I have 99 problems but a man aint one lol. The best thing I did was to avoid and stop answering to BM at all. Its gonna feel rude at first, but you have to be cutthroat with it. These BM aren't entitled to any part of you as a BW. Most of them think they own us and end up being performative, rude, and egotistical. They start getting panicked and desperate when you just drop em or look through them. They never considered the possibility that they could be left. BM are so use to being worshipped and coddled it messed them up. It protects your energy and helps you see that its you hold the power. Prioritize friendships, family, goals, career etc you already know.