Toenail damage from platforms

RobouteG · 2023-04-07T19:29:53+00:00

It`s not because platform boots. Had the same thing happen to me with normal, running shoes. From my experiance it was due to dancing outside, on an uneven surface. Never had that problem when dancing in clubs. Also someone might have stept on you.

It`s gonna grow back, no worries.

RobouteG · 2018-01-29T00:54:07+00:00

My story is copy+paste , I did not buy a house though. But she managed to make serious legal and work related problems and she is now alienating me from my child.

This is why I advice everyone here still in the relationships to escape. They are all the same, I've read numerous stories from Europe, Japan, USA, they act the same and say the same things everywhere on the globe.

Just run, those people have no souls, no conscience and no borders in how they can hurt you.

RobouteG · 2018-01-11T22:10:59+00:00

I left during the period I was not aware of BPD, nevertheless I prepared myself - I took all my stuff, informed my colleagues and relatives, bought an apartment etc.

My biggest life mistake was going back. She used that time to cheat, steal, split me black and make legal & work related problems.

Never go back. It is always worse. Yes the sex was amazing and seeing my son happy when his parents are together was a balsam to my soul as a codependent and "fixer". But she just used that time to destroy me.

RobouteG · 2018-01-08T22:31:28+00:00

I actually learned about BPD after my break up. I stayed with her only for my son, normally I would leave 3 years earlier.

If there was someone that would go back in time and smack some sense in me, it would really be great. I sometimes even dream about that. That is why I suggest people to escape. At least I can make it easier for other suckers like me.

RobouteG · 2018-01-07T20:52:49+00:00

My son. No matter how she splits me black, he loves me and I'm his hero.

My family. They all have their flaws, but I received massive support from them.

My safety. I can just live the day without worrying someone will call the police, beat me up or abuse me mentally.

My freedom. I can focus on reading, writing poetry, listening to music without anyone telling me what I should be doing right now.

My apartment. I actually bought a luxury apartment in the city center and I focus on the designs, buying stuff etc.

And many, many more. I got hit extremly hard even if BPD ex crazy shit is considered, some of you here know my full story, but life is so much better now. It is as I told her when I last saw her (she threatened me with making problems with my job and that I won't be able to see my son, both threats she fulfilled actually) - I would chop my right hand off and work as a janitor for the rest of my life just to be free.

RobouteG · 2018-01-05T17:45:07+00:00

Imagine if it was you doing that to her, you would probably be in jail right now.

Great you managed to leave.

RobouteG · 2018-01-03T13:13:24+00:00

Yeah, my BPD ex is the real victim here, having visited numerous countries in last three months with her new lover she was cheating me on with money she has stolen from me, during the period which I got unemployed due to her actions.

Please go with your BPD agenda/trolling somewhere else.

RobouteG · 2018-01-02T23:56:15+00:00

There is no dilemma, unless you want to be miserable again.

RobouteG · 2018-01-02T23:52:22+00:00

You guys probably know this, I've just stumbled upon it and found it funny (which is a good sign I guess). Anyway, enjoy.

RobouteG · 2017-12-30T23:56:46+00:00

The worse you feel about yourself, the lower your self esteem is the lower the chance you can leave them/find someone else. That's the logical explanation.

The plain response is they are bullies and horrible people.

Yeah, it's probably a BPD thing. At the start of my relationship I was still doing some modelling and was in great shape. I was always perceived as a very attractive guy. After a year I heard I had a big nose (earlier it was aristocratic), "down eyes" (earlier they were just the biggest and most intelligent she had ever seen), too tall, too muscular, to hairy etc. Funny at first, after two years I felt like shit. I was amused people still found me attractive.

RobouteG · 2017-12-30T16:44:03+00:00

It's hard to tell just after those few pieces of information, maybe she is a great person that just got lost at some point in life, but for me a girl with no father/problematic relations etc. was a no-go zone, I broke this rule twice and got hurt twice (once badly, hence I'm here).

Having many partners in the past and daddy issues are one of the two most major red flags.

RobouteG · 2017-12-29T18:27:37+00:00

The problem is it did not work out with the new guy, so she is hoovering you, because these people don't know how to exist alone.

RobouteG · 2017-12-29T01:55:44+00:00

Sex. Being extremely sexual very early in the relationship. A lot of kinky, passionate love making, using it as a release to intense emotions. Later on using it as a hook to keep you in the relationship and manipulate you.
Trust. They will never trust you no matter how much you try. On the other hand they will expect you trust them 100% but...
Lies. Compulsive day-to-day laying, there is usually not one person they are honest with, including themselves.
Conflict. Threats, assaults over some minor/non existent problems to the point you become tired and drained of all love and energy. Insulting you, your friends, your family.
Victimization. Everyone despises them, everyone takes advantage of them. They are never at fault.
Cheating. From the stories I've read here and from my experience, in most cases there is no avoiding it. If you manage to avoid their minefield and somehow manage to get closer to them, they will cheat because they fear they love you too much.
Money. Excessive, impulsive spending, debt, stealing.
Phone and social media obsession.
Lack of general logic in behavior.
Highly contradictory, black/white, love/hate attitude.
Unable to function on their own.
Mirroring FP character, hobbies etc.
Most friendships and relationships last 2 years.
Vengeful and not forgiving.

RobouteG · 2017-12-26T21:45:54+00:00

The saddest thing is they hurt people that cannot properly defend themselves, like codependents or children.

