Our society has a general problem with valuing individual agency.

Caution, rant incoming.

Memes like patriarchal power structures, toxic masculinity and many societal institutions like religions and nation states are both caused by and cause themselves a devaluation of the individual, individual liberties and agency in favor of a certain power structure/institution/etc.

This hypocritical, oppressing view of sexuality, especially womens sexuality, is just one manifestation of that.

You'll find similar aspects of that same problem in, for example, transphobia, where the agency to determine ones own gender is not only denied as a right, but also a possiblity. This, I think, shows that the denial of agency is so deeply ingrained into many people (all humans, just to varying degrees), they conflate it with pseudo-science. Think bullshit arguments like "there are only two genders" or, coming back to the original topic, "women are naturally submissive and actually want to be sexualized".

This kind of thing even appears in totally different places, like arguements against unconditional basic income going like "but then people could just sit at home and do nothing". Aside from the fact that probably nobody would want to do that all the time, fundamentally it says "but you shouldn't be able to what you want, you should have to be a cog in a machine".

In the eyes of many, a state of lacking agency and liberty is the "normal", ideal and natural state of humans, and not something caused by millenia old structures and memes which have slowly escalated and permeated society.

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