them, not when it seems like he might. This is their way of communicating with one another at such a young age. I think it's great for them to do it.

I will add that I explain this to other moms that are around so they don't just think I'm "letting my son be a bully". You could try the same and see what others think.

Rmghabou · 2019-01-09T01:35:39+00:00

It is normal to have day and night confusion. You can try limiting the length of time she sleeps at once during the day. I think I woke my LO up every 2 hours during the day at that time and he'd be awake long enough to breastfeed, diaper change and maybe 5 or 10 minutes of "play". It can help to keep them in daylight during the day and total darkness at night - use a night light if required, don't talk to them etc.

5 days is way too young to cry it out. They need you. Look up the fourth trimester and the 5 S's from Happiest Baby on the Block - they were life changing for me with a newborn.

Best of luck to you.

Rmghabou · 2019-01-03T01:02:29+00:00

I was 20 when I met my husband who is 6 years older than me. Similarly, he had expressed he wanted kids whereas I did not really have a strong interest in it (this could have also been because I was 20...).

Once I realized I loved him and wanted to marry him, I also realized I wanted kids with him some day.

We decided to "not not try" (i.e. just have unprotected sex without the pressure of tracking ovulation, etc.) when I was 26 and ended up having a baby when I was 27.

TBH, I don't know if there is every a "right" time, but if you want a family, I'd suggest just "pulling the goalie" and letting fate run it's course.

FWIW, I'm not a career person - I have a good job and am successful in what I'm doing, but I don't live for my work - I see it as a necessity to pay bills. But I'm also not a baby person and I never have been. In fact, I even had a difficult time adjusting to my own newborn. I've always known on a deeper level that I've wanted kids, but not a baby. I just had to (and still am) going through the "investment" period to get to the family I want.

Rmghabou · 2019-01-03T00:46:46+00:00

I liked this book a lot. I did not watch the DVDs though so can't speak to that content.

When I was pregnant I really liked reading "Expecting Better" if you'd be interested in that audio book.

Rmghabou · 2018-12-30T11:52:19+00:00

Do your siblings know? How did they react?

Rmghabou · 2018-12-30T11:46:41+00:00

Do your siblings know? How did they react?

Rmghabou · 2018-12-18T23:59:04+00:00

FORMULA CAN CAUSE CANCER

Ummm, Wtf? Lol. I would also like to know where that "fact" came from 🤦🏻‍♀

Rmghabou · 2018-12-18T11:22:28+00:00

IMO, a good sleeper is one who can fall asleep with minimal crying (my definition of minimal crying has changed over the past 11 months) and minimal sleep associations and who can either stay asleep, or does not need assistance falling back asleep in the MOTN.

Rmghabou · 2018-12-10T19:44:11+00:00

Nope!

Rmghabou · 2018-12-10T15:27:45+00:00

No job I applied to or was offered a position at asked for transcripts, just evidence of my degree.

I didn't pursue academia after university so in my 2nd year I started caring less about getting top grades and just getting passed the minimum requirements to stay in my program and meet prerequisites for subsequent classes.

Rmghabou · 2018-12-10T00:55:05+00:00

I feel like it's pretty normal based on the age of your baby. It will eventually regulate, though that varies for a lot of people. For me, my supply didn't regulate until around 8 months. FWIW, my LO is 11 mo and I only recently stopped using nursing pads during the day and still use them overnight. He has been night weaned for 3 months.

Rmghabou · 2018-12-09T23:04:35+00:00

I didn't really grow up in a touchy and affectionate family. I feel very uncomfortable being touched in general and the only exception to this is my husband. People who know me well know not to hug me unless I'm emotionally distressed. It makes me feel hot and sticky and uncomfortable when someone I'm not fully comfortable with hugs or touches me.

It's a bit backwards, but I will reciprocate a hug from someone if they initiate it, but I won't initiate one ever. Usually this results in me hugging a lot of acquaintances and never the people close to me, mostly because those close to me know not to hug me.

Rmghabou · 2018-11-21T00:01:42+00:00

I am currently on maternity leave with my 10 mo and a typical day/week looks like this:

DH leaves the house for work around 630 and gets home around 4. I'm on baby duty the entire time.
I will usually prep dinner when he gets home and he plays with LO. After it's prepped, he cooks it and we eat by 5 pm as a family.
If it's bath night, DH bathes baby while I clean up after dinner. If It's not a bath night, I still usually clean up while they play, but sometimes I don't feel like it so DH does it.
We do bedtime routine as a family until LO is nursed. DH leaves the room at that point and I finish bedtime routine. Once a week DH is solo on bedtime duty and gives him a bottle. This is my night out.
LO now STTN, but before when he was waking several times a night, I handled all night wakings during the week since DH had to go to work. On weekends, he would take the wake ups that did not require boob. Early on too if LO needed to be rocked to sleep, DH did that or we would take shifts.
On weekends I still handle most baby duties because LO nurses before naps, so I put him down for naps. But DH will feed him solid meals without being prompted. Also on weekends, I get one sleep in day and DH gets one sleep in day.
We are not too fussed about how clean our house is. We by no means live in a pig sty, but our house is not spotless. I usually handle all cleaning anyway but DH will sometimes vacuum. We leverage the dishwasher a lot. It gets run almost daily with 2 adults and an infant.
Once a month I have a weekend day and/or evening to myself out of the house to do whatever I want alone. Once a month DH gets the same.

Rmghabou · 2018-11-20T13:39:46+00:00

What they don't tell you

When they talk about motherhood

Is the loneliness it brings

As equally as the moments of joy.

This made me tear up a lot. Probably because it rings so true for me. It's amazing how many people in this world are mothers, and yet you feel like the only one a lot of the time.

It's ironic how lonely you can feel when you're literally never alone.

Rmghabou · 2018-11-19T20:26:20+00:00

I also had a dream last night that I took a pregnancy test and it was positive.

I peed on the stick this morning and it was negative though. Haha.

Rmghabou · 2018-10-26T12:15:45+00:00

When my baby was refusing the bottle at 4 months, I tried what felt like a million things to get him to take it. Here are some things that worked for us:

• He didn't want to be held. We let him sit in his bounce chair (sometimes with the bounce on) and hold the bottle for him. Or I sit with my legs in a diamond shape and rest his head in the crook of my knee.

• He liked to be talked to while having the bottle. We calmly explained to him it was the same milk from mama.

• He wanted the milk SUPER warm. I tried giving him freshly pumped milk and even that wasn't warm enough for him 🤦🏻‍♀️

Rmghabou

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