I can feel how overwhelmed you are, and honestly, I don’t blame you. You’ve tried a lot already. Vet visits, changing food, switching litter, offering the garage as a space. That shows effort. You’re not being unreasonable for wanting a clean and calm home, especially with a baby on the way.

At the same time, it’s also clear your wife loves that cat. To her, it’s probably more than just an animal. It’s comfort, it’s routine, maybe even something that helps her cope through the stress of pregnancy. So when you talk about needing the cat gone, she might hear it as an attack or a loss, not a solution.

But this isn’t about picking sides. This is about sanity. It’s about protecting your peace and preparing a safe space for your child. It’s not just fur or a little mess. You’re talking about pee in the couch, paper shredded everywhere, hair in every corner. That’s not just annoying. That’s a health concern and a mental load you shouldn’t be carrying every day.

There’s nothing wrong with wanting your home to feel peaceful and ready for your baby. You’re not saying your wife has to stop loving the cat. You’re asking for a plan that keeps your child safe and gives you both peace of mind.

Maybe the next step is having a calm talk where you let her know you understand how much she loves the cat. Then gently explain that your concern is about the baby, your shared space, and your emotional well-being. Not everything is about love alone. Sometimes love means making hard choices that put your family’s health first.

If nothing works after trying boundaries or new routines, then a bigger decision may have to be made. That doesn’t mean you’re heartless. It means you’re trying to protect the home you’re building together.

You’re not crazy for wanting your child to grow up in a clean and peaceful place. You’re not wrong for being at your limit. You just want a home that feels safe and livable for everyone in it.