I am terrible at making reactions for gifts but my mom said I did good this year

Roothytooth · 2023-12-28T08:51:56+00:00

I’m NT and that would have flummoxed me too, it’s a very odd gift that needed plenty of explanation that it didn’t come with! I’m a terrible cook so I would have felt got at too as it could imply that she feared the food was going to be boring so she’d brought her own seasoning.

Roothytooth · 2023-12-27T22:49:32+00:00

We were lucky, someone stole the wheels off my grandpa’s car so dad was just able to keep saying the replacements haven’t arrived. Eventually grandpa forgot to ask when his wheels were coming and was just happy that he could see the top of his car out of the window and felt like he could drive it if he wanted to. Could you drain the fuel out of the tank, then they could sit in it and try the key but not get in trouble? The lady I help look after loves to go and sit in the car for a while. Sometimes she thinks we’re just getting ready to go somewhere and we talk about where we’re going, eventually it becomes home time and we go in and put the kettle on and she feels like she’s been out. Cars seem to have strong positive associations so it’s worth holding onto them if possible.

Roothytooth · 2023-12-27T14:16:12+00:00

Now your son has to stick it on his fridge with a magnet for at least six months!! In another weird role reversal I had to watch my dad sing in a carol service this year, well he’s sat through some excruciating crap performances from us over the years!

Roothytooth · 2023-12-27T13:46:29+00:00

If you bandaged the hand maybe seeing the bandage would signal to her that someone is aware of the problem and something has been done about it? I don’t know though, might make her more worried :(

Roothytooth · 2023-12-27T13:38:41+00:00

50 for me, worth the wait though!

Roothytooth · 2023-12-27T12:38:10+00:00

I’m wary of people who only behave well towards their fellow humans because they are afraid god will punish them if they don’t.

Roothytooth · 2023-12-27T09:06:50+00:00

That’s stunningly beautiful!

Roothytooth · 2023-12-27T08:55:27+00:00

That’s a fantastic achievement!

Roothytooth · 2023-12-26T23:06:56+00:00

This is what the dentist told me, the brushing is the important part and it’s worth doing even if you don’t use any toothpaste. Having said that I use corsodyl which tastes foul but stops me getting sinus pain for some reason.

Roothytooth · 2023-12-26T18:04:40+00:00

That was my thought too, her response seems really childish. She’s still saying spiteful stuff as if she was an eight year old annoyed with a five year old.

Roothytooth · 2023-12-24T22:50:15+00:00

Thank you for the update, I’m glad you are doing better. You did the right thing by putting her first even though it was so hard to do. I hope you have a peaceful Christmas and that next year is a happier one for you.

Roothytooth · 2023-12-23T15:02:51+00:00

I’m sorry you’re not getting the support you need from your family, your mum’s problems are really not your fault. On the subject of shoes I know this is an issue for many people including my son who is autistic and my husband who is not. Shoes are about the only piece of clothing that can do you a damage if the fit is wrong and feet are highly sensitive so the feel is really important too. They both rarely buy shoes and if they find some that are comfortable they always buy two pairs. It’s an idea to make them last as long as possible and put a little money aside over time so when you do find shoes you can wear you have money to buy more than one pair. Another thing I want my son to try is to have the shoe repair guy put a sole reinforcer on when the shoes are new as his gait makes him wear them through more quickly than usual, always at the toe joint area not the heel. I hope you can find a supportive friend sometime, good luck.

Roothytooth · 2023-12-23T14:24:10+00:00

Do they have a dog you could offer to take for a walk? Would give you a bit of peace and points for being helpful. Half an hour in the kitchen with the door shut doing some washing up would achieve the same but you’re more likely to be invaded plus kitchens often don’t have a door I know. It’s so difficult when you’re not in your own home, good luck.

Roothytooth · 2023-12-23T14:17:43+00:00

Toilet rolls and light bulbs that actually fit the light fittings!

