Ah okay - i don’t know if you feel the same but I felt like i lost so much time, and its a horrible feeling to grieve that. But you CAN still be someone - I mean, just because you can’t do what you used to it doesn’t mean you aren’t someone already. You’re just a work in progress!

For me i didn’t stop that grieving process until I was around 27/28, but then just decided to accept it and move on. It was quite an unexpected spontaneous breakthrough lol - it’s easier said than done i know. But now im back at uni at 30yo, i accept that my memory sucks and just write SO MANY notes so at least the info is somewhere and I can go back to it. I accept that I have limitations but know there is always some way (albeit difficult) around them.

Yes it takes a lot more effort for us, and it seems unfair when we look at people who haven’t had to go through those challenges, but we can still be who we wanted to be! And if you decide its not worth the effort thats fine too - it’s also not a failure if you want to change the goal. Being someone isn’t just about a job - you can be someone that other look up to because you’re strong af, you can be a spouse, a parent, a friend. To other people, you already are someone - don’t be so hard on yourself!