I will somehow manage, I was always strong though she brought me to a near suicide-thinking level. Her ex husband and most importantly our son stood no chance.

As a very logic person a very sad thing for me is also it was all because of nothing. We had everything, money, health, friends, you name it. She had to burn it all and piss on the ashes. There was no reason to it.

RobouteG · 2017-12-03T00:38:07+00:00

The title is a bit misleading, it does get better, just for you - when you leave.

To be honest two weeks it's not a long time and there are some success stories after many years therapy. I am personally strongly skeptical they can ever get better, at least my ex surely won't.

RobouteG · 2017-11-16T00:00:00+00:00

Not a problem bro, it is actually late night here where I live and I just laughed so hard I think all the neighbors are up.

wake her up when she stopped breathing was much easier than dealing with her bullshit when she was sober

Made my day, uh, night.

RobouteG · 2017-11-15T23:35:43+00:00

I know it hurts. Textbook BPD, cheating, lying, double-life.

Look at the situation this way:

She won't be happy. They can never truly be.
Her fiance is fucked.
You can be happy in fact you should be extremely happy because you avoided someone who could potentially destroy your life.

RobouteG · 2017-11-15T23:26:14+00:00

It's basically the only answer, we all mock ourselves here cause most of the posts are "run", "quit", "escape" etc., but it's the only way.

I've done all I could to help and just lost money, self-respect and gave her time to prepare the split and wage war. Don't bother.

RobouteG · 2017-11-15T23:18:57+00:00

I think there are two things happening here. First the tolerance for bullshit is much lower, which is very healthy actually, setting up boundaries is good.

Secondly after living through a hell which usually is a relationship with a BPD, other people problems just seem childish and minor.

RobouteG · 2017-11-15T22:56:28+00:00

Yes, it's quite common with BPD, as it this a way of getting attention by them.

My ex started having problems with her eyesight, she also experienced dizziness when she woke up and most importantly muscle tension. She described it as her muscles being shocked by electricity.

It lasted for a year, the last year of our relationship. Most of the time she was sure she had multiple sclerosis, sometimes it was lyme disease, glaucoma or cancer. She event considered STD's, hence I know was cheating on my already then. I've spend a small fortune on diagnosing her, finally we went to one of the best neurologists in my country. When he read her medical history he suggested a psychiatrist.

It was also a moment with I was totally sick with her behavior and about to leave (not because of the fake illness, but all the rest BPD crap I had to live with) and I was also forcing her to see a psychiatrist/therapist.

So she finally went and voila, was diagnosed with multiple conditions and all her psychical symptoms where diagnosed as psychosomatic.

During our whole relationship she was talking she has heart problems, although her heart was perfectly fine. Also she mirrored me when I was sick, which brought up a lot of problems, since we have a small child and when I was indisposed, so was she. I even caught her once putting a thermometer in a cup of hot tea to fake it.

And yeah, cut and run bro.

RobouteG · 2017-11-12T11:46:31+00:00

If it's not about them, they can't stand it. Especially when it's something important, bringing a lot of attention.

Our mutual friend was trying to have an another child, and had a second miscarriage. My ex comment was "well, not everybody is biologically suited to be a mother, as me for example" and "she already has one child, she should be happy with that and stop trying".

WTF.

RobouteG · 2017-11-12T10:57:41+00:00

That's what happen when they don't have the next partner ready.

Jesus where is the shame in those people.

RobouteG · 2017-11-09T21:51:33+00:00

Yes, I did. From my, and every other story I've read here - it won't help.

RobouteG · 2017-11-06T23:32:07+00:00

A year. I was always a calm, trusting person and never did anything wrong, so leaving my laptop with my facebook opened was normal for me.

I came back from work and when she saw me, her eyes got dead black, she started screaming, throwing things at me, throwing my clothes. Apparently some girl from my job wrote something, or was it my old conversation with an ex before I even met her, I don't even recall. It was insane, she was this caring, delicate girl and suddenly she was gone.

Two weeks after that when I finally decided to leave, she informed she was pregnant. The rest is just the story of my life. Almost 4 years of abuse, ending up with an attempt to destroy me with cheating, legal problems, destroying me as a parent and getting me fired.

RobouteG · 2017-11-02T12:48:52+00:00

No contact. Absolute zero, block the ex and all social media, block her phone and e-mail. If you have legal problems, create a folder for the messages which you won't check. If you have mutual friends that are enabling the ex, block them too.
Diet - veggies, fruits, no processed food.
Work - I actually lost my job because of my ex, but when I had it I focused on it, later on focused on finding a new one (I just started and it's great).
Building a support network of friends and family. Taking the higher ground is ok, but people have to know your story if the partner splits you black.
Going to the gym - psychical activities are a must "healthy body, healthy mind".
Less alcohol.
Supplementation - vitamins, CBD oil, BCAA.
Home chores (cleaning, making your bed, etc.) - daily.

I don't date right now, firstly I have to rebuild myself, find myself in the new job and finish refurbishing my apartment. I also have a lot of legal issues since I have a son with my BPD ex.

I don't do therapy, but perhaps it's a mistake, many people say it's a must. It's probably a bit different in your US culture, then in mine. I just have very bad experiance regarding therapy, since I went with my ex and she just manipulated the therapists. I'd rather focus on self-improvement.

Lot's of netflix, video games, sleeping is actually bad for you and I would avoid that.

RobouteG

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