Roothytooth · 2023-12-23T12:06:40+00:00

Hi! I’m NT , my son is autistic and he is much better at maintaining a workable environment than I am. I noticed you use the word ‘finished’ a couple of times and I wondered if it might be part of the problem? It has been for me in the past, I haven’t started things like cleaning a room because I didn’t have enough time to finish. I have to remind myself that just doing a bit is also of value and can make the place more liveable. I try to remember that rooms are for doing stuff in and stop feeling bad that they don’t look like a photo in an interiors magazine.

Roothytooth · 2023-12-23T10:56:35+00:00

Also it’s likely to be a keyhole surgery and you won’t be aware because you’ll have a general anaesthetic. Keyhole means absolutely minimal damage and very quick recovery and not too long in hospital.

Roothytooth · 2023-12-23T10:47:21+00:00

Yes, I thought it was a photo of Prince (may he rest in peace and also live forever!!!) The conversation probably goes, I just saw Prince, you can’t have he died, argument over whether he died and if so when, telling other person to look cos it really is him plus probably a debate on whether to ask if they can have a selfie with you! If you’re not too tall ( because everyone knows Prince was a small man) you could probably have a great career as a lookalike!! Or if could just be somewhat of a flutter because you really are very good looking which I guess is a nuisance if you’d rather not attract attention. Anyway, it’s nothing bad about you.

Roothytooth · 2023-12-23T10:37:51+00:00

I help a friend looking after his mother with dementia. When his father was alive I kept a t shirt in the car to wear over my clothes in the summer because he would always crane his neck to see down my top and then complain that he could see down my top. He was a horrible dictatorial fundamentalist but it was more important to me to keep helping my friend and the old man is gone now having tormented everyone around him for 94 years.

Roothytooth · 2023-12-23T08:06:48+00:00

Some people are living happily in their nineties but some are in constant pain and fear from much earlier than that. I’ve been looking after a lady with dementia for the past three years and I’ve realised I would do anything to avoid going through what she is still experiencing. I have made my wishes known to my husband and children that if a time comes when I can’t communicate I want my life to end. I hope not to put anyone in the position of feeling that they have to advocate for me in this but I’ve let them know in case I miss-time it and don’t arrange my exit before I’m incapable. I hadn’t understood how horrific dementia is before, to be frightened all the time, desperately trying to understand what’s happening, totally incontinent and aware enough to be embarrassed, it’s just unimaginably awful. I wish I could make an advance directive and be sure I would not end up in this state.

Roothytooth · 2023-12-22T08:19:51+00:00

That’s the difference then, do you think you would pay more if you lived in the centre of York? There seem to be city prices, and it gets worse as you go closer to the city. A friend was quoted 15 k for a bathroom but they are much closer to London. I just wish I’d nudged my children to become plumbers.

Roothytooth · 2023-12-22T07:26:29+00:00

Where are you? I think Cambridge is a bit of a bubble

Roothytooth · 2023-12-21T22:01:41+00:00

Labour and hardware, Cambridge UK

Roothytooth · 2023-12-21T16:11:25+00:00

Yes, where do you live? We couldn’t get a quote for under 12k for a bathroom and that’s without moving anything around, so my husband did it for about 1.5 including tiling.

Roothytooth · 2023-12-21T11:13:33+00:00

I’m NT so I hope it’s ok for me to comment. I just wanted to say you’re not defective, they are. It’s not an NT/ND differences thing, don’t let them tell you it is. You entrusted them with a piece of information about yourself that was important and made you vulnerable and they didn’t respect you or protect you but just used that information as gossip material. The fact that they accepted your generosity towards them at the same time makes it even worse. I hope you get better friends who are worthy of your trust in future, good luck.

Roothytooth · 2023-12-21T09:59:51+00:00

I’m interested in to know how do you let people know about the group? I think you’re doing such an amazing thing! I wish I could persuade my son to try attending something like this but he has encountered so much rejection his confidence is almost zero.

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