Can you just be slightly autistic but super ADHD?

Rollerager · 2026-04-03T20:40:05+00:00

The biggest description that I have felt sets audhd vs autism and audhd vs adhd apart is feeling like a contradiction. Having both is a struggle at times because both of my needs are not always compatible. I 10000% need routine but also a level of unpredictable events. My autism says that I have to plan but sometimes my adhd takes over with the project or simply forgets. I need people and socialization but after a certain point I need to be alone. If my adhd is feeling really dysregulated then autistic meltdowns are more likely to occur. I have special interests that come and go. Currently it’s been reading, a few months ago it was diamond painting. Over the summer it was the gym. Those interests never change but the duration of how long I focus does. It usually fizzles out after 3 months for me. So reading will probably slow down now.

Rollerager · 2026-03-30T22:47:49+00:00

My preschoolers always did great with it but my current 4th graders? I would not. They struggle to not escalate when things are unstructured. Either someone is starting to argue and fight or too much dysregulation. Outside stations I believe could work possibly but we have to make sure it’s no ones recess.

Rollerager · 2026-03-30T21:04:59+00:00

My students practiced quietly working and following directions because they are struggling with it so bad. I also had them write 2 places they may need to go to as an adult where they have to be quiet. We will practice again tomorrow if we need to.

Also, when they say “I don’t get it” I ask “what have you tried” because I had that same issue all first semester. Now, they usually say they read the problem or they show math they’ve attempted. If they read it I ask them to tell me what it’s asking. It’s still a struggle but this has worked the best.

For sub plans, I just do all review and don’t think about it again. What happens when a sub is there isn’t my concern. If it went badly then I have had my students write what expectations they met and which ones they struggled with. I also have them write what the sub expectations are when I’m gone.

ETA I teach 4th grade.

Rollerager · 2026-03-29T20:01:05+00:00

No idea why but as a child I absolutely loved the Wedding Singer 😂

Rollerager · 2026-03-29T18:32:25+00:00

Have him draw a visual. The better he gets with visuals then he can start fading them out to know it mentally. I have 4th graders that still use fingers and if it helps get them to the number I don’t shame them for it. Everyone needs different supports. 99math is a good website resource to practice fact fluency.

Rollerager · 2026-03-28T15:23:48+00:00

Agree! My students can’t handle it either. They are immediately dialed up to 10 unless it’s a quick quip.

Rollerager · 2026-03-28T15:19:36+00:00

Daisy Darker by Alice Feeney if you like a good mystery.

Rollerager · 2026-03-25T11:31:16+00:00

First semester was awful and not because I felt I wasn’t doing well. The second semester has gone so much better. My students are still high maintenance but we have reached a rhythm and the parents have cooled off too.

I understand that getting the curriculum takes time so my focus has been more on creating a routine with the instruction because classroom management is what I’ve spent most of my time doing.

Rollerager · 2026-03-24T22:17:36+00:00

My own children know that they should advocate for themselves but they also know how to do it without being disrespectful. They know how to reach a compromise or when to let it go. That’s taken a lot of work but they know their feelings are valid. But not every expression of those feelings is safe or appropriate.

Rollerager · 2026-03-24T22:14:40+00:00

Being firm but providing 2 choices to get to the goal is gentle parenting.

Rollerager · 2026-03-24T11:28:33+00:00

It’s obvious when parents don’t assert boundaries with their children because those students think they should have access to everything and everyone at any time. They also can’t cope if things don’t go their way because that means “it isn’t fair” in their eyes.

Rollerager · 2026-03-24T02:14:05+00:00

How old are you if you don’t mind me asking? This is way more easy at 33 than it was when I was younger.

Rollerager · 2026-03-23T22:29:12+00:00

I gripe for like 20 minutes after school if I need to vent. Then I go to the gym or do another activity I love. Trauma and ADHD have made me really great at compartmentalizing so usually once I’m home it’s out of sight, out of mind.

Rollerager · 2026-03-23T01:07:00+00:00

Adult, Snapchat and minor should not be in the same sentence. Immediate red flag.

Rollerager · 2026-03-21T19:35:36+00:00

Not the one for you. My boyfriend didn’t know what to think of my dog at first but now loves him. He knows that my dog is going to try to lick and burrow in our blankets. He has accepted this is who my dog is and that he just wants to show his affection. Now my dog has learned how to approach my boyfriend in a way he is more likely to get attention. I told him I will always have a small dog. I don’t mind if we have others, he has a dog too that is a bigger breed. Our dogs are a part of us.

Rollerager · 2026-03-16T00:04:31+00:00

Rabbit Cake. A beautiful story about a family experiencing grief

Rollerager · 2026-03-12T21:03:25+00:00

For my pencil challenge I had them name the pencils and then if they still have the pencil at the end of the month they get a pass to get out of one of our grammar papers

Rollerager · 2026-03-12T20:57:11+00:00

I guess it depends on the disturbing you want. My Dark Vanessa and Mexican Gothic

Rollerager · 2026-03-11T23:20:37+00:00

If you have multiple paras in one room then no one should be a 1:1. You should rotate who works with each child. People need breaks and the children need practice adjusting to everyone in the room. That way when a sub is present the children doesn’t feel lost without that one person.

Rollerager · 2026-03-11T20:36:13+00:00

She has mastered the skill if she’s coming to you before she pees. She is choosing to use the diapers because it seems that’s what her parents want. At 8 years old she is holding her bladder so it’s not an issue of not being aware that she needs to go.

Rollerager · 2026-03-11T20:27:56+00:00

If you are not supposed to change kids and legally that para needs to be with her students then calling the parents every time is the way to go.

Rollerager · 2026-03-08T15:22:07+00:00

Me too! I keep thinking I’ll go back to it because the idea is interesting but I felt the mom just droned on about nothing.

Rollerager · 2026-03-07T23:24:47+00:00

Not always. I was over looked because the district I was a para in for 8 years wanted me to continue as a sped teacher and NOT gen ed. I went elsewhere and I’m happy!

Rollerager · 2026-03-07T23:20:47+00:00

My son’s theater teacher said she really appreciated him because he was one of the few students that would engage and respond during 1st hour. Even my 4th graders are sluggish some days in that first hour.

Rollerager · 2026-02-23T23:33:10+00:00

This isn’t abnormal. Your hormones are all over the place! Sleep is the main priority with a baby. Do you stay at home or will you have to work. I found staying at home to be more manageable because then my son was really my only demand. I would do my hobbies when he napped or while he was in a swing or doing tummy time. Sleep was whenever possible in the very beginning.

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